<p>The mom has a high salary and also the Dad just received a large sum of money from the Mom. The problem here is not parental access to money. The problem isn’t whether college can be paid for, but who pays what share.</p>
<p>I could speculate that the mom resents the large sum she was obligated to give the Dad and wants him to share college costs fifty fifty, and, again, that emotional issues between parents rather than any real financial barriers are driving the problem and the original poster’s worries.</p>
<p>I suggest some kind of counseling/mediation concerning this issue, if the parents can be in the same room.</p>
<p>Was the 50/50 share of college costs written into the agreement? It is not legally required for any parent to pay for college, obviously, and the 50/50 may be the mom’s informal expectation rather than anything that has been written in stone. This puts it in the realm of relationship and emotion unfortunately.</p>
<p>Would your parents agree to a mediator for your sake, to discuss this, so that you can suffer less anxiety about college costs?</p>