<p>So, I know most kids my age are perfectly happy to move out and go to college, but I am having mixed emotions. I originally planned to go to university and live with my mom (primarily to save money), but she just moved to another state and is making me stay on campus. Granted that she doesn't live far and I'll stay with her over breaks, yet I have to tell myself that I'm an adult and going out into the real world.</p>
<p>Don't laugh at me, but how do you guys cope with moving out? lol It's all just rather scary and happening so soon (in a week)!</p>
<p>It’s something you just adapt to. You meet people, get to know them, and start making a life beyond your house. It ain’t easy, not by a longshot. You’ve spent the last 17 or 18 years of your life with these people and suddenly you’re not around them as much. But the way to cope is to just start your new life. Talk to folks, join clubs, get involved. Your parents went through the same thing at some point in their lives.</p>
<p>I’m a parent and it’s not as easy and we let on for us to sometimes. I know that the experiences my daughter will gain by being on campus will far outway any “bad moments” she may have. (She also wants to be on campus)</p>
<p>Contact the facebook page for the school you are going to go to and start making friends that will be there now before you move in. Look at the clubs they have listed and find a few you might like to try or just check out. This is the one time that you can try new stuff that may not be available to you as an adult.</p>
<p>Remember that the learning experience is the most important part and if you “bomb out” in the education then the fun wasn’t worth it. Keep that formost in your mind.</p>
<p>Get an on campus job …you’ll be seeing a lot of students that way and make friends that way too. Bake and take cookies with you that first day for a great way to open up conversations with others (almost everyone likes sweets). </p>
<p>Have confidence in yourself and really jump in with getting involved with stuff. Your mom must have a lot of faith in you too , or she wouldn’t decide for you to stay there. Take one day at a time and enjoy it.</p>
<p>Ask your mom to sit down with you and go over things you might be worried about or questioning. Do you have a checking account set up near your college? If you don’t know how, ask her to go over the process for balancing a checkbook every month or so. You have relied on your mom for many years, so, yeah, if you haven’t had to do much for yourself, this is the time to start learning. What else are you wondering about? Laundry? How much to tip at restaurants? Buying things for your dorm room? What worries you the most about being on your own? For some of our parents, they went immediately from the family home to being married, and never were really “on their own”. For others, they were forced out on their own, maybe even before they were really ready, and somehow figured it out. Moving to college is not like you are just being forced out. I’m sure your mom will be available by phone or Skype, etc, whenever you have a concern or question, or just want to chat. But, also be sure that you take the time to call her when everything is fine and you are happy…let her know how much you have appreciated the fact that she raised you and has given you skills to manage life! So many kids have parents that won’t allow them to live on campus, etc. Be proud that your mom has confidence in you to be fine!</p>
<p>You are not in the real world yet, you’re in college. You’re still somewhat “babied” not as much as high school but there is a big difference between college life and after college in the real world.</p>
<p>My friend is a total homebody and she went home probably once every two-three weeks. WE live an hour and a half away from school, so it was definitely a drive. I never really could understand why she’d want to go home so much, but that’s what she did.</p>
<p>I don’t like going home very often, but I love my parents and I definitely call and/or skype my parents on a daily basis. Sometimes I’ll even talk to them two or three times. I even called them while walking from class to class sometimes. If it was at night and I was walking back to my dorm alone, I’d call my parents. I think that helped me not miss home so much.</p>
<p>I think having a lot of communication with my parents is helpful. It makes me not be afraid to ask them for money if I ever need it. (Like I’m not just calling them whenever I need money.) It also is nice to have a outside view point. If I had a rough day, I can tell my parents about it. If I didn’t get along with one of my friends, I can tell my parents and not worry about it getting back to that friend.</p>
<p>I’ll be two hours away from home this fall. I will be living on my own for the first time and doing everything that a normal college student does without his family. Also, there’s the added independence of not having a roommate. </p>
<p>I talked to my dad for a few hours and he told me it was scary at first, but I’d get used to it. I generally believe most of the things he says are right. I don’t think it’ll be that scary once I get settled in and get the swing of things. I’ll definitely know the value of the dollar, though. </p>
<p>Honestly, I’ll give them a call every once in a while when things are slow. I have to pay my own bills, do my own cleaning, make the commute and do everything I need to by myself. If I have money issues, they’ll lend me money. But I am going to get a job after my first semester so I can hopefully rely on them less for financial support.</p>
<p>My parents don’t really know how to approach education other than giving me money. They didn’t go to college and I am the first ever. So, I hope to set the bar pretty high and hopefully be an example to my relatives that it is definitely possible to get a college education during life.</p>
<p>It’s a big change, feels weird at first, then you just get used to it without noticing. I ended up being much more uncomfortable moving out of the dorm at the end of the year than I was leaving my parents’ house, and prefer living at my university now.</p>
<p>I’ve gone to boarding school for my last three years of high school and It was really tough the whole entire first year. I even went home on most weekends and still can’t get over how long it took me and how homesick I got! Not to scare you, but moving away from home is harder for some than others. I leave for college tomorrow (a lot farther away from home than my boarding school was) and I am so nervous I’m almost sick! But you know what, that’s just the way it is. It’s nothing to be ashamed of. It’s how I’m structured. Who knows, you may leave this coming week and never look back. You may leave and all you will be able to think about is calling your parents to pick you up. In all honesty and the harsh truth, is that you just have to keep moving on day by day in order to show yourself how strong you are. Moving away is part of growing up, and college is the perfect time to do it. I don’t know, I could be wrong but all of this is what I tell myself so that I stay strong. Hang in there and if you do end up having trouble don’t call home, instead go out and talk to someone you met in your dorm. Hell, if someone else is homesick there, talk to them about it because as weird as that sounds it helps so much. Good luck!</p>
<p>I’ll be a thousand miles away from home this fall. You just accept it as a fact of life that you can’t change and adapt. You get involved in campus community and the campus becomes like your family. After a few years, I reckon campus will feel like home and it will be hard to leave it!</p>