How much would my first suspension affect me?

<p>Because I’m not really good at math? Yikes!</p>

<p>didn’t you post this same story a few months ago?</p>

<p>In any event, I think this will hurt you. Any school considering your application will worry that you will steal from your roomie or hallmates, the school store or the library, in the future. They will not necessarily believe that this was your first and only incident of stealing; they may believe only that it is the first time you were caught. </p>

<p>I find it interesting that you were caught just as you were putting the wallet down…like, maybe they were hoping to catch you in the act because you were suspected of being the thief in other incidents?</p>

<p>Actually, it seems like you are not remorseful at all, only worried about how the consequence will play out. In other words, you don’t seem sorry to have been stealing, only sorry that you were caught.</p>

<p>Look on the positive side: at least you would be more competitive that a student (with the same stats as you) who has an academic violation such as cheating or plagiarizing!</p>

<p>boysx3: Yeah I did. um, no it was my first time and my hp did do a full-intense room search, and couldn’t find anything because I haven’t jacked anything.</p>

<p>Northstarmom: I’m not sure if my guidance counselor knows about this because I chat with him all the time during breaks with my bf and even when I’m alone with him, he’s not mentioning it at all…and I did plan a road trip to see some schools, and he was amazed by what a sixteen year old could do and stuff. And I have two amazing teachers, and a choir director who could write me outstanding recs and I’m not so worried about that either. (And they have been teaching me since grade 7) </p>

<p>Beautifulnights: I don’t want you as a roommate either. </p>

<p>And yeah, I`m going to ask my headmaster what the policy is and stuff.</p>

<p>OP, all of us have made mistakes - I just hope you learnt one early in life and didn’t set yourself up for something that would have been more costly years later.</p>

<p>When we had our college silver reunion some ten year ago, it was ironic that one of the most successful people from our batch (worth >$100M) was the kid who routinely bribed the janitor to get the contents of the professors’ trash cans from which he would extract the “cyclostyle” master (for those who remember copying techniques of the early ‘70s) of our forthcoming exams. I’m not sure what correlation there is between ethics and success, but I would imagine there’s a high one between ethics and good nights’ sleep, at least for many of us.</p>

<p>"When we had our college silver reunion some ten year ago, it was ironic that one of the most successful people from our batch (worth >$100M) was the kid who routinely bribed the janitor to get the contents of the professors’ trash cans from which he would extract the “cyclostyle” master "</p>

<p>Presumably, you mean “financially successful.” Doesn’t surprise me that he did well. Bernie Madoff did well for a very long time, too.</p>

<p>Yeah, and I regret a lot from it. My principal is pretty chill and understands that it was a silly mistake a teenager made, and he believes that I won’t do it again.</p>

<p>OP,
I am curious, and I believe that colleges will be curious about this, too, and will expect to see your answers in your explanation of your suspension: Why were you trying to steal from your dorm mate? What did you learn from that experience?</p>

<p>OP,
remorse just doesn’t seem to be in your make up. Apparently your houseparent didn’t find anything you had “jacked” but $$ is fungible, isn’t it…and it almost seems like they were laying in wait for you to steal.</p>

<p>Do you think this incident didn’t color how your classmates now perceive you? They might be too polite to say anything to you directly, but don’t you think that maybe you have been the target of a lot of not-so-good gossip? That maybe they think twice before leaving their purses or backpacks unattended around you? That maybe your roomie doesn’t trust you or like you any more?</p>

<p>Actually, how did you explain things to your roomie? And why were you stealing in the first place?</p>

<p>you obviously have a lot of big issues in your life to address before you worry about college acceptances.</p>

<p>Well, I went downstairs and it was just there, on her bed. At first, I was curious, so I opened it and saw about 200-300 bucks in it. I stood there for about 5 mins, with her wallet and didn’t want to take anything, so closed it. And that’s when she walked in. We weren’t close at all, and she wasn’t freaking out or anything. We talked for about half an hour and she told me that we should make a deal or something. And after a week, she tells my hp about it because she kept thinking about it. The day after, my 25 year old hp tells the headmaster and things got pretty ugly… :S</p>

<p>While I was away, I wrote a long reflection/letter to my principal saying what I’ve learned and stuff. When I came back, he told me that he’s glad to have me back, and it was very thoughtful of me to write a reflection and apparently he has forwarded the mail to many of my teachers.</p>

<p>I still don’t get it. Why would you decide to look into your roommate’s wallet? A roommate should be able to leave their belongings – including their wallet – unlocked. When I was in college, my roommate and I found someone’s wallet in our room. We didn’t count his money. We just looked for ID to find the owner. </p>

<p>While you say your roommate “wasn’t freaking out,” it’s hard for me to imagine that she wasn’t upset even if she did not look visibly upset. I think that most people would be very upset if they found their roommate looking through their wallet. They’d wonder what things the roommate had looked at and had stolen in the past.</p>

<p>And you must have taken a very close look to have known that there were several hundred dollars in her wallet.</p>

<p>boysx3: First of all, she’s not my roommate. Secondly, there has been rumors going around before Christmas break and since my school is small, the only thing people can really do is gossip. It’s mostly senior guys that talk sh**, but I really don’t care because they just can’t find anything better to do. My friends are still by my side, and my social circle is still stable.<br>
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I know what you’re saying. There weren’t anything missing before, and I agreed to do a room check whenever the things go missing.
Surprisingly, she and I actually became really close after this, so I’m not treated badly at all</p>

<p>You mentioned earlier that you did a reflection that you sent to your principal. If it’s so good, I would include it in the application. The way you’re describing it here makes you seem glib and unconcerned, but if your essay reflects your true feelings better than your posts on some Internet forum, I would use that reflection to show that you’re not a thief or a bad person.</p>

MODERATOR’S NOTE:
This thread is 5 years old. I’m assuming the OP no longer needs advice on the subject. Closing.