<p>Okay, here's some advice from the old man on this board who made every mistake in the book until I got to the point that I could meet women on the street of a city and ask them out.</p>
<p>First piece of advice:</p>
<p>List to Wxmnn. He's given you the best advice on this board so far, BY FAR. His Option 2 shows that he's a man of talent in these areas:</p>
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Terrible idea.</p>
<p>She could say yes, in which you'd win.
But she could say "i dont know", which sucks.
Or she could say "no", which would be devastating</p>
<p>AND she could tell said girl you like (you know how girls gossip so much), which would be catastrophic.</p>
<p>Option 2: just ask the girl you like, out. Even if she doesn't like u, she may say yes, and get to like you.</p>
<p>I've had this experience before. The most important thing is to either be committed in doing it or not doing it, and not waver in between. The "oh, i'll think about asking her out, not sure yet", never ends well.</p>
<p>BTW, the biggest sign she likes you: she talks to you just a little bit (not a lot, but not like none), and she stares at you. That's the gold right there.
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<p>This is pure, right, spot on. Some guys want to play it safe, so they wait for the sure sign that the girl likes them before they make the move. 1) It's boring. 2) There is a huge possibility that the girl doesn't necessarily like you as Wxmnn pointed out but if you aren't an arrogant jerk, but nonetheless cool and confident and fun and you put yourself out there that she'll come around. That's right: the burden is on you. You've got to put your neck out there. But I am not suggesting you put your neck out there by asking her if she likes you. That is by far the worst thing you can do. I am sorry; that completely kills romance 99% of the time for just the reasons that Wxmnn said. What you need to do is spend some time with her and be a little touchy feely, funny, nice, warm, but also cool, and devil-may-care. Work it slowly. Touch her arm when the moment is right when you are talking to her, etc. DO NOT ask her whether going to the prom is a date or is as friends -- just go with her. Just be cool and ask her "hey, I thought it would be fun to go to the prom together, what'd you think? We could go on our own or with some friends. I was thinking we'd go to such-and-such restaurant...." I think it'd be better if you went with a group of friends if you can.</p>
<p>Take control of that evening and make it fun. Know the restaurant you are going to. Know what's on the menu. Try to find out without being obvious what she likes. Don't grovel or be over-eager, just be fun. And be in command -- you've done it all before.</p>
<p>By the way, every day that you don't ask her it's more likely someone else will. Also, be very prepared that she's already been asked to the prom. Take it totally in stride, saying something joking like, "Oh, you've already been asked by someone else? Damn, that's awkward... I know it's going to be hard on the other guy when you tell him you've decided you really want to come with me instead. I hate to put you through that." Or some other bs. Just because you aren't going to the prom with her doesn't mean you can't hang out and have something possibly work out. Find out what she likes to do -- watch wrestling, cuddle with puppies, hang glide, whatever, and throw it out there.</p>
I treat all my guy friends and my crush the same… haha </p>