how much does height affect making friends?

<p>im 5'3 and i have a lot of friends
its definitely not ur height because my core friends r all tall, 3 of them are 6 ft and taller -_-
dont think ur height or any stereotype is a limitation to making friends
it really is about personality and how u throw urself out there to people
and to those who say that short people hang out with tall people to make themselves look "cool", there are some that do that but for me, no
i just coincidentally have tall friends and they like me just the way i am and i dont hang out with them to improve my self-image
my best friend is a foot taller than me and we get along just fine</p>

<p>Height (esp. for males) does play a role - which is why the OP has to be more pro-active.</p>

<p>Same thing goes if a person is overweight or less attractive facially (have to use other traits like personality, etc. to initially attract people to you).</p>

<p>will lifting weights to becomce more muscular make up for short height?</p>

<p>Lifting weights, being muscular, and correct posture + confidence does add a perceived height boost imo...I don't know a way of correcting this, but from what I've seen this always seems to be the case. Hell, even dressing taller works (for me, at least...when I dress in one color I look an inch taller than when I don't, or so I've heard from my doctor/friends). </p>

<p>On the other hand I have a couple friends that are 5'11 but look 5'9/5'10 due to their hunched backs and awkward posture. So I'd actually say that perceived height is pretty important and may be a bit different from the actual.</p>

<p>ANd here's something else: recently when I was in a crowd of people, and didn't know anyone, I noticed a guy my age (sorry, I'm middle-aged, just can't help that) who was my height. He looked very insecure. I am sorry to say this, but even though I was kicking myself inside, "this guy needs someone to greet him.." I just wasn't feeling like giving out that energy. I had had a long day myself and wanted someone to give ME some energy. So I avoided greeting him, when he's exactly the one who most needed the greeting. </p>

<p>Not everyone feels like rescuing the wounded birds of the world. If you are looking for others to reach out to you, they might not, ever, if the vibe you project is "somebody please greet me and I'll be so appreciative." I'm sad to say I didn't reach out to that guy that evening and simply introduce myself just to be cordial. At my lifestage, it isn't a romantic thing, it's just socializing, plese understand. Point is: there's a way of putting out energy that signals to people, I'm here and ready to give to you (as compared to, "why don't you give to me"). One person is attractive, the other is so defensive they fail to attract others. </p>

<p>You certainly get a headstart at any social event among strangers if you can at least go in with somebody you know. Then at least you can chat with them at first, and appear to be interactive, warm and alive to strangers. Even take a risk and ask someone on the dorm hall to go in with you. If they meet someone, make it a threesome for a while, get interested in their conversation, look alive. </p>

<p>Standing all alone is really not the best situation. Is that why SNL had those two Czech guys long ago (one was Steve Martin), two "wild and crazy guys." They were ridiculous of course, but if you can go into a party with someone else from the dorm, that helps. </p>

<p>In actuality, though, my experience and that of my kids is that spending time in clubs, activities and EC organizations (including church, political, or charitable) is MUCH more productive for making friends than attending parties. I think parties are overrated.</p>

<p>5'2 isn't that short...I'm 5'1, which is about 3 inches under avg height, but I'm south asian and we're like 5'2 on average lol...then again, I know a girl who's like 4'9 so I seem tall to her :)</p>

<p>5'2 is really, incredibly short for a guy, truthfully speaking. Nowadays I know that 5'6~5'8 guys get incredibly stressed. I myself as a high school soph being 5'10, which is average for my grade but I'd never have realized...I always thought myself short because I have loads of friends that are 6'0+.</p>

<p>This:
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Everyone can throw out anecdotes of popular short dudes they know, but the point remains that height does affect a guy's ability to make friends and attract women.

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For those saying "Oh I know popular dudes that are 5'0" and the like (esp something like "OH Napoleon was 5'3 or something...just wow), and saying it isn't a big deal, it's false, because it really is a fairly huge deal. I used to be really short in 6th grade (middle school for me), and it was a big deal, so in college I imagine...like it or not, height is a huge factor in life.</p>

<p>The only thing I can really say is just emphasize your other strengths, I don't have to deal much with the height problem but a couple other problems, which you may not have. Everyone has a few different problems, I guess the only thing is to overshadow them with other merits and try not to focus on the faults.</p>

<p>Is it a huge factor in life? Maybe if you suffer from dwarfism, but the OP clearly doesn't. Like I said, I'm 5'1, It doesn't bother me...I would like longer legs though lol, my legs are short. But that's just an aesthetic preference.</p>

<p>Eh, maybe I did exaggerate it, and didn't say what I really meant. It isn't that bad as people think, but it is considered fairly important for most people. Obviously it differs from person to person.</p>

<p>you must undstand one thing that you cann't change your height,so work with it,but you should find some ways to change your condtion.I believe nobody hate short man consiously,if you are friendly,humor,and helpful,you can make many many friends</p>

<p>Maybe I'm stating the obvious, but height itself doesn't affect the way your life turns out. Your perception of your own height, and how confident you are about yourself will ultimately determine your worth. Whether you allow height to affect your confidence is up to you...</p>

<p>Stargazer, are you a guy?</p>

<p>YAY! Let's be short together! (I'm 4'9"). But honestly, I really don't think height has a factor in friendships. I've befriended people of all shapes and sizes and heights and it hasn't really affected how I view them.</p>

<p>Be happy that you're 5 inches taller than me.</p>

<p>One other thing is that there is a HUGE disparity between being a short girl and being a short guy. Short girls, it's cute. Short guys, it's not really masculine. (I'm not exactly a tall guy myself.)</p>

<p>I can sort of understand what it's like when you're a 5'2" guy; I'm a 5'4" guy, and my race didn't do me any favors in the height department. This takes a blow to my ego because a lot of girls I see are around my height, and it hurts because I wish I was taller just so I could have height over most girls. My ideal height would be 5'10"-6'0", because you're taller than most girls, but still close enough so that you're not towering over them. Height can be a big deal at times when I walk through a crowd, and it's always nice when I see girls and I'm taller than them. I can only imagine how dating might be like, but ultimately, I know height won't matter in the end, so I try to ignore it and focus on other things in my life.</p>

<p>Side note: At my school, I often see girls in the 4'10"-5'2" range, so that's always nice to see.</p>

<p>Duper - no, I'm a girl, not a guy - sorry it was unclear. I did say I'm like 3 inches under average height, so I thought it would be kind of obvious I'm a girl.</p>

<p>5'1 girl and 5'2 guy is incomparable imo..</p>

<p>my really shallow friend once told me, "being short for a guy must be like...being fat for a girl." (she's a girl btw). this isn't always true, but for girls, height isn't really a big deal unless you're extremely short/tall, but for the most part, we're more concerned with our weight...guys seem to care more about height. Which I guess makes sense, but that doesn't mean a 5'2 guy can't get girls. although most girls want guys taller than them.</p>

<p>why in God's name is being a short guy like being a fat girl? That is an extreme insult. Obesity is controllable, height isn't. Obesity sometimes reflect laziness, inactivity, undiscipline, whereas shortness does not. I'm not trying to be shallow myself, but if one is fat, it is usually because he doesn't exercise. If one is short, its because he got unlucky. Why is being short "unmasculine?" Is it our culture?</p>

<p>Tallness is associated with masculinity while shortness is associated with femininity. That's why it's ideal for a male to be tall and for a female to be shorter/average.</p>

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5'1 girl and 5'2 guy is incomparable imo..

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5'1 girl = 5'6 1/2 guy
5'2 guy = 4'8 1/2 girl</p>

<p>I'm 5'4 trust me its not height. just try introducing yourself to people. size doesnt matter anyone can achieve greatness no matter what height. i was always the shortest in school but that didnt stop me from playing football or basketball. shorter guys are faster too. now I'm gonna be real with you girls like tall guys, thats just common sense. but if your a nice a guy then it really wont matter, you will always have friends and girls will come just give it time. your in college, in america, you have a pretty good life and great oppurtunities dont let height be your downfall!</p>