<p>Do you just talk to someone and just become friends or meet them in clubs or what??? Is it pretty easy to make friends, or does it take a while/ and is it hard to make friends in college????</p>
<p>I hope to be good friends w/my roomie(s) and a lot of the people that are in my classes.....How did you guys make friends?</p>
<p>well, I think I'd reverse some of your expectations. </p>
<p>Its great if you become good friends with your roomate, and this often does happen. But its no big deal if it doesn't; the U hasn't picked this person because it thinks in its wisdom that you are destined to get along; by and large it needs to place everyone in housing and matches together 2 people who's app doesn't show they are obviously incompatible (eg smoker and non-smoker). In the end all that matters is that you are able to share a space with a stranger and respect each other. If it ends up being a good friendship that's great, of course, but I wouldn't advise going into it with the expectation (as opposed to the hope) that it works out that way.</p>
<p>Ditto for the people in class, depending on where you go. At many larger U's people are rushing to/from class and the intro years are often classes in the hundreds. You may get to know people in the maelstrom, but it isn't the best way.</p>
<p>The best way is what you first mentioned; start doing things you enjoy and be open to meeting new people. Approach them, just like you want them to approach you. At the start of the year everyone's in the same boat, knowing few people, and almost everyone is seeking to meet new people. So talk to the people on your dorm floor, random strangers sitting by you at meals, and so on. Most dorms plan mixers and events for people to meet, so go to them instead of sitting on the computer :-) And remember, too, that part of the purpose of college is to widen your horizons so be open to meeting people even if they are different from the crowd you hung out with back in HS.</p>
<p>Thats interesting.</p>
<p>I think at the end of the day, it depends on the type of person YOU are. I have seen people just start talking to the person sitting next to them in class and quickly become friends.</p>
<p>There are those networkers who become fast friends with everyone on their floor or building.</p>
<p>Some people can approach someone in the union.</p>
<p>Myself, I am far too shy, and began my foray into friend-making with fraternity rush. While pledging is not neccessary, rush is in itself a great opportunity to meet new friends. I am in a fraternity, but have friends in other fraternities that I met at rush. </p>
<p>For me, clubs are where I have met almost all of the friends of have. Any sort of extracurricular organization (particularly smaller ones) tend to invite a lot of bonding and friendship. Just my 2 cents...</p>
<p>common interest = friends</p>
<p>i can seriously say that i know more people from the extracurriculars and clubs that i join than from my classes. i go to a big U so its tough to make friends in a large lecture hall. but its easy to start finding friends by going to clubs that you're interested in, as the members there have the same interests as you do.</p>
<p>I am highly social and try to get to know people. This started during December the year before I came to college. I decided that whenever I went to a college event I would talk to someone new. This especially worked at orientation. Whenever I went into a new room, I talked to a new person. People won't think you're strange because they have no one to talk to and would usually rather talk to someone than no one. So use this same tactic and you will meet a ton of people and you will stand out for being one of the few people that people may recognize because they probably didn't try to meet anyone at orientation and will remember you b/c you talked to them.</p>
<p>I meet people the most in this order: class, through friends, parties, organizations, and jobs. I actually have so many friends that my close friends make fun of me. They make counts of how many people I say hi to or the fact that I just go down to eat by myself b/c I know I will find someone I know eating there. I am just a really friendly person (and I guess I make people laugh, that helps too) and like talking to people. </p>
<p>Especially the first few weeks just talk to people, especially in your dorm and major for study groups and people to eat and party with. Especially because in your first few weeks people will be more willing to talk to random strangers because they want just what you do: new friends. I am planning on rushing to next semester myself. That is another really good way to meet people even if you don't end up joining.</p>
<p>It's very difficult to make friends in a new place, but I'm sure you'll have no problem getting through the ordeal after listening to some highly personalized advice from anonymous internet users.</p>
<p>I'm a VERY talkative and sociable person, and I am NOT shy at all...I can walk up to a stranger and start a conversation....this is probably why like the entire school knows who I am.... lol.......</p>
<p>neelesh: then why are you worried about making friends?</p>
<p>For some reason social people always are the most worried. Then you realize you have a lot of friends and then everything is just how you wanted. That sounds stupid but at least I was a little worried. But by orientation I really wasn't, to tell the truth. Maybe it's a lack of confidence?</p>
<p>It's very easy to make friends during your freshman year because everyone's looking to make friends around that time. However, I've found that I've made significantly less friends this year (my sophomore year). Everyone's pretty much formed their own social circle by this point. However, your ability to make friends will often depend on the type of person you are.</p>