<p>How should I approach my parents about transferring? I feel it's going to be a really awkward conversation - they'll have all the questions about course transferring, if I can graduate on time, costs, social changes, financial aid, etc etc. </p>
<p>And what about Professors who you've thoroughly enjoyed classes with?</p>
<p>I don’t know about parents (mine have known from the start I’m doing this) but Professors will probably be way more understanding than you expect them to be. All of mine were really nice and helpful.</p>
<p>To my professors, I phrased it as a “it’s not you, it’s me” kind of thing. I never insulted my old college, but told them I was seeking a better fit. I also asked them in person if they would be willing to write me recs, before I told them during office hours why I needed said recs. </p>
<p>I think for my parents I phrased it as “I want to consider other options, because my interests and needs have changed.” You can remind them that even if you apply to transfer you can ultimately decide to stay.</p>
<p>I’ve been surprised, reading these forums, at how many people worry about telling their professors. Most teachers have been teaching for many years–they have all written recommendations for transfers before, and understand that their school isn’t for everyone. Mine were incredibly understanding, and both of them actually told me that for my intended major/career path it probably would behoove me to be in a more urban environment. As long as you’re gracious, and don’t bash the school, you have nothing to worry about.</p>
<p>Your parents might be tougher, and this will, of course, vary more from family to family. Mine were totally encouraging and just wanted me to find a school where I would be happier. But in regards to cost, credits, etc., just make it clear that admission isn’t binding, but you want to give yourself options. When you’re accepted and have more information, you can talk to them again about whether this makes academic/financial sense.</p>
<p>Professors are VERY understanding, especially the ones you’ve grown close with because ultimately they want their students to be happy, whether it is at their institution or another.</p>
<p>I was so nervous about asking my former psych professor for a recommendation and by the end of our meeting, I nearly broke down in tears thanking her for her support. This semester, I had to ask each of my professor for mid-term grades TWICE and they are all so helpful. They want to know if I get accepted. Professors are usually around long enough to understand that the college isn’t right for every student. </p>
<p>As for parents, mine understood because they knew I was miserable at my college. As long as yours understand that you aren’t happy or are striving for something better, whether it is a major not offered at your college or a better program, they should be very understanding.</p>