<p>Who’ve thought, Pocatello idaho has a synagogue, a nice one at that. I have a fond memory of Idaho driving around. It’s beautiful out there.</p>
<p>Well, my folks are not budging from our home state, nor are any of my sibblings (at least as far as we know). H’s brother lives in SF area, across the Bay. We are NOT used to cold and I get hives from it anyway. We would consider to moving to be nearer our kids when they finally settle down or more likely, just rent an apartment or Residence Inn for a few months and visit them for a few months at a time when they settle down.</p>
<p>We like our home and will probably like it MUCH more when I finish decluttering my junk out of it. 
Our home is a good size for us and we even have a guest room or two (the kids bedrooms), which makes it very nice for visitors or when our kids come back–to visit or boomerang. It would be nice if bus service were a bit better and they had more and better services for SRs, but it’s nice having my sibs and folks nearby.</p>
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You go first, VH. Lemme know how it is.</p>
<p>And yes, one ice storm is quite enough. As they say, say what you will about the south but no one retires and moves up north.</p>
<p>Sorry igloo, you can keep Idaho. And Michigan for that matter. Like thumper, few of those inexpensive retirement communities are of any interest. They are cheap for a reason.</p>
<p>Idaho is nice and charming in the summer. During winter months - no so much, unless someone is heavily into skiing (I suspect skiing is not a typical retiree activity ).</p>
<p>People here in the PNW screech and cry about the rain and gray all the time, but everyone I know would prefer to stay put. </p>
<p>jym, no thanks. I’m not a fan of being the first.</p>
<p>@Himom - you’re living the dream in your location! Isn’t it 70’s and 80’s year round in hawaii? What’s not to love about that? </p>
<p>Maybe what we all need to do is house swap. Put all our houses online up for grabs to borrow. Just water my plants and take in my mail. </p>
<p>Actually, BB, I’d love to retire to a ski area, though dealing with the stairs hat many of the houses there have dosnt look like fun in the long run. And mud season, yuk. But, they do have great healthcare/hospitals at many ski ares.</p>
<p>Maybe I should rent rooms for only CC people during the winter months? I live in SE FL. Average temp all winter 70-75 '</p>
<p>I’m in, bookworm!</p>
<p>Ok, we’re on the midtown direct train line to NYC…easy 45 minute ride.
Could we swap for a nice cozy room in Florida, say in February?</p>
<p>“inparent, when my parents changed their residency, the state of NY called them and asked them if they owned any gravesites in the state”</p>
<p>@Onward, that blows me away. I guess they’re gonna come after your money if you plan on dying there. Using up too much soil space in the graveyard, you’d better pay up!</p>
<p>Thats really strange.</p>
<p>We still have one plot left in the family plot in NY. Will probably give it to my cousin, who lives in a neighboring state, is divorced and its absolutely fine for her to be buried there with the generation above us. But there is some concern that if we send her the deed she’ll sell it to a stranger 
What to do… For now I am holding onto the deed. Her kids sadly don’t talk to her, but if she were to pass away, they’d contact me and I’d send the deed. If my cousin asks for it (she did at one time but she didnt come to the family event where I was going to bring it to give to her), I am not sure what to do. Thoughts? I dont want to put in writing about not selling it and potentially put the idea in her head if she hadn’t thought of it. But its a possibility.</p>
<p>i would wait to give it to anyone unless they were prepared to have their name put on an installed headstone waiting for the date of death.</p>
<p>That would require her spending money. Problem #1. And putting a headstone (it wold be a footstone) feels creepy . You would probably hear her reaction if I suggested that while sitting in our living room, thousands of miles away !</p>
<p>creepy? my parents had headstones made/installed with their names and DOBs. we added their DODs.</p>
<p>I realize that it would require her to spend money, which she wont do. so the plot will then be available to her at her death when her kids order the footstone.</p>
<p>how else can you prevent her from selling it/ can there be a provision that it can only be given, not sold, to a family member? </p>
<p>The only way is to hold the deed, I suppose. I guess in many families they do the headstones in advance, but these are footstones, which are done a year after their death, at the unveiling. There is a family headstone at the top of the plot. I think anything else wouldn’t feel right. </p>
<p>If she pushed for the deed (again it hasnt come up in a while- she doesnt communicate much), I would probably have to contact the cemetery and make a note in the file. But that said, I dont know that I have any more authority than she would, though I have the deed and handled the last 2 burials (my parents).</p>
<p>Well…I won’t need any money for a burial as part of my retirement plans. I’ll prepay to be cremated. And that will be that.</p>
<p>want a plot in NY? You are cc family :)</p>
<p>Only if I can sell it to fund a vacation :)</p>
<p>Um… NO</p>