<p>Use a hammer...</p>
<p>conquer ur fear and u will conquer death!</p>
<p>i can't emphasize arrogance, self-righteousness, narcissitic devotion to the self, self-confidence enough. u need to nurture ur ego. always develop a complicated form of fantasy where u are the king, the LORD, the master. then gradually substitute reality with ur fantasy. people are so gullible and accepting that they will most likely accept ur imposing behavior. never despair. always believe that God had arrayed a great force of angels for ur service. </p>
<p>no alcohol, no pussing out..</p>
<p>drink a lot and have sex with random people. </p>
<p>I'm sure you'll develop close relationships with your AA buddies and the doctor treating your STDs. </p>
<p>Sorry, just guessing at what the advice you've been given has looked like without reading any of the comments.</p>
<p>what's an afrasian woman???</p>
<p>a woman that speaks an Afro-Asiatic langauge like arabic or hebrew.</p>
<p>Afrasian language group come from ethiopia.</p>
<p>Two things:</p>
<p>"Coming out of your shell" simply involves one thing: you. You have to put yourself into situations that are uncomfortable for you, that's how you get over being shy. It's that simple. =)</p>
<p>Second of all, even if you don't become some incredibly talkative person overnight, it doesn't matter. As long as you are able to converse with other people, and don't get shy or backdown from simple situations, you have absolutely nothing to be worried about.</p>
<p>Good luck.</p>
<p>Breaking out of your shell: </p>
<p>a) socialize with SOCIAL PEOPLE
b) try things you normally wouldn't (approaching/talking to random girls, inviting them to parties)
c) join clubs, party</p>
<p>you'll soon gain a lot of confidence in yourself and you won't need to refer to any dumb lists like this one</p>
<p>it's not an art form. just talk to people. if you can't socialize or network well, you're going to be in for a huge reality check once OUT of college as well, so no time like the present, correct? if they don't like you and you don't like them, you're obviously not talking to the right people!</p>
<p>and SMILE MORE! that's the biggest thing for me. if i see two people sitting in the same class as me and one has this huge grin and generally looks more appealing to talk to... and the other is this withdrawn and moody kid with a blank stare... who would YOU talk to?</p>
<p>there are books and web sites that discuss how to change. See, for example, <a href="http://www.shyness.com/%5B/url%5D">http://www.shyness.com/</a></p>
<p>But one thing I urge you to do when you arrive at college in the fall is visit a counselor at the student health service or student counseling service. Look on the website of your college and you can find more info. What you face is a common situation, and many people want to make a fresh start in college. It's really an ideal time, you're out of HS where many people have you pegged and you can start over. But merely saying "start over" is no more useful than putting someone in the seat of an airplane and saying "now fly". Colleges offer low-cost or often free counseling that can help you come out of your shell. It's completely confidential so your parents or other kids won't know you went. Go at the start of school so you have the best chance to start making changes before the frosh start to solidify their circle of friends.</p>
<p>just approach and start talking to girls more.....trust me it works</p>
<p>try to stand out.. paint some impressionism, run around the school, climb buildings, start talking to ur teachers in a foreign langauge...just do whatever..don't repress ur feelings because if u do too much of that people won't talk to u.</p>
<p>have a few drinks so your still yourself, just more open then emulate the bahavoir when sober and u'll find it is still you. just dont drink to a stupor.</p>
<p>Whoa look I have 101 posts!</p>
<p>Now anywaythe safe way is to play more video games, read more, and make friends with shadows on your wall. Now if you want to interact more, make as many enemies as you can by starting petty conflicts. Good methods: light someone's back pack on fire, spill ink on their notebook computer, run off with their notebook (shout "I want this and you're not studying anyway!") Sneak up behind a girl with long-hair and cut it off in one snip. Then make a jump rope and use it in front of her. Knock down school doors during the middle of classes for kicks. Carry a loud walkman where ever you go. Scratch people's windshields with a key and then explain that it was an accident. You can also etch your initials into cars in the teacher parking lot. </p>
<p>Oh and here's a good one that I actually see twice a week at the school: Theres a tall white guy with long pony tails who never leavs the campus between 8AM-7PM. In the morning he stretches in the grass outside the building, and then parleys blows with imaginary foes. Afterwards he walks through the halls swinging the sword over his head and blabbering to the drum players about how he's going to Japan.</p>
<p>Just do anything to attract attention if you want to 'break out of your shell!'</p>
<p>You can't change if you don't try to change, do something to change yourself, maybe spend the summer doing intense physical activities or somehting?</p>
<p>Your post describes me when I was in high school. I'm now a person who is very gregarious and has lots of friends. Here's my advice.</p>
<ol>
<li><p>Alcohol does NOT help. One of the most embarassing things I remember from my college years was drinking and trying to be cool and then throwing up on somebody's rug. Getting drunk doesn't help one overcome shyness. </p></li>
<li><p>Get involved in at least one activity that interests you, and volunteer to help out with some project with it. Presumably, that will help you meet people who have lots in common with you. The activity also will give you things to talk about.</p></li>
<li><p>Realize that many people consider themselves shy, and are very happy to talk to someone who reaches out to them. Consequently, you can meet people by sitting down next to someone who's alone in the school cafeteria. You also can meet people by talking to people who are near you in class.You can always open a conversation by asking what they think of the class or where they are from or what their major is. If people don't have much to say, assume that they are shy, too. Don't close the door on a relationship by assuming they don't like you.</p></li>
<li><p>Realize, too, that many people prefer shy people to extremely gregarious people. Shy people are considered to be nice and good listeners. Very gregarious people can be disliked as being showoffs or talking too much, listening too little.</p></li>
</ol>
<p>5,. The shyness.com web site has good advice, too.</p>
<p>wow. charizard.. u must have alot of chicks around u.</p>
<p>carry a rabbit or a toy poodle in ur bag for company (not maltese, they're move too much). also carry one of those african drum or a violine around the campus and start banging at it so all the people will look at u. and pretty soon some of those rock star wanna-be's will realize how much more high class african and european music is and turn to u for more wisdom..</p>
<p>basically, music, art will help u to attract attention and people. </p>
<p>finally, never forget to follow charizard's divine teachings on how to live life..</p>
<p>Great post, Northstarmom. :) </p>
<p>Don't close the door on a relationship by assuming they don't like you. -- I'll definitely need to remember [convince myself of] that. It's probably the part I have the most trouble with.</p>