<p>I am a college Freshman. I hang out with a group of girls sometimes but they are all closer to each other than any of them are to me. I don't know why. I have tried getting involved I am a cheerleader but I have not clicked with any of my teammates. Am I the problem or am I just trying to make friends with the wrong people? I am friendly but I can be shy and nervous. I try and say hi to people and strike up conversations but nobody seems to want to talk to me. How do I make next semester better? I feel like most people already have their friends. I try to make plans but texts go unanswered and things get cancelled. I am not sure if I was super clear all of us met at the same time I just am not as close as they are. I did expect it to take time with my teammates Its just they are already super close with another two freshman and I feel like I am the problem but I don't know why. I am lonely all the time and am showing many signs of depression which I never had in HS. Can someone please help? Serious answers only please. </p>
<p>Okay, so sometimes in college finding your group of friends that you click with can be tough. It took me some time to find people I felt comfortable with and would include me in outings. It was hard but what really helped me was asking people in person to do things with me. For example, I would find a friend in my class and after would ask if they wanted to get lunch or dinner with me. Usually they would say sure and other times they would say no. You can’t take it personally and just say okay maybe another time. I think you should try exploring the clubs your school has to offer. I know you said you are a cheerleader, but maybe joining a specific club will help you find people to click with. It will also allow you to be with a small group of people who share your interests. Spend your winter break looking at clubs your school has to offer and pick three and commit to going to their meetings when you come back to school. Best of luck! </p>
<p>I didn’t make any friends my freshman year but I joined a few orgs my sophomore year and made at least 60 friends my first semester of sophomore year. It’s easiest to make friends if the org has social events and if their meetings involve interaction among members. Most universities have a list of all organizations online somewhere with descriptions and meeting times of each. If they don’t give the meeting time, you should be able to type the organization name into google along with your school name and something (maybe a website, twitter, or facebook) should come up and from there you will find information about how to join.</p>