<p>Now, this is assuming that I get into one of my transfer choices and am able to attend the school financially and everything, but when that time comes and I've made up my mind, how the heck do I tell my friends here that I'm transferring? I have told my old best best friends, but my friends here at my current school don't know anything about my intentions to transfer. So come may or whenever the decisions are made and my decision is made, how do I tell these people I am leaving them and going somewhere else? They are great people and I want to continue being friends with them, and I certainly don't want to hurt them, but it's just going to so be hard to tell them I'm leaving and I don't know what i'm going to say. I can't tell them now, because I'm not sure what will happen yet, but then in April we're going to be talking about sharing an apartment and making various plans, and I don't know what I'll do then. A little advice would be good!</p>
<p>I just went through this. I told a few people at first, people I'm semi but not really close to. I actually avoided flat out telling the person I wanted to tell the most because I knew it'd be very hard for me. I think you should just tell them, explain to them that even though you're leaving you still really would like to keep their friendship. I told that to the one person that will be hard for me to leave, and we've agreed that even though I'm away at another school, we can still maintain a friendship. Trust me: I know exactly how you feel. I almost started to cry when I finally saw the person and he knew from other people telling him. Just be straightforward. I think that's the best route to go.</p>
<p>Good luck with your transfer and with telling your friends!</p>
<p>Remember, if they're really good people, they'll want to continue to be in your life. :)</p>
<p>um, in beginning, ppl knew i was unsatisifed as I chose a school over a few other great ones, and ppl were aware of it, but i let it go since, and i haven;t told ppl at my school that i am transfering, only a couple of my friends back home know, and that is the way i intend it to stay.</p>
<p>bball, have you yet visited Chicago or the other schools you're checking out? Are you sure you'll like them better than Cornell based on the reasons you want to transfer? I really don't think 30-so point difference on the SATs is going to make a big difference in the caliber of the student bodies. Now if you're interested in transferring to be in a city, or for specific course offerings, that makes more sense... Visit the schools before you get so set on transferring being your best option.</p>
<p>thanks polka, that made me feel a lot better. where are you at now, and where did you transfer from?</p>
<p>In my situation, they kind of already knew I was miserable here. Actually, most my friends hate it here too, but they're not thinking about transferring. Anyway, I just explained my reasons behind it (without being too obnoxious about the school since they obviously will continue going here), told them it had nothing to do with them, etc... I haven't lost any friends over it. They've all been very supportive, and while they tell me they'll miss me, they want me to be happy. It's hard, but in the end I'm so glad I told them sooner (like as soon as I started applying places) than later. It gave them time to get used to the idea, and it provided me with a lot of support, which was great to have during the whole process.</p>
<p>i'm going through the same thing right now too! i'm transferring from a community college to a UC this january. i had applied in august & was doubting i'd get in so i didn't really tell many people i was applying since i didn't want to be devastated if i didn't get in & have to tell them so to only let them feel sorry for me & make me even more saddened. plus, most of my friends here at home are not as ambitious as i am about school so i didn't think it would be a big deal. i should've told them sooner though! now we're all just super bummed about me leaving when it's only 4 hours away! of course, they're happy for me & supportive but it's just so depressing. ah, i miss my friends already just writing this!</p>
<p>It's kind of weird for me. I don't really have any real solid friends here, maybe it's because I'm a commuter and I don't live in the dorms or whatever, but I don't think I have to tell anyone I want to transfer. Some of my friends from high school (back home) know, and I like it that way, because they're the ones I trust most. I don't really fit in here anyway, and I'm not tight with anyone here really, so I don't really think I'll tell anyone. I'm doing well in school so nothing else matters. Assuming I get into a school which I want to transfer, I'll never look back.</p>
<p>My advice: only tell close friends until the end of the year. My close friends were very supportive -- and in fact my best friend transferred out at the same time I did -- but I got some very negative reactions from acquaintances when I talked about applying. I was shocked by how strongly people reacted. If I had to do it over, I'd keep it to myself until it was actually time to go.</p>
<p>i agree with Hanna, ppl are very weird with this whole thing, if u tell them, trust me they will act differently around u as they don't want to waste their time as they know u will be gone, i dont tell anyone that i am like 95 percent leaving, some knew in the beginning i was unhappy and was thinking about, but i haven't mentioned the word transfer at all, although a few have asked me about it, and i deny it</p>
<p>"trust me they will act differently around u as they don't want to waste their time as they know u will be gone."</p>
<p>well, i'm being completely smoothered by my friends right now. they all want to hang out as much as possible before i leave & i love them for that. it just sad that there's not enough time since i'm still so busy with school. i'd say it just depends on your quality of friends.</p>
<p>i cant read this without crackers.</p>
<p>yeah it makes me hungry too :(</p>
<p>Whoever I talk to in my school wants to transfer any way so I guess that makes it easier. From day one, it was like "well, I originally wanted to go to _____" which evolved to "yeah I might transfer there" to "I cant wait to transfer".</p>
<p>bball, that's because you have the most retarded reasons for wanting to transfer. Everybody here would laugh in your face and call you a moron. Posting a while back that you're dissapointed with Cornell's average SAT score and thinking of transfering "because of this very issue" wasn't the smartest idea either. Good luck with the applications though. Your are depriving a University somewhere of an idiot.</p>