<p>So far, the contact I've had with my two future roommates has been horrible and I was wondering what kind of chances I would have to switch roommates if I run into any types of problems early on.</p>
<p>What happened?</p>
<p>Wow, it's only been a few hours. Try to work it out.</p>
<p>The contact we've had has been horrible because it truely hasn't happened yet! I know I'm being impatient but for now I just want to know what options I have if their real-life personas are as it seems on their online personal profiles.</p>
<p>LOL</p>
<p>at least you know who you got</p>
<p>clapyourfeet, it's possible to change roommates if you find someone else willing to switch with you.</p>
<p>you learn a lot by dealing with roommates, however.</p>
<p>chill out dude..</p>
<p>Uhm....</p>
<p>You say you haven't yet been in contact with your two new roommates, but you already want to switch? I think you need to calm down - especially considering that roommate info hasn't even been up for very long. Perhaps your new roommates haven't had the chance to check their e-mails. The summer is, after all, coming to an end, and new incoming students have a lot to plan and pack before they head up to a new school. Don't jump to conclusions. Switching roommates now would only work if you submit a form to change your housing assignment (which is sometimes tricky and difficult), or finding someone you know that would be willing to swap with you. My advice would be to wait a few days. </p>
<p>There are all kinds of reasons your new roommates haven't answered you yet. Look, I didn't get in contact with my dorm roommate until the day I walked in the door, and she turned out to be amazing; we became very, very close friends.</p>
<p><3,</p>
<p>Izzie Bear</p>
<p>hey what kinda roomates you got? are you guy in a triple?</p>
<p>Yeah i agree with just about everyone on this thread. You need to wait to see if you actually like them. My gf didnt get into contact with one of her roomates, and now they are going to be roomates again next year. The roomate that she actually did get into contact with, was horrible. So hang in there.</p>
<p>hey guys, not to prolong this thread but I need some positive advice....</p>
<p>what if your new roommate is of a different sexual orientation? My son is sick in the hospital, but he had me look up his roommate info (I have not told him yet). This person stated his sexual orientation. As a mom, I am uncomfortable with this. If the college wont let girls and guys room together, then this policy should apply to this situation.</p>
<p>Before anyone says that I am prejudice, I am not. My brother and good friends are not heterosexual. But my son is, and I think it would be an uncomfortable situation to share a bedroom.</p>
<p>What are your thoughts on this issue? </p>
<p>Mom of frozenrope</p>
<p>Frozenrope, let me get this straight: so, you're saying that the university should have policy to put all homosexual individuals in rooms by themselves without roommates because it would be uncomfortable for the heterosexual individuals? ... right.
First of all, just because the roommate is gay doesn't mean he will sexually harass your son day and night (emphasis on night, maybe). I do believe gay men have restraint as well and are able to bond with and befriend... GASP... straight men without... GASP... doting on them. Just let your son experience, first hand, diversity. I understand that you said that he has gay friends (or, "not straight," as you say), but he hadn't had to share a room with a gay man before. It might be an enlightening experience beyond just having gay friends. But besides all this, consider the gay individual as well: should he be segregated and victimized by official university policy and put in another room because you think (without basis, of course) that he cannot control his lust for your son? I don't think he should, but maybe you're just rotten and malignant like that.</p>
<p>this is frozenropes mom...</p>
<p>I certainly do not think my post was rotten or stated that gay men cannot control their lust...I read my post 5 times and I do not see that implied at all...all I said was the word "uncomfortable"</p>
<p>I knew I should not have posted this as it would initiate some mean responses...</p>
<p>If my post offended anyone then I am sorry. It was not meant to offend...I was just stating my concerns as a mom...</p>
<p>this is not frozenrope - this is his mom....</p>
<p>My straight friend has a gay roomate...he and his roomate have agreed to no sex in the room.</p>
<p>I am in the same situation. My roommate is bisexual. I don't have a problem with it, but I still have some apprehensions about sharing a room with a bisexual person. I'm sure I'll get over it, just like your son will, frozenrope.</p>
<p>Frozenrope, I might have been overwhelmed and overwrought when I wrote my last post. I apologize for attacking you personally. Anyhow, so I retract what I said about you definitely seeing gay men as not able to control their lust. But, I would like to re-emphasize my most important argument: official university policy should not ostracize and mistreat the gay man and sequester him just because he may make others "uncomfortable." He is definitely not at fault if others are disobliging.
Still, your original post did almost make it seem like you feared that your son's roommate will ravish your son or something. But, maybe I was reading between the lines about that. I still hold on to my argument above, nonetheless.</p>
<p>This happened to my then-fiance's sister back in the '80s at her college. She found out in Oct/Nov that her roommate liked girls and moved out ASAP.</p>
<p>Giacomo, thanks...once again I did not mean to offend you or anyone...My son does not even know of his roommate situation yet....</p>
<p>I am just going to step back and let him deal with any issues that arise...</p>
<p>I agree that there should never be a policy to mistreat or alienate gay men or anyone for that matter. Everyone should be treated equal...but my point was that they (Cal) obviously have a policy of men and women not rooming together...the reasons for this policy does not seem valid anymore...</p>
<p>Once again, I am sorry if I offended you...I am new at this letting go thing. </p>
<p>mom</p>
<p>"obviously have a policy of men and women not rooming together...the reasons for this policy does not seem valid anymore..."</p>
<p>I don't think the policy was designed to stop relationships from forming; otherwise they wouldn't put men and women on the same floor. I think it's the simple fact that babies are expensive to the school (since the school provides health insurance) and could hamper a student’s success.</p>