<p>This is not another troll thread, please.</p>
<p>The girl I've always liked came out of a relationship today. I just knew her this school year, but she says I'm one of the top 6 people she likes. Her relationship with the ex was almost nonexistent, as they never hang together and she admits she doesn't like him that much afterward. Would it be a good time for me to say it? And how?</p>
<p>If it feels acceptable now (or in a few days), that seems fine to me. As for the method, verbal communication is often the clearest; gestures can be misinterpreted or lead to labels of insanity.</p>
<p>Verbal communication? I want it to be thru chat tho…
by the way, how’s the college admission process, turtle?</p>
<p>Don’t do it through Facebook, IM (haha does anybody even use that?), or texting. Feel free tO talk to her through those things, but not telling her you like her.
You said she just got out of the relationship? I wouldn’t recommend going for it NOW, because right after a breakup is like the worst time. But you should def start flirting with her to get past the “friend” stage so that you can easily ask her out after some time</p>
<p>She might need some time… Depends on the situation. Just stay on her good graces and when you think it’s appropriate ask her out on a date. Don’t awkwardly tell her you like her or ask her to be your girlfriend. That’s bizzare. Ask her on a date to do something fun. She’ll probably say yes. Bonus points if you ask her in person and not over fb or text. Just make sure you say date if you are already friends or she’ll think you’re just hanging out.</p>
<p>I’d say the wait-time is shorter if she broke up with him/it was mutual, and longer if he broke up with her.</p>
<p>I agree with others: Do it in person. Bdangle is right; you should flirt with her first, but I also don’t think there’s anything wrong with saying it upfront. If she says you’re in her “top 6,” you must be fairly close, which means she probably has some inkling that you think good things about her. There’s really nothing wrong with saying in conversation, “Y’know, I really like you.” See how she responds and you can spin it into an “as friends thing” if necessary, or just ask her out accordingly.</p>
<p>hold on…
So yall never say that thing thru fb chat? Back in my country (I’m not there anymore), people would confess love thru chat…
Actually I asked her to “hang out” with a group of both our friends before Christmas. She said yes, but never went.</p>
<p>Haha wow thanks ^ i completely forgot to say that. Yeah don’t tell her you like her just ask her on a date. After that it’ll just be implied that you like her</p>
<p>how do you ask her on a date. Like, “would you like to go on a date with me?”</p>
<p>My advice… Grow a pair</p>
<p>no ■■■■■, Yank</p>
<p>^ Not ■■■■■■■■… Seriously man up and tell her outright. It worked for me</p>
<p>“I really like you.”</p>
<p>OR</p>
<p>“Would you like to go out (insert date, time, activity, etc here)?”</p>
<p>I’m afraid it may make me look creepy.</p>
<p>talk to her. in person.</p>
<p>Sorry kingcat my ^ was referring to qdawg. And no…you don’t say that. Say, “hey, what are you doing tonight?” if she’s not busy, ask her if she wants to go to the movies/school sports game/out to eat with you. You don’t even have to say it’s a date. It’s easy I ask a bunch of my girl friends all the time just as friends, not even trying to date them. It isn’t difficult; if you’re just talking to her in normal conversation and there’s an “awkward silence” just ask her if she’s free then.
Once you get a string of dates going and it all seems good, just ask her if you two are officially dating or not. Straight up, ask (with an awkwardly funny laugh) “so, are we an official couple yet?” something like that would make her laugh and say yes. If she asks you what you think, don’t freak: she’s just playin with you, say “yeah.”</p>
<p>Why would it make you look creepy? Asking on Facebook would be creepy, not in person.</p>
<p>^ true dat</p>
<p>Asking on a date: not creepy. </p>
<p>Saying “I really like you, as more than a friend”: maybe not creepy but certainly juvinille. </p>
<p>Doing anything over chat: pathetic. If you really like her, she’s worth the risk of rejection.</p>
<p>At least, that’s how I feel. I prefer guys that ask me out on a casual date and don’t expect too much to the ones that confess admiration over chat. If you can’t do it in person, over a phone CALL is an acceptable and respectable substitute.</p>
<p>Well if you are already out with him/her (like on a date), then saying “I really like you” is just like a lead-in to asking for an exclusive-ish relationship, and isn’t exactly juvenile. I would still prefer the relationship to be formed for tacitly, but it works.</p>