<p>I don't want to call my parents ALL THE TIME but I think they expect me to...What about you guys? I was planning on calling about once a week, and slowly pushing it to once every other week, once a month, etc because my family is really clingy and I want to be an adult and be away from them. Can you let me know what normal people do??? lol</p>
<p>Once a month? Don't count on it. Most people probably talk to them at least once a week, if not several times. Get used to it. Besides, after raising you for 17 years, you'd think they deserve a little more than 30 minutes per month's time from you.</p>
<p>I talk to my mom about 3-4 times a week depending on how busy I am. Whenever I get confused about things like money or how to cook something or what to buy to do something, I call her. I think I would talk to her less if I was in a typical dorm situation, but I have a lot of things I ask her about living in an apartment and how to do certain things in the city. In the beginning of the year I talked to her less because talking to her would just make me homesick.</p>
<p>Well, not that true. My brother was always a big part of the family and when he elft to college he called VERY rarely...when he came home it was normal and everything, I think your parents let go a little and i think once in a month is fine depending on your rleationship.</p>
<p>What seems to be standard differs between boys and girls--parents seem to talk to their boys maybe 2-4 times a week, and at least among my friends, they typically talk to the daughters 1 or more times a DAY. This seems a little excessive to me, but in these days of really cheap cell phones, once a week seems way too little--unless you absolutely hate your parents.</p>
<p>Why do you hate your parents so much? Most people I know talk to their parents every other day.</p>
<p>I agree with dg. My sister calls my mom everyday, I call usually 3 or 4 times a week on average, but there can be weeks where I don't call and others where I call 10+ times.</p>
<p>Also, I found that in my freshman year I went home a lot more than in my sophomore year, but called more in my sophomore year.</p>
<p>We hear from son about once a day--but he is a freshman, 11 hours away. With all of the missing students and crime these days, it is reassuring to know that he is ok, even if the call doesn't last more than a minute. We shall see what soph year and beyond brings!</p>
<p>I dont have a set time or number of times a week I call my parents...I only call or they call when I need to do something or something important that I need to know about. I'm super busy with activities and homework, they're busy with work and now they're getting around to remodeling the house, so there's not much time. I'd say in an average month I talked to my parents 5 or 6 times. I don't hate my parents, whoever said that. I'm 19, my parents don't need to know every little thing that happens in my life or what I'm doing every night.</p>
<p>i hardly call b/c my parents are in a different country, but I chat with my mom online a lot:)</p>
<p>Once a month???? Let me ask you this, if you have/had a significant other that goes to a different school, talking to that person once a month would be horrible right? You'd be taking a direct trip to Breakupville. Well, since your parents can't "break up" with you for not calling more often, you'll HAVE to call more often than that. </p>
<p>I'm female and I talk to my mom everyday, but she calls me more often than I call her, not that I mind. We're very close, always have been. My dad, on the other hand, wouldn't call me voluntarily unless someone in my family was dying. Seriously, he doesn't want to spend the money to talk to me, even though it's just using the minutes in out family cell plan during the week, and it's free on the weekends. And if I were to call him, he keeps the conversation down to like 2 minutes to save money that isn't being spent. I don't really mind this either, because we aren't close. I talk to him maybe once a month, but when I talk to my mom everyday, she tells him anything he needs to know.</p>
<p>I don't call my parents.
My mom calls me every 2 days or so.
I expect it.</p>
<p>at least once a week, usually twice</p>
<p>i call every other day or so, i'm my mom's only kid so i like to keep her happy and make sure she know's how i'm doing. It ain't a big deal.</p>
<p>How often you call your parents really will depend on you, your parents, and your relationship with them.</p>
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<p>imo, the pattern you set in college is the pattern you'll follow for the rest of your life. I don't want to be 30 years old and have one of those horrible relationships with my 'rents where i bemoan speaking to them twice a year.</p>
<p>I talk to my mom at least 3 times a day. Talk about sheltered.</p>
<p>Twice a week is the usual for me. I read an article about how college kids should talk to their parents more because it makes them (the parents) happy. I feel guilty for my lack of effort and concern now. :(</p>
<p>well my relationship with my family isn't too great. It's not mentally or emotionally healthy to be around them for very long, i was just wondering if people would think i'm weird for not calling them very often. I just hope people don't notice.</p>
<p>MIssybear, that's an entirely different situation. That must be painful for you, but I don't think other people notice how much or how little you call your parents. Anyway, the people who are your really good friends will know the family situation anyway and hopefully they can provide some of the emotional support that your family is unable or unwilling to give you. </p>
<p>If you don't mind a suggestion, once you are away at school, maybe you could investigate the availability of a counselor at your school's student health center to give you some more strategies to deal with your family situation.</p>