All three grandchildren have their own stock account (with first funds in by us and DD1 as custodian) which was similar to what their mom and aunt had - mom’s account is a small amount remaining while their aunt has more in her account due to two more years for the money to grow and she had more scholarships at college and not as much funds used for travel - which she will use these remaining funds to help towards a down payment on a house when the time comes. ‘The time value of money’ put to use.
I believe DH and I will be like my parents, have substantial assets left as long as health issues do not have us have them spent down (and only split to 2 kids instead of 5) – my side of the family was good about being able to have home care. And I do believe both DDs would be willing to have us live near them when the time comes and not drain down assets unnecessarily. DD1 is a active RN/BSN, and my RN license will lapse after this year but I know quite a bit having worked in a variety of hospitals and facilities, including rehab and SNF for a sizable company over my last 5 years just before retirement. DH and I are considered ‘in good health’ at this point in time.
2022 is showing itself to be a difficult paradigm to figure out - escalating home prices, higher interest rates for mortgages, inflation, volatile and stock market downturns (January downturn, not recovered from that, and who knows if markets are going to downturn more).
Both DDs had a lot of fine arts, music (DD1 piano guild for 8 years and was All State Orchestra 2 years, 12 years piano; DD2 had 10 years of piano, was All State Band as a 6th grader on clarinet, toured China with a performance jazz band – youngest female and lead alto sax with older HS/College students among many other things). We have a fine arts festival, and DD2 had her art as one of the selected art posters to be made into a promotional billboard. Both DDs had travel (DD1 England/France; later Switzerland/Italy with second trip to Switzerland/Italy on honeymoon; DD2 Australia, China). Both were on family vacation to Alaska with pretty good planned touring (their uncle lives there).
We have a 2nd piano at home which is DD1’s - but she may just want a very good keyboard to start teaching her older two children - only moving the piano when her children are older and when they are settled in a place for a planned longer stay. There is a piano book series similar to what Sazuki is for early violin. Once things settle down a little, she can decide if she wants to get a keyboard and start teaching the first two.
DD1 wants her kids to have similar opportunities with the fine arts. Also with education. If they continue to live not far, and she wants help from me once SIL gets employed. DD1 says she is a planner, so she can direct out her plans.
I can appreciate the comment about sharing an abundant amount of common sense. DD1 just has to have it rub off more on SIL(I know a few on this thread will be critical of this ‘dig’ but someone who leaves a job w/o having the other secured - and now has no job - is operating with a low level of common sense).
Our help in any way is by choice and is not part of their household income or covering household operating expenses. SIL appreciates what we do for the grandkids. I express more here than we do to him. SIL is a work in progress and he also reveals things to us as time goes on which gives us insight in his life.
My key thing with travel is to see people - relatives and friends, not necessarily places. I have purchased some wonderful books where I can pictorially ‘see’ various places. However I have a lot of family in Switzerland – I was there for a month summer 2016 which was grand, saw and did things not done before, some with a cousin and her husband who are retired and took me on a trip with them.
In some ways, as things develop with family will be directing how we spend our time and financial resources the remaining part of this year. I have a lot to do at the house, and schedule every day to get my swimming laps in or work out in the fitness center. DH has fun every day with a hobby, in his workshop, and in his office where he continues to have projects which include electronics/learning new code/building PCBs, etc.