Okay so I’m entering my junior year in a few days and I have literally no close friends at college. I have many friends but none of them are really close to me. So in classes, even if I know a couple of these people, I usually have to sit by myself and it’s really annoying. I’ve tried really hard to join clubs and make friends in classes. Whatever club I’ve ever gone to was really boring and in classes, people seem to be in a rush, never really speak to you a lot after the class or about anything else. Since I’m away from “home”, I even have to celebrate my birthdays alone and this really hurts my feelings. I do try to be social and speak to everyone, but it just seems like it doesn’t work; people have their own friends, don’t really like me or want to know me, etc. Any suggestions of how I can make process?
Don’t double post.
Just spitballing here.
You are about to start your junior year. This is a great opportunity. There will probably be more social events with the students and professors within your particular major. You will probably be seeing more of the same people throughout the school day for your upper division classes now that lower division GE classes are over.
Get to class earlier and pick a better seat where there is more action and you are surrounded by it.
Do you have any hobbies? Figure out where people with similar interests get together and go there. You are in Los Angeles, what about conventions (i.e., gaming, automobile, athletics, the list is endless).
You say you have many friends. Are you accepting all opportunities offered, even the subtle ones, to grow the friendships into something more substantial? Are you inviting people to share a meal? Do you offer to drive places? Make sure you accept every offer to socialize or, if you are unavailable, suggest an additional time and day to get together right then and there.
Organize a potluck dinner party. People eat often and a lot, should be easy if you are living around other single or available people.
Are you up to date on current events? Can you have a conversation about things in the news or entertainment world?
Find an interesting, like-minded political or religious group that holds meetings/events and start going there.
If you don’t have a part-time job, get one and you will probably start socializing with others there. If that’s difficult, check out local volunteering opportunities in your area or school major.
Are you in the dorms? Become a Resident Advisor.
Check out opportunities within the Associated Students group on campus.
The best advice is to join clubs where you have common interests with others.
Maybe go greek @fpd2b ? it’s a great way to get involved and be social!