<p>hehe! I just turn it around on Ds if they aren't forthcoming. They want to know things from H and I and if they aren't spilling neither are we! ;)</p>
<p>My son and I generally don't have difficulty communicating. In this case, I ask him how it went. He gives some less one sentence assessment ("Fine" or "Good but a little weird" or "Really well"). I then ask questions like, "What was weird?" or "Had he read the resume you emailed to him?" or "Did she ask you what partial homeschooling was and why you did it?" or "What was the toughest question she asked? and we're off to the races.</p>
<p>Other subjects which get stamped with a "Classified" label:</p>
<p>1) health (God forbid we know that she has a cold because any response, including just a grunt, is "fussing.")</p>
<p>2) relationship with the roommate (you social advice is <em>terrible</em> and you haven't a clue, having been a Trappist monk before becoming a parent)</p>
<p>Otoh, we just found out that when she was in kindergarten she was terrified of bringing home a book from the school library for fear of it getting lost amid all the household books and so she never did. So some information does eventually leak out in less than 20 years....</p>
<p>How about asking them questions about the interviewer? What is their profession, when did they attend, how did they describe their experience? My H can never get any info from our daughter because he asks questions that can be answered "fine" or "o.k.". To get the goods you have to know how to ask for the information and asking about the interviewer shifts the focus from the child. Or ask your S or D what questions they asked the interviewer.</p>
<p>One possibility here:</p>
<p>My daughter loved sharing details of interviews, college life, classes, study abroad, etc. However, we got nothing out of her with questions like "how did it go". She readily acknowledged that it was more fun for her (and therefore more productive for us) to ask specific questions.</p>
<p>I will caution that kids are wrestling with the whole college thing. It does represent the end of life as they know it, plus the whole fear of the application process. They may not be able to talk about it much.</p>