<p>I'm not a kj Captain Acid; I never post theories I haven't tried myself. Nothing I'm posting is newfangled or original anyhow. I fail to see how posting <em>general</em> information is kjing in the least.</p>
<p>But don't worry about me. I know the information overload phase, if all people experience it, I did go through the phase for 6 months until I finally said 'f this' and stopped reading and just started approaching. Yes being an information horder about this subject is bad but I've only posted general, bare bones guidelines, which is hardly hoarding information. Thx for the tips, but I'm already on that mission, except not for 6 weeks but this entire school year. I don't really use canned stuff, though; it works but it tends to bore me.</p>
<p>Nervous about girls, eh? So were some of my best friends in high school. Here's what I recommend:</p>
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<li><p>Get to know the girl. And no, reading her Facebook doesn't count.</p></li>
<li><p>The best way to initiate anything is small talk. Something like asking her about the lecture on the way out of class usually works. I've gotten to know a ton of people (guys and girls both) this way.</p></li>
<li><p>Once you have broken the ice with anyone, attracted or not, you can usually ease up when talking to them. Greet them and converse if you find them somewhere like the gym, the cafeteria, the hallway, etc.</p></li>
<li><p>Do not be pushy when it comes to girls. Ever. Don't be like some of my buddies from high school who had major issues with some of the girls by the time they graduated.</p></li>
<li><p>Don't show off to impress them and don't be anyone you aren't. If someone has mutual interest they will appreciate you for who you are. (Example: don't curl a 50 pound dumbbell that you don't have enough oomph for when she walks by from the treadmill--I've seen a few guys trying to woo ladies in the gym this way and the girls just look the other way)</p></li>
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<p>most of yall build ***** up i nyour head with little contrived plots...game can't be taught over the internet...go to the bar and buy a bottle of goose...no amount of intellectualizing will get girls...I'm sure the girls on this forum find this post hilarious</p>
<p>If you guys want to know why I'm sort of "obsessed", it's because this girl is of my own ethnicity. There aren't many girls of my ethnicity I've seen here that are as cute as this girl. And also, there are a **** load of other guys of my ethnicity here, all smart ass nerds for the most part. I'm just afraid a girl like her will have guys hitting on her all the time..</p>
<p>If the girl you're eyeing is actually hot by most guys' standards, she probably gets hit on 15 times a day, no joke. Fortunately, most guys just pull the lame, nonsexual, boring nice guy approach: "Hi, I'm ___, what's your name? Can I buy you a drink?" Just do something originial, make fun of her playfully or act like an arrogant prick, or say something interesting.</p>
<p>Oh btw 'confidence in a bottle' will hurt your game; you'll never learn social skills if you booze up every weekend.</p>
<p>I really don't want to get into this, but if you mean most guys' standards being slutty, curvy, etc (you know what I mean), then this girl isn't like that..</p>
<p>Just talk to her man. And there's nothing wrong with obviousness in my opinion.</p>
<p>By obviousness, I don't mean "Hey. You're hot. Let's make babies on the floor right now." But it's really easy to make it clear that you're interested by talking and body language.</p>
<p>Girls try to send signals to guys with body language and talking all the time but guys are dumb and don't pick up on these things.</p>
<p>Girls do though. They look to overanalyze every tiny little thing you do. Even a certain smile can let a girl know you're interested.</p>
<p>You can be as obvious as you want as long as it's not offensive. Why don't you just ask her what she's doing this weekend and hang out with her?</p>
<p>expand your horizon, look at the big picture. ten years or even 6 monts from now, what would your current situation be like if you looked back?</p>
<p>go out and act..do anything, something I was scared ****less too until I did something as simple as talk to her and slowly get involved in other things that she does. Reading all these advice is useless for you at this point. Once you take the intiative the rest will naturally flow and come out to you and you have enlightenment..</p>
<p>BTW, peterparker has GREAT advice, but dont treat is as an instruction manual. Its supposed to reinforce what you learn outside.</p>
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<p>I'm sure there's a better reason for that...I've tried to overanalyze things before, but the more I did, the less sense it made. It's a wonder how girls actually believe what they're thinking.</p>
<p>I wish people would just be like, "Hey, I think you're cool. I would like to get to know you better," instead of all this, "Omg, does he/she like me? Should I ask him/her on a date? I don't want to feel akward," stuff. </p>
<p>People should just be able to tell each other if they're interested and not freak out about it so much. Oh well...if only.</p>
<p>Anyway, just go talk to her. So what if you end up getting rejected? It'll sting at first, but it's not the end of the world or anything.</p>
<p>hey so im in a tricky position girl wise too....so there's this girl in one of my classes, and we talk to each toher pretty much only about our class (english). whenever i talk about naything else, she seems kinda distant or reluctant to tlak about it more. im trying to improve my talkign to girls (but i too have an issue) but i mean she doens't seme willing to talk about anything else besides the class. shoudl i give up the chase?</p>
<p>make a joke about anything, the professor, the material, something around campus, if she laughs thats a good sign, start a conversation about whatever funny thing you said. If it seems like its going well, say something like " Hey me and some of my friends are going, idk maybe sledding whatever, you want to go?"</p>