how should i cope with the potential of college rejection ?
pretty much the title…
i cant be in the minority.
Don’t take it personal.
alright… thanks dude
=(
Your self worth should not be impacted a decision made by a bunch of admissions officers. When the time comes, embrace the colleges that want you and move on from the rest. Go off and have a great college experience.
Acknowledge that it is a disappointment. Yes, it is. But there are a lot of schools that you would love being at. Had you not heard about the one you ranked first, the one you ranked second would have been first. Maybe the one you rank last would be ranked first if you knew each school better than you do. So, get over your disappointment fast.
Don’t compare yourself to others. The system is not a meritorious one. It is a “fit” one which has nothing to do with “how hard” you worked in high school or how “good” or “smart” you are. It has only to do with if you happen to “fit” the slot that they have. That may mean that the slot is intended for a student who fits the school in a different way (not better or worse) than you do. So, it is not about how good you are or you are not. You apply to a bunch of schools so you can get into only one. You can only go to one. Don’t begrudge your friends or classmates because they got in or did not get in. Don’t compare. Be happy with the school you got.
If you did not get in anywhere then start hitting the pavement. Contact your guidence counselor right away too. There are a ton of schools still needing students even if their deadlines have passed. There are great schools looking for students as late as May. If you are on the waiting list for a school you really want to go to, there are many reasons that could be. What you should do is convince that school you would go there if they call you with an offer. Ask your Guidence Counselor to call admissions at that school and tell them it is your first choice. Having the high school behind you will make a difference. But only do that if it is true about one and only one school. Good luck and don’t get too bummed. There is a college out there for you!
thank you guys so much… ill be back here on April 1 or around the end of march with my bottle of apple whiskey…
Just get yourself an Apple computer instead.
@lostaccount lol… i got into a safety school of mine.
Well then there you go. If it is ok for you, be happy because it can only get better from here.
have u ever been rejected ?
If you aim high it is always a possibility of rejection. At least you will not have regrets of what if…
Rejection happens to everyone and when you realize that is when it becomes a lot easier to accept. Everything happens for a reason! Just because you were rejected from one school doesn’t mean it’s the end because you have so many opportunities of you, just remember that!
Really only a concern if they all reject you.
You will be rejected. There, I said it. It is a life lesson, and you will learn from it and move on. It is far better that you are being realistic about it and prepare yourself for the rejections. The schools you get into will seem that much better. My kid just visited her low match accepted college. She had a great day and liked it much better than she remembered. She is aware of the realities of getting into top schools and is fully prepared to be rejected. That doesn’t mean she didn’t put forth her best effort, or that she won’t be disappointed on March 31, but I guarantee you she is happy she liked the school she is accepted to. I suggest you pay a visit to the safety school that accepted you, before April. Firstly, you will be really busy in April between visiting other accepted schools, and studying. Secondly, it will allow you to see if you would be happy at your safety school. Accept that you are going to get rejections, and if you don’t, it is a happy bonus.
You will be rejected from colleges, you will apply for jobs you will not get, you may be let go from jobs, you may be rejected by people you wish to date or marry, you may be rejected by your spouse after you marry, and I guarantee that at least occasionally your toddlers and tweens and teenagers will reject you completely. Get used to it. Resilience is an excellent character trait to cultivate.
I agree with intparent. The way you deal with rejection is a sign of maturity. How do you think you will handle rejection? You ultimately have to get over it and move on. You will feel angry, hurt, offended, etc. the degree to which you hold on to that will determine how much power you are willing to give a college admissions board. In the end it’s only a choice taken off the table. Sometime, probably the beginning of April, the power of decision transfers to you. Good luck.
By the way Apple whiskey is a lousy way of handling rejection. You’ll feel crappy, maybe do things you’ll regret, and it won’t change anything and you’ll likely feel even worse about yourself. 
My S had the funniest reaction to a, EA rejection…he said “Oh good… now I know that I applied well and included a real reach school” It was easier because he liked, but wasn’t in love with the school he got rejected from. Anyway, he got into a college RD that turned out to be the absolute right place for him to go.
Rejection and failure makes you that much stronger. Plus there are different paths to get to your ultimate goal. Dint limit yourself to just one path. Those students who didn’t get any rejections are actually at a disadvantage IMO.