How many apply not really wanting to go?

<p>Yes, my daughter is a freshman in college and didn't really want to go, and she still is not that pleased with being there. Likes to get home as much as she can.</p>

<p>This is somewhat similar to kids who apply to 20 colleges knowing they can only attend one and that there are several at the bottom of their list that they would never attend (unless rejected everywhere else, of course).</p>

<p>Another take:
I agree with the posters who see this as a softening of a possible rejection. Regardless of what the parents say about it being just for the fun of it, why are they talking about it to other parents?</p>

<p>If the kids are accepted, then the parents get to brag about how much the school wants genius junior. Why junior was barely interested in attending, BUT since the school wants him so badly, we simply must send him....</p>

<p>it is also a way for parents to back out of the situation if the son/daughter does not get in, but it can be used to force the child to the school also. If they apply halfheartedly and still get in, a parent can argue that they should send their child there.</p>

<p>After perusing this question, I have realized that I have not yet made up my mind about whether or not I want to go away to school and leave my life in CT. I'm applying to schools in order to give myself the option down the road. It was all a hasty affair when I decided to apply.
Perhaps the board should be "How many apply who might back out?"</p>

<p>I am totally committed to going to a boarding school if i get in.</p>

<p>Cricket--I think your approach is a healthy one. It's ok to consider and reconsider until you figure out what's best for you! Find the best match and that's where you'll be happy. It may very well turn out to be at your current school.</p>

<p>So many kids and parents fail to see the value in finding a match. What is most important is a happy kid. And happy kids translates into happy parents!</p>

<p>It's refreshing to see someone who recognizes and openly admits her own doubts and embraces the exploration of choices!</p>

<p>linda, I'm positive that that was a reason. They told my parents that the interviewer last year had put it in her notes. My mom didn't tell me this until this year, but apparently the interviewer told them that I was the exact type of student they wanted at their school. The thing that is puzzling is why would she say that when she correctly assumed that I did not want to be admitted. </p>

<p>I think that the thing about my parents is that they want the best for me, but don't actually think about whether it would be the best for ME. The best school in the country isn't necessarily the school that I will succeed at, especially when I was getting the "kicked out of the house" feeling.</p>

<p>Anyway that was last year. I think it will be harder to get in this year since the interviewer made it clear that I am in the redeem yourself category.</p>

<p>I think that it is completely obnoxious of people to apply for bragging rights.
There are plenty of people who want to go, and have every intention of attending if they are accepted.</p>

<p>Thank you lala. if you want to apply you should be committed to going if you get in.</p>

<p>that really sux</p>

<p>what really sucks bongo</p>

<p>I hate it when that happens. It was completely my decision to applying to a boarding school, and my parents only found out when they received a class catalogue in the mail. Why oh WHY do people apply just for the sake of it, and ruin other people's chances, people who actually wanted to go??</p>

<p>I do not <strong>INNTEEENNDDD</strong> on going if I get accepted. I'm applying to give myself the option later down the road after thorough contemplation.</p>

<p>Dragonkid-- Dont think for a second that I'm not excited by the prospect of boarding school. I just do not want to be one of those people who has a miserable time while spending my parents 45k.</p>

<p>Katchakern- I'm thinking it over and if I decide against it, whats the harm? Some other lucky person from the waiting list will get in. I'm not "ruining" anyones chances...</p>

<p>I don't even think it would be a "waitlist" thing....remember, schools admit way more than they can accept because they know not everyone who is admitted will go.</p>

<p>crickett is doing the smart thing. We have been advised that the most important thing to do is to be sure that in March you have CHOICES. Then you can go on re-visit days, talk to teachers and students at all your choices (which can include public school), and then together with your parents decide what is best for you. </p>

<p>katchktern - no one is going to "ruin other people's chances." Look at it this way - how many people applied to more than one boarding school? Many have posted here about their "safety" schools. They have no intention of going there if they get into their first choice (or second, or third). However, some of those "safety" schools are first choices for others? Should you not apply then? Schools know that only a certain percent of thsoe they admit will attend. They admit more than they actually have space for. They count on people saying no.</p>

<p>That's fair, to apply so you have the option. But to apply when you know for sure that boarding school is not for you seems like a waste of everybody's time. </p>

<p>It doesn't ruin anyone's chances if these folks are accepted but don't go!</p>

<p>We've applied to four private day schools. If my son's accepted, we're still going to weigh private versus public. We're leaning toward private, but the decision will depend on which school or schools accept him -- if any do! Here's to choices!</p>

<p>sorry cricket. a little too excited about the whole process. good luck to all.</p>

<p>At the beginning of this whole process, I was crazy about BS. I could not get it off my mind. I visited the schools, made me crazier. I filled out the applications, neutral. But then, I went to Chicago, my new home. I fell in love. The city and the people and the smell and the lake are all great. So, i would still rather attend BS but living in the city will definetly steal some it's "flare".</p>

<p>I definitely want to go. I think about it every waking moment of the day. I dream about it. I talk about it all the time. My mom is starting to get annoyed with me and I think my friends will soon, too. I can't imagine not going to boarding school now.</p>

<p>Yeah, same. ^^</p>

<p>I've been slacking so much in school lately, and if I don't get in anywhere, then I'll feel like I've wasted like three months of my life. I'm planning on studying pretty much non-stop this weekend, starting at 5:00 PM today. I'm REALLY behind in biology, but my teacher offered to meet with me everyday next week during lunch, so I'm sure I'll catch up.</p>