<p>So there's this girl, right? I like a her a lot (I've never had a crush on a girl quite like this), and I want to ask her to the prom. But I have no idea if she's interested in me at all, or even if we're friends. See, I don't really spend too much time around girls in general, so I have no idea how any of this works. We're either friends or casual acquaintances. I have secondhand knowledge that she thinks I'm really "smart" and "cool" (she communicated this to an adult interviewer with whom I also had an interview), but I have no idea whether she actually likes me or not, or whether she even meant what she said.</p>
<p>As a girl, I have to honestly say that it's probably hard for a guy to tell. Here's the most accurate way that I can describe how I act when I like a guy...
-When I'm far from him, I try to get as close to him as possible without actually approaching him. In fact, I probably ignore him until we're close enough for me to casually approach him (err, note that I'm always friends with these guys already, so it's not like I'm a creepy stalker or anything. Ha, ha.)
-Although I ignore him when we're talking to the same group of people, I always try to tell interesting stories or "be funny" so that he becomes interested in what I'm saying and joins our conversation (it usually works... hehehe.)
-If I see a friend talking to the guy, I always use this as an opportunity to talk to him.
-Once I do start talking to him, I concentrate only on him and really only try to talk to him. Does the girl always seem very interested in what you're saying or how you react to what she says?
-If we are together in a group, I always look for reasons to create jokes and connections between us (like starting a playful "rivalry" between me and the guy...)</p>
<p>Wow. Sorry, I guess that just goes to show how "annoying" girls are about showing their affection (ha, ha).</p>
<p>Basically, though, I would just go for her and ask her to prom. She probably likes you- maybe not in a "boyfriend"-"girlfriend" way, but she does probably like you. I don't think that she would turn you down. How much do you interact? Would you consider yourself to be a friend of the girl? I've never heard of a girl turning down a guy friend.</p>
<p>Yes, but if she's not interested in me, I don't want to ask her. I don't want her to feel obligated to say yes (if indeed, as Les says, friends can't turn down offers from other friends to go to proms), and I don't want to ask a semi-friend (if she is in fact that) who doesn't care for me in the least to the prom.</p>
<p>And, of course, asking her to the prom would immediately ruin whatever friendship we share (if she's not interested, that is). I don't want to have to be awkward around her for the rest of high school.</p>
<p>If you never ask, you'll never know, and you'll regret not knowing what could have been. </p>
<p>You can't ask only if you know she's interested (most of the time), life doesn't work that way.</p>
<p>You just have to let your juevos drop and go ask her(confidently!). And next time, don't get so attached to the girl to the point where you can make this giant post about her because it works against you; just ask her out.</p>
<p>And I say this with experience; my first major crush was just like this ( although a few years earlier) and I finally gt the courage to ask which ended in rejection because I did exactly what you are doing. But I have learned since then and have had much success.</p>
<p>I didn't mean that friends are obligated to say yes to friends, I meant that friends are happy to say yes to friends, because they know that they'll have a fun time with that person.</p>
<p>Guy here as it probably says over there <---------.</p>
<p>The best way to find out if she likes you is to try to find a girl friend of hers that you are pretty good friends with as well. Ask her what she thinks, she'll help you out. The best way to find out about a girl's brain is through another girl's brain...we guys are just at an innate disadvantage.</p>
<p>If it's a go, make sure you come up with a really good way to ask her...most guys...don't have much class. Do something cute; she'll appreciate it, even if it's kinda goofy.</p>
<p>Also, I went to Prom with a good friend last year, just as a friend, and she's still a great friend of mine, but nothing more. I don't think your friendship is in question at all; just be cool about it.</p>
<p>Definitely agree to having a mutual friend find out about her feelings for you.</p>
<p>But, really, unless she hates you, just ask her. If she asks "As friends or as a date?", be honest with her. Most girls will let you know if they're not interested pretty gently but honestly.</p>
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The best way to find out if she likes you is to try to find a girl friend of hers that you are pretty good friends with as well. Ask her what she thinks, she'll help you out. The best way to find out about a girl's brain is through another girl's brain...we guys are just at an innate disadvantage.
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<p>Terrible idea.</p>
<p>She could say yes, in which you'd win.
But she could say "i dont know", which sucks.
Or she could say "no", which would be devastating</p>
<p>AND she could tell said girl you like (you know how girls gossip so much), which would be catastrophic.</p>
<p>Option 2: just ask the girl you like, out. Even if she doesn't like u, she may say yes, and get to like you.</p>
<p>I've had this experience before. The most important thing is to either be committed in doing it or not doing it, and not waver in between. The "oh, i'll think about asking her out, not sure yet", never ends well.</p>
<p>BTW, the biggest sign she likes you: she talks to you just a little bit (not a lot, but not like none), and she stares at you. That's the gold right there.</p>
<p>blah. I stand by my original suggestion. I think talking to a mutual friend is much more of a sure fire way to find out about the girl in question. Plus, if this friend says no...that would be much less devastating than waiting to ask the other girl herself and then getting rejected....</p>
<p>Additionally...girl chat would not be catastrophic. First, if you just pick a good mutual friend, this wouldn't be a problem. Even though girls have this freaky, metaphysical bond thing, they wouldn't spoil your efforts to ask one of them to the Prom...rather, they'd encourage it; they like that kind of thing for the most part.</p>
<p>Ask a mutual girl friend. One that you trust.</p>
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<p>That basically describes what I do to her. </p>
<p>I don't notice her staring at me (though I don't really pay too much attention), but she is slightly shy around me, and definitely doesn't talk incessantly. This could, however, simply be a result of the fact that we're not close friends to begin with, although I have known her for a while.</p>
<p>Well, if she's anything like me, she'll act like a total dork around you if she likes you. If she's really chatty and comfortable and overall chill around you, that means she just thinks of you a a friend. On second thought, don't listen to me - I'm what we call "romance challenged".</p>
<p>You're probably only awake for about 360,000 minutes a year. Let's say the next 10 years are the peak of your life, where you're still able to talk to girls and go on dates. That makes it about 3,500,000 minutes left in your life where you can actually have some serious fun and go out with girls. Open up your calculator program and type that number in, and keep hitting the "-" key a bunch of times. You will realize how small that number is.
NOW GO TALK TO HER BEFORE YOU DIE!</p>