<p>The fact that I'm posting this on CC just shows how desperate I am.</p>
<p>I dated this guy for 20 months exactly. He had an abusive father and a rough childhood, but he seemed fine. In fact, I was the one who had depression, so I felt like I was the messed up one.</p>
<p>But my depression went away in November 2011, and all was well until we broke up. He was a year ahead of me so he went to college, and I realized how happy I was being single. So we broke up, and it was mutual. But then he started going crazy. He dropped out of college, went to massage school (?), became extremely "spiritual" in a creepy way...like he would post weird statuses on FB saying things like "Dear world, everything is the sun. From, bliss." I know for a fact he wasn't on drugs. But then things got weirder...when he saw a boy post on my FB wall, he messaged me and told me he was going to kill the boy. I asked why and he said "I don't know, I'm just a guy who wants to kill his mom." I deleted him because it freaked me out.</p>
<p>Now he texts me all the time saying very scary things that he wants to do to me. I have pretty bad anxiety so I think about it all the time, and I'm too afraid to date another boy. I told him I'm not going to talk to him anymore, but now he texts me and calls me 3 times a day and says in his texts (which I don't respond to) that he is going to commit suicide. He keeps telling people on FB he was kidnapped and sexually abused (which is an exaggeration/outright lie, I know what he is referring to), and they are all contacting me trying to figure it out. I can't take it anymore. My own family is messed up as it is.</p>
<p>He's in the hospital now, but he's still contacting me. I want to make it stop, but I feel too guilty to ignore him in his time of need. I have no idea what to do. I hate him so much. I just want to go to college and join a sorority and find a new boy and never think about my ex again. What do I do?</p>
<p>Honestly? I would change my number if I were you, despite how much of a hassle it is, because, given his mental state and attitude/actions toward you, he isn’t a good person for you to associate with, for your own health and sanity. I would also delete him off of Facebook again and block him. I understand that you care about him and that you’re worried about him… but sometimes you need to worry about yourself, too. You can’t help him; that’s why he’s in the hospital (although I realize that sometimes they aren’t too helpful either). Does your ex have any friends he can go to? I’m sorry that you’re stuck in such a tough situation; I’ve never been affected by it directly, but have experienced it indirectly. Drop me a PM if you need to talk more or vent or anything you like.</p>
<p>Thanks for the supportive response, at the very least. Unfortunately, he doesn’t really have any friends anymore that he can turn to, and I wouldn’t want his friends having to deal with him anyway.</p>
<p>I know it is best if I don’t talk to him, but guilt sometimes makes me think otherwise.</p>
<p>You need to talk to your parents or a guidance counselor at school about this right away. Then you need to report this to the police. You may need to get a restraining order. This is EXACTLY how some of those scary things you read about in the paper get started. You need to worry more about keeping yourself safe than anything else right now (including whether he will overreact/harm himself). This information could help with his treatment, and you need to be sure you are safe. This is not something a high school senior should be handling on her own.</p>
<p>I agree that you need to talk to your parents about this, and the police. Someone should let his parents and his counselors/psychiatrists, whatever, know, and though you will have to be involved, you should be with some one experienced with this, like the police or other authority. This information is important in his treatment, I agree with Intparent. If one of my kids were in this situation I would want to know and want his treatment team to know so this can be addressed. Do not keep this to yourself whether you are a high schooler and underage or a legal adult. This needs to be brought out and addressed.</p>
<p>He may have suffered a mental break from reality and/or developed schizophrenia. He is about the right age. You cannot handle this alone. Block his number from calling/texting you which is free from your wireless carrier and block him from FB ( not just unfriend him) and cut all ties. Report your concerns to someone who can help him, but stay clear. (And safe)</p>
Unfortunately, he doesn’t really have any friends anymore that he can turn to, and I wouldn’t want his friends having to deal with him anyway.</p>