<p>I mean, this IS the Colllege Life forum, yet there are no prior experiences posted...just mostly laptop threads.
I'm a HS Senior (well, will be one in September) and I'm just kinda nervous about College. I hate HS because my classmates treat me like cr*p (understatement), and I'm kinda afraid that my social life will pretty much be the same as HS...plus the work (i.e: studing all day, and no social life whatsoever) I'm a shy person, and I know my religion will get involved with building friendships and relationships in the future. (which I don't really want to go too in-depth with) I'm just afraid it'll be the same thing as in High School. (I'm depressed as it is already)</p>
<p>So, maybe you guys who have go to College or are currently attending college explain how do peole make friends, gain relationships, whatnot? (maybe also someone who ha the same problem as me in High School)</p>
<p>cliques form in college just like they do in hs...</p>
<p>you can have a great social life no matter who you are or what your interests may be...it's all about finding a group of people you're comfortable with...</p>
<p>it you put some effort into it and force yourself to start talking to new people, you'll be able to meet and become friends with as many people as you wish...</p>
<p>join a club or something...or just randomly talk about trivial things to new people...and these trivial things can eventually turn into friendships if you want them to...</p>
<p>no one studies all day in college...</p>
<p>if you prioritize your time you can have a good balance of studying and socializing... it's really what you decide to make of it...</p>
<p>I know that you have some kind of interests and there is almost a club/group/organization for everything in college. You said that you are involved in your religion. There should a youth group, bible study, or just an organization for any religion. You are going to be living with your classmates so it is not impossible to get a friend in your hall/suite. You cannot be isolated if you do it intentionally.</p>
<p>Ummm... college is fun!...? There are so many MORE student organizations than there are in HS so you are bound to find people just like you with similar interests, beliefs, etc. Dorm life can be great or terrible depending on how well you can adapt to living in the conditions. Parties are great but don't party too hard. I have to study alot but some people don't. Learn what you need to do to do well. </p>
<p>From what I've seen there are two keys to being happy in college: 1) reach out and embrace opportunities. Unlike in HS, opportunities, clubs, internships, even parties aren't going to be begging you to join/go to/etc. You have get out of your "comfort zone" and try new things(not like smoking or drinking but just being social). Ask a professor what their research interests are... ask if you can help. The first week of school, meet everyone on your floor/building. Go out of your way to start conversations. Don't judge people. Just be nice and open minded. 2) Do everything in moderation. Just like you can party too hard you can study too much. If you get straight A's but you're miserable because you never leave your room/computer... what kind of quality of life is that? Study groups are great way to meet people and stay on top of your academics.</p>
<p>I'm not gonna get into my religion...if anything, I wish it would just go away. I observe it, but that's it. Observing it just gets in the way with everything else. (at least it is now) I take it it's the same ***** (pardon my french) as High School. I know this thread sounds emoish...weill I guess it is, and I guess that's how i feel.</p>
<p>Yeah, well I can't party (or at least to the extent to what i think <em>parting</em> means) according of my religion. :(
And I'm not very outgoing, really.</p>
<p>You seem unhappy with your religion (or its restrictions). Then why adhere to them? I can't imagine any religion restricting your ability to make friends.</p>
<p>Look, I don't want to badmouth something that is my personal feelings that is looked upon in totally diffrent perspective and given a bad name, so I want to refrain from mentiong specifics, but I just have this feeling of guilt of not doing it. All my friends (the few I have) observe with either glee or with somewhat dissatisfaction. The thing is, I don't hang out with anyone. I spend time with my friends once in a while, but not much, really. The kids in my school are really spiteful at times. They don't observe the religion all too much, and I feel like an outcast. I'm just kinda afraid that people with my personality will kinda back off based on my religion. That, and dating and such. (which is ALOT bigger problem in my religion) </p>
<p>I just hate it's restrictions and micromanagement of almost every little detail of my life.</p>
<p>Whether you want to change your religious views is entirely up to you. Once you get to college, your views may or may not change, but be open minded (and of course, accepting of other people's views).</p>
<p>A lot of people don't enjoy high school. I know I didn't, but I love college. Freshmen year in college is your one chance to START NEW. Whether you just want to be more social and have more friends, or try new things, you will change in some way... take advantage of that opportunity in the first month of the year. Become the person you want to be. That's the way to happiness and inner peace, regardless of religious views.</p>
<p>Your religion doesn't allow partying? I can understand drugs and alcohol but dancing and hanging out too? What is your religion? I can't think of one that prevents you from joining clubs.</p>
<p>If you are shy, you are really going to just have to sack it up and overcome it. Otherwise college will be as miserable as HS. Find a group of people and you'll have a great time. But don't expect to be found. If you sit in your dorm all day freshman year, then you will sit in your dorm all day as a senior (which at most schools is not a good thing)</p>
<p>I think I know what religion tippitoes is talking about. Yeah they're pretty much right...no alcohol, no partying, no dating, no music, no movies- "standard stuff."</p>
<p>romastaflex:Well, other than a extremly limited and no-frills (if you know what I mean ;))dating scene (like a extremly smal portion of the girls @ campus) , and a half-baked parting scene (no food) then not really.</p>
<p>Please, don't start saying 'which religion is he talking about?' guessing game? That's not what I'm trying to do. I'm trying(trying) to not mention names so that nothing bad should be penned on it.</p>