<p>ok, this is actually a non-talk-about-my-life thread, and it's mean to be a serious question.</p>
<p>so how much say do your parents have in your life? for me, and i'm guessing some of you can tell from my other threads, my parents (especially my mom) have a lot of say in my life. my mom is a natural leader and she's a little forceful, so in a sense i'm binded by what she says, especially academically and financially. a lot of other things i do, however, i do on my own. she speaks against me volunteering everyday, but i go anyway, and she doesn't stop me. same thing with going to the library.</p>
<p>so i have a balance between my independence and what areas i don't have control over.</p>
<p>how about for you? do you think by the time you enter college, you'll struggle to be on your own in the real world, or do you think you'll have a sense of confidence and control, as well as independence, to live it through?</p>
<p>i think i'll have the confidence, independence, and control to live through college on my own.. for the most part. i get a lot of my leadership abilities from my mom, and so i can control what goes on in my life when given the independence.</p>
<p>My parents don’t really interfere in my personal endeavors in life, academically, financially, or socially. </p>
<p>My parents trust that I will bring home good grades, and I have earned their trust by raising a freshman GPA of a 3.34 to a sophomore GPA of 3.7. </p>
<p>Socially, I don’t do anything that would make them worried(drinking, etc) or anything that would get me in to trouble. </p>
<p>Financially, I mostly support myself by selling crap on eBay. They do offer to pay for things here and there, but things like video games and such, I mostly pay for on my own..</p>
<p>I don’t think I’ll struggle being on my own in college; I’m not too dependent on them in the sense that I would be lost without them. I feel that I am confident and independent enough that I will not be daunted by going away to college. I’ll be quite alright I think, and my parents have faith in me as well.</p>
<p>if you can gain your parents trust like that and be able to achieve good standards, i think you have a perfect balance of independence and dependence! (:</p>
<p>Haha I know but it was funny, and I couldn’t stop myself.</p>
<p>My parents are safety freaks… as I wrote before, they don’t want to let me bike just a few miles…
When it comes to school, though, they don’t have control over me much at all, but that’s probably because I motivate myself plenty in the first place. Also, they never get angry over grades. Sometimes I get angry over poor-ish grades but they say they think I did well…</p>
<p>I only live with my mom but she doesn’t concern me in matters of studying and education; she cares about me but leaves me with studying and other stuff, saying that “as long as you don’t play WoW and other stuff for 12 hours a day” (I’m pretty darn close) it’s decent. No pressure, really. Wants me to work hard and “recommends” me to study, though. Wants me to reduce my computer/gaming time as well, which I have no intention of doing so.</p>
<p>My parents don’t really have a say. They give me advice, but that’s about it. They’ve never been an “active” force in my life. </p>
<p>They give me a car and gas money and call around 1130ish if I’m not home (there’s a midnight curfew in my city) to make sure that I’m ok. They want to know where I’m at always, but just to make sure I know where I am (I have a bad habit of getting lost).</p>
<p>As for school, they look at my grades and they know that I do ok. They were concerned about my calc grade, but they didn’t flip out terribly when I got a D+ because I had medical issues. If I had gotten it during any other time they probably would’ve been furious. They didn’t finish college though and both went to community colleges before they dropped out, so there’s not much they could help me with if they wanted to.</p>
<p>i knew OF this one guy whose mom tied him down at home and didn’t even let him go outside for any social reasons..and another girl whose mother made all of her children get home-schooled because she was so over protective of them</p>
<p>A lot. I’m basically tied down at at home too. I have to go straight home after school and I’m not allowed to go to anyone else’s house. Considering that I’ll be relying on them for college money, I haven’t said anything to the parent that is being so restrictive… yet.</p>
<p>This is why I tell myself every morning, I’m going to get out of this house at the very first opportunity and go off to college. I hate my life.</p>
<p>I physically cannot get out of my house without a parent driving me, so when it comes to weekends and summers and stuff I’m basically screwed.</p>
<p>But during the school year, it’s fine. I mean, I push myself academically and they think I wouldn’t do anything serious that they’d disapprove of, but they’re still unhappy when I bring home a 94 test grade (“What? You couldn’t even get a 95?”). But I go to school 2 hours away from home and we’re allowed to leave the campus for lunch and free periods and whatnot, so I have a ton of freedom.</p>
<p>I think they have some say in my life. I mean, they drive me around to my friend’s house and stuff whenever I ask and I know my limitations so I don’t try to ask for much. They’re not as strict and overbearing as some people’s parents here. They pretty much in the middle, sometimes a little overbearing, sometimes a little lax. It depends on the situation but I think they understand that I’m moving on, I’m trying to be more independent, and they try not to interfere with my life. At least I know they’re there for support whenever I need them.</p>
<p>My parents have some say, but I’m pretty balanced. </p>
<p>I set my own curfew (as in I just have to tell them, “I’ll be home by ____” and call if I’ll be later), I have my own car and can go anywhere I want (within reason). However, if I don’t get good grades so that I can get my good student discount, no more car.</p>
<p>My parents pay for my gas, insurance, clothes, food, etc. </p>
<p>They never ask me, “Did you do your homework?”</p>
<p>They think if I’m going to make mistakes, I may as well make them and learn from them. </p>
<p>I don’t have a whole lot of chores, so when they ask me to do stuff, they expect me to do it.</p>
<p>alot.. well they let me hang out with my friends (which is also rare since my friends almost never invite me to hang out) but my mom thinks im genius so she expects me to get straight a’s and my parents want me to go to good and “famous” colleges to the korean people(anything above emory is my “expectation”). they make me study over the summer (not sat but for the next year’s stuff which is very very gay) other than those, my parents are quiet cool people but still, in terms of academic, i think they are kinda unreasonable people</p>
<p>I think my parents give me a pretty good balance of freedom and discipline. I can’t drive yet because I’m lazy and haven’t gotten the hours, so I have to make my mom, who works part-time, drive me to my friends’ houses all the time (for which I thank her sincerely because I know how much of a pain it must be.) In that way, she ultimately has control over where I can go and when, as well as when I have to come home, 'cause she won’t drive too late at night. My parents always have to know exactly where I am, but I’m cool with that; I like texting them. :] And I’m allowed to do basically whatever I ask to do with my friends… mostly 'cause my friends and I don’t anything illegal or whatever, and my parents know that. </p>
<p>The only exception to everything is when I have some chore to do. Going out is always contingent upon “have you cleaned your room yet?” or “have you written those e-mails?”, which is fine but can be annoying when a friend makes last-minute plans and I haven’t done the task yet. My parents looove to nag me. I’ve never gone a day without being reminded to do the same chore about twenty times within an hour. I guess I should do it right away, but usually the nagging is like, “do x within the next five days!” (five minutes later) “do x within the next five days!”, so it’s not always immediate things that I can just knock out right away. Sooo yeah that’s basically my only complaint – the incessant nagging which just motivates me to not do things out of spite. >___<</p>
<p>As for school, my parents are really encouraging. If I were to try my hardest and get a B in a class, they’d be fine with it. As it is, though, if I get a poor grade on an assignment and they know that it’s because I didn’t put any effort into it, they don’t approve. OH and the nagging thing applies hardcore to schoolwork. My mom always knows exactly what homework I have (I guess 'cause I tell her…) and reminds me to do things 1094830590 times as if I’m not already aware of the assignment!</p>
<p>well I live with just a mom and I never ask her for money and hardly ever for rides and she lets me do whatever I want in life just as long as long as I let her know I’m leaving and I can stay out as late as I want as long as I tell her that I’m with someone and I have my own ride home. She’s chill about school because she knows I’m self-motivated and I’m too smart to let myself fail, or drink, or get a girl pregnant (eww). But haha sometimes I do wish I had a mom who cared a little more about me doing well, like last year I say mom I got three 5s! and she goes yay! and has no idea what the hell I’m talking about</p>