<p>Mine are pretty hands-off. If I ask for something, like help with an essay or suggestions for classes, they’ll come through but only after I’ve done my own research. I know they’re not the types to prowl around on cc or sign me up for an SAT class on their own, and there are times when I wish they were actually more pushy, but overall I love it. They give me a lot of independence while still being supportive, and it’ll be the same way in college.</p>
<p>Very.</p>
<p>Any A-minuses and I’m going to get lectured. One of the reasons I want to get a full ride, or go to an inexpensive school, is that the parental pressure won’t be as intense.</p>
<p>My mom is literally a helicopter. She’s more stressed about my grades than I am. It’s not that I don’t care about my grades. I definitely do. I maintain A’s (except for like one B). It’s just that if I stressed as much as she does, I wouldn’t be able to function.
My dad on the other hand trusts me enough to know that I am doing my best and he doesn’t have to worry. His philosophy is to give me freedom trusting that I will use it responsibly. He does get mad if I get a bad grade, but all parents do that.</p>
<p>My parents weren’t involved in my schoolwork. They cared that I get good grades but they kind of just sat back and let me figure out my own way of getting there. I think it’s a good thing 'cause I end up managing myself pretty easily in college and I like that I don’t have to answer to anyone.</p>
<p>What’s your idea of ‘helicopter’? (Lol, or is that just proof I have helicopter parents?)</p>
<p>No, seriously, I only live with my mom. She’s an immigrant. I know not all immigrant parents push their kids, but most really do. She’s not very up-to-date with the American school system, so AP vs. honors vs. CP is confusing to her. She doesn’t even understand my class schedule. I just give her a vague idea of what they are and she just says I have to be in at least all honors classes, and a few AP’s (especially math and science). She really stresses playing sports and every other extracurricular she puts in my hands but tells me to try things out anyways. </p>
<p>Being a single mother + in the middle of getting her MBA, I don’t think it’s possible for her to literally helicopter me. I do my homework myself, study, hand in assignments, find volunteer work, and keep track of my grades alone (I think this is pretty normal, I could be wrong). She pays a little more attention to me in math (she’s an accountant), but otherwise just wants to see the report card. She doesn’t know my GPA, partly because she wouldn’t understand what the weighing is and would be too lazy to really pay attention. She’s pretty serious about college and SAT’s though, so when that time roles around, ‘helicopter’ will be a perfect term. And, of course, she wants me to go to Harvard (ha ha).</p>
<p>Ironically I don’t feel <em>pressure</em>, and if I do it’s from myself. I guess her early pushing showed me what I’m capable of, and at this point I’m not really willing to settle for less.</p>
<p>My mother hasn’t gone to a conference to even meet my teachers or an open house to see my school since elementary. I’d say she’s pretty uninvolved as far as saying “As long as you have good grades why do I need to do anything?” Yet I’ve always been pressured to be above average.
I was placed in advanced math classes in elementary. Therefore I’m now in high-school and have had all the math credit I’ve needed and due to higher math I’ve been put in higher science classes as well. Sometimes it gets stressful knowing all my friends are struggling doing geometry when I aced that class in 8th grade and now I’m bs’ing my way alone through the harder courses.
My mother has told me time and time again I can drop down into easier classes if I needed to but I never wanted to be average and let myself be in an easy class.</p>
<p>I talk with my parents a lot about my classes and somewhat my grades, but I do my work myself, and if I have any questions (rarely), I’ll come to them.</p>
<p>Okay, so I’m Asian. 'Nuff said. Just kidding.
Basically, my mom’s the super Asian parent.</p>
<p>Mostly my own thing, with some exeptions, my dad does offer to help me in math and Spanish as he did well in them in his HS and expects me to get good grades in them, but for everything else it’s up to me. It’s kind of stressful with one parent, as I’m inclined to do well in english/social studies/art instead of those two. I also suspect math was easier to learn or taught differently in the 60s as well (dad’s old too).</p>
<p>I want to say they’re not too involved, since they don’t nag me about homework because I basically self-helicopter, but I can’t. Since my mom was salutatorian of her school, there’s this implicit demand that I become valedictorian because she wants me to “do better than her”. This is also why the college search is so stressful, because she thinks it will be easy for me to get into places like her (fairly competitive) alma mater. Sigh.</p>
<p>As the only child left in the house (my older sister moved out four years ago), my parents have more time to focus on my academics than they did when both my sister and I were crowding their space. However, I’ve been nearly on my own for a while.
I used to hound my dad for help with math homework in middle school, but no longer. Really the only thing I ask of them now is the occasional essay proofread. </p>
<p>My parents don’t ask for weekly grade updates, and I rarely receive lectures.
It is I who serves as the ‘helicopter’, if anything. I often come home all a-fire about a B or C I received in AP Lang, or how bored I am in Government; and one of my most visited websites is, sadly, Campus Portal. I appreciate their distance most of the time, but sometimes I wish they had drilled into me the importance of rigor like they had my sister, or attached themselves to my back so as to create more motivation than I could muster myself.</p>
<p>My mother is horribly obsessive. So, the first one, I guess.</p>
<p>She’s not too involved in my EC life, though. She leaves it up to me to figure all of that out.</p>
<p>When I need something to be paid for involving school or any sort academics, my Dad or one of my grandparents will pay for it. Mostly the latter. Other than that, the adults that I’m dependent on in my life don’t really care unless I have a C or below in a class</p>
<p>So yeah, I’m pretty self-motivated.</p>
<p>My parents know about my academics and get annoyed with me when I don’t get As in easy classes. For example, when I have an A+ in AP Physics and a B in health class, they’ll push me to stop being lazy. If it was the other way around though and I was doing my best, they’d be ok with it. They just want me to realize my potential pretty much.</p>
<p>That said, they let me have sleepovers with my boyfriend and go to parties and stuff as long as my grades stay ridiculously high. They’re really proud of how I’m such a nerd but also have a social life. They’re just there to push me when I need it.</p>
<p>My parents just let me do my own thing. But, at times they get involved and help me study for a test, which I appreciate :)</p>
<p>Mom didn’t even know what grade I was in. I had no idea how GPA played into college admissions. Sometimes I wish I had helicopter parents.</p>
<p>My parents do care at all. I just tell my parents I’m passing (I have all As). When I tell my parents I got a D or an F they just say good job…</p>
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<p>wat</p>
<p>do you sleep in the same room as him?? what would you even do with your parents home? wow just wow</p>
<p>My parents are super chill.</p>