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<p>If the divorce is recent, and it sounds like it might be, it may not be possible for OP’s parents to sit down together and rationally discuss or work out anything, let alone finances. Unless OP has the stats for free ride or large merit at a 4-yr, best bet may be to commute to a local JC for 2 yrs and then transfer into a UC, CSU, or private. Maybe in a couple of years things will have calmed down between parents, maybe dad will have a job, etc.</p>