<p>What do they think about your involvement in the process?
Take the poll!</p>
<p>Am I the only one who thinks it's amazing so many very involved parents have chosen not to answer this question? In my case, my parents were clueless past their single choice, my father's school.</p>
<p>I didn't find this board till after my daughter had applied and was accepted to her first choice school, so while I have no idea what my daughter thought about my involvement or lack of involvement, I am very involved with the students at her sisters high school.
Many of them are 1st gen college as my daughter is, but they have the added burden of having no/little support from parents. Some of the parents are absent or are very occupied with smaller children, drug problems, etc and the students I work with really appreciate an adults feedback and interest.</p>
<p>I voted "just right," although by now I think my son would say I went "above and beyond" a parent's duty and that it is now greatly appreciated. A year ago he would have said I was "too involved."<br>
His perspective has changed. While home on Christmas break (he's a freshman) he thanked me for helping him so much with the college process, and especially for helping him find so many scholarships. He loves the school he ended up at, and he got enough schol's to cover <em>everything,</em> including airfare home a few times.
He's heard my story about me working 3 part-time jobs during college just to be able to attend, so he's now grateful to not have to work a job in addition to studying (and having college fun!)
It's great to be appreciated!!!</p>
<p>I just checked with D, she said "A bit too involved." I had polled "Just the right amount."
The point of disagreement seems to be the nagging about the essays.</p>
<p>I'm so glad not to fall in the catagory of Not Enough or Not Quite Enough. I've experienced that and it's a scary place to be.</p>
<p>I've been very involved as a resource to my kids. I have to say they would not say too involved because they have appreciated the help in this process. My current college freshman has written me several notes of thanks regarding this and in fact, just this past weekend when she was home and made me a birthday card, this came up again in her message. I think you can be involved in terms of being a resource and facilitating the process and being interested in it and being supportive and your kid can want and like that you are. That has been my case.</p>
<p>too involved. Asking her which college she likes is considered nagging. Or it was until I actually started nagging about the essays.</p>
<p>I'm saying "A bit too involved" based on the fact that "our" first choice turned out not to fit my daughter, hence her recent transfer. I'm hoping that it will be "just right" with my second daughter!</p>
<p>Yeah, CLDad, it's a balance between bringing your perspective and experience to bear versus recognizing that one's offspring is his/her own person, possibly with different preferences.</p>
<p>Dear son just validated that "Just right" was his answer also. I guess that little bit of prodding to meet our self-imposed 12/17 deadline was taken in the helpful spirit in which it was meant...</p>