How say "no thank you" to admits

<p>My d did two EA apps and one ED app. All accepted her. Now she needs to let the two EA schools know she won't be attending. How to word this? She would have been (relatively) happy to attend either of the EA schools but her ED school is definitely her dream school.</p>

<p>Also she has started an app at one other school, but never sent scores nor finished that school's supplement. Do we need to do anything with that school?</p>

<p>And one other school received her scores and she requested an interview before their 12/1 deadline. We've heard nothing from that school regarding the interview. Should she let them know she no longer wants the interview?</p>

<p>Thanks so much
HM</p>

<p>This could be a problem…</p>

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<p>That sounds about fine. Try to phrase it like a rejection letter that a college would send to a student. It should be complimentary and highlight the good points at first, but then near the end make some vague comment about financial considerations or something. Basically, as long as you’re not a jerk (“I briefly considered setting foot in the stinkheap you call a ‘collage’ but thankfully I got into a real university. Toodles!”) you should be fine, but even if you are a jerk it’s not like you’ll get in trouble.</p>

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<p>It shouldn’t matter. Most schools just scrap any unfinished applications and I don’t know of any schools that even start reviewing an application until everything is complete. </p>

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<p>Definitely. An actual person is planning to meet your daughter so if she’s not coming she should probably tip them off just to be polite.</p>

<p>wait am I missing something? I thought ED’s were binding…</p>

<p>Yeah, they are. That’s why you have to send “no thank you” notes to the other schools you applied to after you’re accepted…</p>

<p>powerbomb-I’m assuming the daughter is going to the ED school, so she’s off the hook for the EA schools.</p>

<p>Poster said she applied EA twice and ED once. EA–early action apps are NOT binding. EDs are.</p>

<p>I politely asked to be withdrawn from consideration for admissions, and left it at that. My counselor said that was okay. You should withdraw even if you sent only part of an application to a school, because some schools set up your interview and everything after they get just the supplement.</p>

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<p>Right, sorry that wasn’t clear. DD will attend the ED school (we already sent the deposit) so the issue is how to let the two EA (nonbinding) schools know she won’t be attending there.</p>

<p>^^lapras that sounds like a good idea - short and to the point.</p>

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<p>Thanks for your input on this Jahaba!</p>

<p>I would be honest and upfront about it - got accepted to the ED school, needs to turn down other schools, appreciate the acceptance, thank-you for your consideration. Short and sweet and polite.</p>

<p>Congratulations.</p>

<p>Unless something has changed since I applied a few years ago, you don’t need to do anything. You can write a note if you want, but just don’t send in your SIR for the two EA schools, and you’re fine. EA is NOT binding, so they aren’t expecting a promise to attend- merely a significant interest.</p>

<p>For my EA school (which I was admitted to but didn’t attend), I just didn’t submit the SIR and that was that. Ended up writing a “thanks but no thanks” note to a university which had sent me a likely letter (I wasn’t expecting to get in), and told them that a poor financial aid offer prevented me from attending, but that I appreciated the opportunity.</p>

<p>The choice is yours, but don’t feel compelled to do anything if she doesn’t have time/doesn’t want to.</p>

<p>Congrats!</p>

<p>It’s just business, not a social engagement. The brief note withdrawing yourself from consideration should be fine. Also save copies of the withdrawal letters, since ED acceptances sometimes require that you withdraw all other pending apps. It would be good to be able to prove to ED school that you did so in case for some goofy reason a question about that ever comes up.</p>

<p>By letting those EA schools know early would free up those spots for other candidates. It is the same for RDs. It takes only minutes to give a response, but it could mean someone getting off the waitlist earlier. By “doing the right thing” would also make it easier for you to transfer to those schools someday, if necessary. Every year we hear few freshmen not loving their dream school and wanting to transfer to their 2nd or 3rd choice.</p>

<p>^Right, oldfort. She may do grad school at one of the EA schools, so definitely wants to keep those bridges unburned. :)</p>

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<p>I agree completely. I don’t get all this angst as to how to do it. “Thank you for your offer of admission, but I will be attending another university so please withdraw me from your list. If you have any questions, please contact me at xxx. Thanks again for your time and consideration.” I don’t see why something like that wouldn’t work perfectly well. I think sometimes people delude themselves that the adcom offices have time to think about the people who turn them down beyond just checking them off the list.</p>

<p>I don’t think anyone is advocating in doing more than that.</p>

<p>^^ Right and I don’t think I was expressing angst. Just wanting to know how others did it. </p>

<p>All 3 are very small LACs with <2000 students each.</p>

<p>Call them and tell them… is it really that hard?</p>