How to deal on and after M10?

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<p>Ok, so the application season is pretty much coming to a close. With over a month left until we actually receive our decision letters on M10, I'm feeling pretty tense. I only applied to 2 schools (NMH and Chatham) AND I need FA, so my chances of actually receiving some good news is pretty low compared to someone who applied to say, 8 schools. </p>

<p>On that pessimistic note, how do I handle rejection/waitlist (assuming that it will come)? </p>

<p>btw, I'm already applying for junior year so I won't be reapplying next year.</p>

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<p>Well, last year, I went to go have dinner with some of my friends, which reminded me that even though I wasn’t accepted there, that I was accepted at home, and that I did have a place to call home. </p>

<p>Other then that, the minute after the letters came in, I immediately began searching for schools that accept late applications…
Maybe not the best strategy for dealing with rejections, but still kept me busy. </p>

<p>Btw, I applied for junior year last year, and I am applying this year.</p>

<p>Good Luck this year!</p>

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<p>Our strategy was to spend the interim time talking as a family about all the advantages of staying home–focussing on all the things ds would not have to give up if he did not go to bs. We treated bs as a longshot possible thing out there on the horizon. Not to say that March 10 wasn’t still a big day–just our attempt to make the potential rejections easier to move on from. </p>

<p>Good luck!</p>

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<p>We have always included the “what if” to any discussion. That meant “what if” you get an offer AND “what if” you don’t. </p>

<p>We discuss all the options, and rank the schools. My daughter is, for example, very happy to go the day school here at home (assuming she gets in). We are lucky in that the local public school - while not being first choice - is still a very good option…</p>

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<p>I applied to 5 schools, but as an international student with FA so I know that my chances are REALLY LOW, still I dont want to get to MA10 and not get accepted, it has been SUPER HARD for me, I am going to feel super sad if I dont get in at any of the 5 schools. How do I deal with it? I know it is going to be hard day for everyone so any advise??</p>

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<p>My SSAT was an 81… obviously I am not going to get in on March 10th… Still hoping though!!</p>

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<p>preplovr, no need to give up hope quite yet ;-)</p>

<p>it depends on what schools you applied to. And remember, you are not only an SSAT score. In the US, many factors go into the admissions decision, and SSAT scores are only one part. And 81%ile is well within many schools’ range.</p>

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<p>I think it’s really important to keep the decision in context. Getting rejected doesn’t mean you are dumb or not interesting, and getting accepted doesn’t mean you are better than everyone. Many boarding schools are now experiencing a situation where they are forced to reject applicants who are fully qualified and would’ve made excellent members of the community. It’s important not to take the decision of 8 or so strangers as the defining word on your worth–and that goes for those who get in, too.</p>

<p>I’ve sometimes been rejected from programs and schools in my life, and my need for significant financial aid has always been a problem. I’ve also had my fair share of successes. Life is harder when you don’t have the money to pay for all the things you want, but it doesn’t mean people with money never struggle, and it doesn’t mean that you will never triumph. Sadly, you may really want and may really deserve to get into schools, and lack of money will get in your way. Don’t underestimate what needing financial aid means for your plans. I wish it were different, but getting over my sense of “it’s not faaaaaiiiiiirrrrrrr!” made a big difference in my life.</p>

<p>Whether you get in or not, it will still be your job to craft the best possible life for yourself by being kind, working hard, and getting curious about the world around you. </p>

<p>Whether you get in or not, high school will one day be a distant part of your past. </p>

<p>If you get rejected, there will still be challenging, exciting, and fun things in your immediate future. </p>

<p>If you get accepted, there will still be days when you are bored, lonely, and frustrated.</p>

<p>I learned early on that no matter where I go in life, I am stuck with myself, so I might as well do everything in my power to become kinder, smarter, more skilled, and more invested in those around me. I have not gotten everything I always wanted, but here I am: a full-fledged adult who is very, very happy with my life.</p>

<p>March 10th is just one day. You determine the course of your life every day that you go out there and embrace it.</p>

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<p>Be considerate of others who are also applying, on M10 you may be overjoyed, but school is probably not the best place to celebrate. </p>

<p>for wait listed folks, realize that you are qualified and keep your hopes up, right thru July. Send a first choice letter and update them on some achievements.</p>

<p>realize that nobody gets admitted on their own. Thank your recommendation writers (a little gift and note is nice), parents, teachers and your lucky stars. </p>

<p>For the firmly rejected, please do not take it personally. Prep school admission is not a measure of personal worth, and MOST QUALIFIED APPLICANTS ARE REJECTED AT MANY SCHOOLS. They probably needed another tuba player and you play the violin. You will go on to a successful life, and with the many academic enrichment opportunities out there, home is not second best. Make being home as busy and successful as being at boarding school. Check out on-line open courseware from MIT, dual enrollment courses, start a new EC or club, and focus on what kind of colleges you want to visit. At boarding school, you would not have much time for those things. Take advantage of being home.</p>

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<p>Nicely said, Albion.</p>

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<p>A good reminder for everyone 2prepmom. Think about others when you get/give/ask about decisions.</p>

<p>My kids have spring break after M10, so it gives everyone a chance to process their emotions (happy or sad) before they get back to school and have to share with others.</p>

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<p>2prepmom oh! what you wrote was so nice, it made me feel better and a bit more optimistic about M10 thank you</p>