<p>I joined this bank in 1986 after graduating Notre Dame and became a partner in 1993. I recently retired to pursue some humanitarian interests. Parents and students need to consider college as a total experience not just which schools rank by admissions selectivity. I am going through the selection process now with my eldest and I see this with his friends’ parents failing to see the whole picture. If you have the grades to get into Wesleyan, you can certainly get into some of the schools I mentioned where the reputation, social atmosphere and vast alumni network will prove invaluable. </p>