<p>When I volunteered at S2’s elem school, I was “Mrs. S2’s mom.” I hyphenate, but an not fanatical about what I am called. </p>
<p>I actually had to ask my new DIL what she preferred to be called – her nickname that we have always known her by is a mash-up of her last name, but everyone else in her family calls her by her first name. Happily, I had guessed correctly, but I was glad to have clarified (and told her I answered to anything, including “hey you!”).</p>
<p>When referring to our neighbors when talking to my kids, I still refer to them as Mrs./Mrs. Lastname. Last names are still big in the south where my family lives, as they were in the midwest when I was growing up.</p>
<p>IIRCS, Quakers are not big into honorifics and teachers are generally addressed by their their first names.</p>