<p>omg i know this is stupid. but i need some help. i have sats in 2 days and i cant concentrate at ALL.... </p>
<p>ok.. anyway, the ending first. i asked a junior girl out today. she was really hesistating and said "i dont know, but probably no... sorry." but this is not just one of those normal rejections.. and she is the first girl i asked out. b4 its always the other way around so i was really nervous about this.. and i thought she would say yes, that's why i asked..</p>
<p>this is how it got started.. ive noticed her a year ago and didnt really like her for real. i just wanted to know her better.... but then recently.. i found out that she likes me as well from her frd.. and i kinda knew from the way she acted around me and everything... but i still didnt really like her enough to ask her out. so i just thought me and her can be good frds and maybe ill ask her out if i know her better.... exactly a week ago, something happened that made me to really like her a lot.. and so i was debating whether or not to ask her out. so i did. after economics, she came up and just talked about school and we walked to her locker.. then i just said "hey ____, you wanna go out sometime, like to watch a movie or something?" then she got really confused and turned her back to me and said " i dont know" and blah blah "im kinda busy this weekend"... so anyway.. we emailed and she said she was really surprised that i asked her out.... </p>
<p>but really bugs me is.. i know she liked me, and i showed a bit that i kind of like her too, and i think she knows... but why would she want me to like her and still say "no" when i asked her out? that bugs me so much.. and its killing me .. i have sats and 2 100 mark eng projects due in the next week....</p>
<p>on last thurs, she did tell me that one of her best guy frds asked her out and she said no and that her "ex" asked her out again and she still think on and off she kind of liked him and there is something in him that she cant let go... but she said "no" b.c she thinks its too soon.. but she said they had problems b4 and they broke up b.c they both had "someone else" at the same time... and now her ex broke up with that girl and things are kinda weird btw them now....</p>
<p>is that the reason? gosh this is buggine me so much.... the only explanation i can think of is that her ex asked her out a few times and start to be really close to her and she still cant let go of him so she liked her more than me...
i know that her ex really likes her, i see them at school at times....</p>
<p>i dont want to sound corny.. but i cant really tell this to ppl at school b/c she is in a grade lower and not many ppl in my grade knows her and knows about this.... thx guys... i posted it here cuz many of you know me well.</p>
<p>i know it does.. but this is the first time somethign like this happened to me and its just sooo hard to get over.... ive went out with girls b4.. but somehow, this is just soo different and untypical.... i apologize if that annoyed you.. i just had to say that to someone to vent..</p>
<p>maybe she just doesnt want to go out with anyone right now. or maybe its just this week. i think that instead of asking us, or asking her friends, you should just ask her. its really not so bad.</p>
<p>i REALLY REALLY want to.. i dont know how i can bring up the subject and ask her why she said "no" . it might seems tooooo awkward if i ask her that.</p>
<p>and how would you deal with this at the PRESENT moment with sats in 2 days..</p>
<p>Man, I'm sorry. That's a tough situation. I bet she really does like you, but honestly feels its too soon. Why dont you write her an e-mail or letter and just be like "hey, I really do like you, blah blah blah, hopefully we can work something out when you feel you're ready."</p>
<p>:( I've liked this one kid in my class for 4 years. And he used to be VERY flirtatious with me and really nice to me. Then when I told him how I felt...he decided to get all macho. Ugh. Maybe he'll come out in college, where people arent afraid to come out. Oh well.</p>
<p>Good luck princetonwannabe!!! Maybe you can woo her with chocolates or something? Valentines day is coming up. How about writing her a letter, but filling in the blanks with those littly candy hearts that say like "Call me," and "I love you," and "You're sweet," etc. And just ask her that even if she doesn't feel ready to date, if she'd be your valentine. Awwww. Do it!</p>
<p>I don't think that it is a good idea to get her tons of flowers and all. Dont act like you are obsessed with her (even if you are ;)) - there is a good chance that she will be scared off. This situation has come up a lot among friends in the past month (including almost the exact same situation last week). Just talk to her. Let her know that it's ok if she's not ready yet, (or however you feel about it). It's worked miracles for others before. Besides, I think that it's your only viable option. Good luck man. We're here for you if you need any support.</p>
<p>The best plan of action is to play it cool and be nonchalant. If you start like stalking her, she'll think you're some kind of freak. She made it clear to you that she doesn't want to go out with any guy right now, so don't push her. Give it some time, go watch some TV, study for the SATs and try again later. Best of luck =)</p>
<p>Temporarily convince yourself of something that will make you feel good about the whole thing: i.e. she likes you a lot and is just biding her time. For now, the validity of this scenario doesnt matter, you just need to make it through until sats. After that and your english papers are finished you can tune back into the nuances of your little drama.
The sats, by the way, aren't as fragile as people imagine; I gave blood and found out my friend got in a car accident, all the day before I took them, and did better than I expected.</p>
<p>I just read my first reading for my Anthropology of Romance class... it sounds to me like you have a bad case of limerence. Don't worry, it fades naturally after 3 years. ;)</p>
<p>"and said "i dont know, but probably no... sorry"</p>
<p>Here's my piece of advice. please don't flame me. seriously dont. if you dont like my advice, here's a warning, don't read it. </p>
<p>Ditch her. you don't need her. not only are you smarter than her, you are bigger, badder, meaner, and better-looking that she is. Think of it as her loss for her not going out with YOU instead of the other way around. Then, ask out her friend, assuming you have some rapport with her. Call her a few times, go on a few dates. Sweep her off her feet. Then completely ignore your first crush. then completely FORGET about her. Now... what are the pluses of this situation?</p>
<p>Positives
1. You have a girlfriend.
2. The girl you liked before now likes you.
3. You don't like her anymore. REVENGE! MWAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!</p>
<p>Cons:
1. you have no ethics in dealing with relationships.
2. you're a jackass</p>
<p>Neutral:
1. It's High school, you're a senior (aren't you?), 2nd semester is almost over, and its almost over. forgeddaboutit.</p>
<p>Ahhh, relationship manipulation. it's like shaping clay or play-doh.</p>
<p>are your SATs important or just a final fling sort of thing (I'll get whatever I get and fly with it)? I'm going to second Hobbes. You like her but she said no. Someone who you've known for a while is not going to become your whole life in the span of a week. I think it's more the rejection than the girl...and you already have an explanation (the ex) for the rejection. Take the test and just consider her a friend. You've already made the first move...it's her turn.</p>
<p>maybe she's looking at a bigger picture (i.e. you'll only be at your school until you go to college... whilst she has another year at the high school)</p>
<p>I have two sons and I have seen this happen to both of them several times. These girls are all over them, calling them, flirting with them, begging them to notice. Then the boy asks them out and they say, "No". I dont' understand girls and I was one once.</p>
<p>My advice is to study for you SAT's so you can go to Princeton and meet a really hot girl who wants to go out with you..</p>