how to convince parents to let me switch my major from engineering

Why would you stay in a field that you hate? You don’t need to graduate in engineering to go to law school.

Figure out what you’re passionate about and do that. You may not want to go to law school in 4 years anyway. It’s not the only way to be successful in life. Otherwise, everyone would be in law school. :slight_smile:

If you really hate EE, you should switch. You need to choose another major and then discuss it with your parents like the adult that you are. Is there another area of engineering or STEM you might like? What kind of law are you interested in and how certain are you that law is what you want.

The reality is your parents can’t choose your major. They can, however, refuse to pay for your schooling if you don’t do what they want. If they pull that card, you will have to make a decision. If your parents are mostly worried about employment, perhaps do some research on your chosen major and job opportunities. Good luck.

While law school may not be the path for you, if you really hate engineering don’t do it. Other posters mentioned it can open a lot of doors but if you don’t like it then it will be hard to stay with it. Engineering is hard and you’ll need to line it to get through it

Having graduated from college in engineering, I simply cannot imagine doing it if I didn’t enjoy it. Blech! It’s really hard, even for strong students. I had several friends who switched out of engineering. One went on to law school. Another became a nurse and eventually went to medical school. They did just fine. :slight_smile:

Parent here:

  1. First I would want to know what you DO want to do. All I hear is what you don’t want to do.
  2. You say you want to go to law school, but really you have no clue what that is about (nor do any undergraduates).
  3. Do you know any one who is a lawyer? Do your parents? Can you talk to them about working in law?
  4. Do you have another major you are interested in? Have you taken classes in that area?
  5. What would happen if you change your major? Would they really not pay for college?
  6. Have you gone to the career office and see if they have inventory/tests you can take to see what would be a good major/career for you?

So my advice is to have a plan that you have explored before you talk to your parents.

Have you taken any classes outside the engineering school in your potential major? How do you like those courses? If not, take some before you change your major. Does your school have a prelaw advising service? If so, have you consulted that group? Many pre law students major in such things as political science/English/history etc.Lawyers have to read and write a lot in law school and in practice. Are these things you like to do? Most trial lawyers I know, including myself, joke that we went to law school because we were bad at math.

You’re in a good position in that you discovered it this early on but you have to find another major that would be good for law school and appease your parents - something like political science or international relations. Given the news around these things maybe your parents will see as a little more marketable than they were previously. If it’s job prospects, maybe a computer science minor could help.

Funny, had to try and convince my kids that engineering was NOT right for them. Both insisted, tried, and concluded on their own that dad was right (after reducing their gpa). I can tell you the gpa has absolutely closed doors as a result.

I agree with another poster, even if you love it, it’s hard. How can one do all those hours of work if they hate it ?
Personally I transferred out of engineering despite getting As, and know others who did same. It is not for everyone.

Agree with @theloniusmonk. Similar to the OP, our D had a miserable couple months in her freshman year this year, complaining friendship, loneliness, not interesting in classes, other kids had more money and more fun than her, other kids could chose easier majors… lots of issues. She even prompted the idea of just quitting the school, despite that was her dream school entering in. It forced us to ask her what was all this about. Turns out she thought she had to study in STEM fields and that was her only option because that were majority of her peers in high school picked, and being an Asian kid, she had to major in something that could guarantee a well paid career. What she really liked to study was languages.

After considering that she had showed her talent in languages all through her childhood, talked and reassured from her that she would still be happy of getting $35K-40K a year salary while her peers graduated in STEM fields get double or triple of that amount upon graduation, and convinced ourselves that her mental health was more important than anything else. Our compromise was that she added computer science as a minor.

It is also depending on your parents’ own experiences and on why do they think only STEM fields can make you successful. It is only when your parents realize that your choice is rational and suitable to your personal need (happy, security, and no regret), that both you and them will have not future resentment in this issue.

This seems to be a lot more about the OP’s relationship with his/her parents than it is about engineering.

You’re correct that a strong GPA very critical to getting into T14 law schools. I would show your parents the stats (class profiles) of T14 schools. Given your law school goals, let alone you’re not happy with your current major, I would switch asap. If your parents are concerned about employability, while it is not important if you want to go to law school immediately after your undergrad, you may want to consider switching to a quant oriented major with better employability. Good luck!

It strikes me that you are in the first semester of college, and your horizons are limited to very easily defined and obvious career paths. This is not at all uncommon. I second those who suggest that you should visit your school’s career center, or whatever they call it, to explore more alternatives.

In the meantime, keep you options open. Take a few classes that expose you to other disciplines. You need to find out what floats your boat, intellectually. If you are reasonably talented quantitatively, for example, there are numerous interesting fields that combine that with other disciplines, such as political science, psychology, anthropology, history, linguistics, agronomy, and on and on.

Happiness, like peace, is the journey. :slight_smile:

This is not what the OP needs to hear, since the OP wants to switch to some other major but is not being allowed to by his/her parents. This is what the OP’s parents need to hear from someone other than the OP whose opinions they consider valid.

I think that this is what the OP needs not only to hear, but to act upon. The OP is unlikely to convince his or her parents if the only options in view are engineer or lawyer.

It is very early in the game. It would be foolish of the OP to go to the mat with his/her parents at this stage. S/he needs to be better informed not only about potential jobs, but about his or her talents and preferences. S/he has only begun to scratch the surface of the disciplines available.

It sounds like your parents are concerned about your financial and employment stability. I think your best bet is showing them the plan of what you want to do/major in, the employability of that in the chance that you don’t get into law school, and the other careers out there that you may be interested in pursuing.

How much is your family borrowing to pay for this school? We’ve seen more than one poster ask if hefty loans are “worth it” because the student is an engineering major who is expected to make good money after graduation. Can your family afford to repay the loans if you pick a less lucrative major?

Seems like the OP has resigned himself/herself to submitting to parental control with respect to choice of major that s/he does not like, as evidenced by other threads such as http://talk.qa.collegeconfidential.com/engineering-majors/2046108-have-you-earned-a-high-gpa-despite-not-caring-about-engineering.html .

This thread keep saying popping up…I just want to say…I am the parent who tried to get my kid to switch OUT of engineering. I didn’t get anywhere at all. But she did pick up a second major!

Maybe you could do that.

There is a huge demand for lawyers with technical skill in patent law. Sure it would be a bit of a gamble, but it could pay off huge in the end. I think you can do it.

I agree with Consolation that both student and parent seem to be limiting their thinking to easily defined career paths. For the student, this may be from lack of maturity, and for the parents, obviously, from anxiety about future financial independence.

I would hope a freshman could explore what he or she will really like to study, and what he or she is really good at, and go from there. Major does not even have to match future job. But it takes faith that things will work out, and I understand that an engineering degree (or future law degree) seems to promise stability.

I think that virtually any major, combined with some interning, volunteering or working, will lead to a job. Careers tend to proceed in zigs and zags and by trying to plan so early, you may even be preventing opportunities.

To the original poster, why do you want to go to law school? How did you end up in engineering? Chances are you will change your mind about law school- many do- so try to avoid making all your plans on that basis. If you hate engineering, by all means, switch out and try to give yourself time to find a major you do like, whether it is directly connected to a career or not.