<p>Hello, I am lilmelonred younger brother. Im 16 years old. My mom has schizophrenia. After 2 years after my sister posted, the situation has gotten worse. If you dont know my sister story it in the second post or here .... My mom schizophrenia has gotten so bad that 2 days after her last hospital treatment(4 months after my sister posted) she started hallucinating again.10 days ago she was holding me and my dad down because she was deny treatment for 6 months and for the first time in my life I had to call the police to deal with her(it was a stressful decision to make)My sister was my real parent for most of my life because my dad is always out working.She will take care of me when my mom was hospitalized She was my guiding light in life and she was the one that inspired me to be sucessful. I have always been dealing with challenges in life.... I got left backed in 1st grade(ADHD), I stoled from my parents(Multiple occassions), and always have subpar grades compared to my sister. I feel terrible throughout my life because I couldnt meet the expectations that my sister upholded. I tried so hard and managed to get in over 500 hours of volunteer and had a internship. However,my grades slipped during sophmore year(at that time the stress of having to look over my mom constantly(When her symptoms were at the worst she gotten into numerous fights with the other neighbors and even threaten the landowner) and without my sister guidance took a toll on my motivation) Now my mom is hospitalized and I had to grow up so fast in order to survive. I used to had my sister to look and depend but she isnt with me anymore. I had to learn to cook,do my laundry, and other chores on my own. Now no one can help me set up goals in life or help me for school. I cry every time I look back in my life. I couldnt surpass my sisters in anyway by grades or achievement when they sacrificed 10 years to raise me properly.I shouldnt have to deal with this and my sister shouldnt shoulder this burden one bit. My father is just as unhelpful as before. Im 16 and I live on my own I have to decide my grades on my own and I have to survive on my own.Now How do I cope with my 86 average and a failed class... How can I ever reach Nyu stern now? How can I bring back my motivation as I had with my sister? She tells me to stop shooting for the stars but deep down I know she wanted me to shoot towards the stars. How can I deal with this without negatively impacting who I am truly am?</p>
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<p>Jet- you need a grownup’s help.</p>
<p>Guidance counselor, social worker, your pediatrician- is there anyone in your life right now (your real life, not a message board) who knows your situation???</p>
<p>You sound like a terrific kid- is there someone who is involved with your family who can get you access to the kind of resources you need???</p>
<p>Only my sister…but she is away into college… I couldnt tell anyone else outside of my familly in real life because my sister fears that social workers can take me away just like what my sister said in her post. I want to see my mom smile someday for the first time in my life. I want my sister to be relieved that she took care of me, She gotten a full ride through Nyu Heop and went on to be sucessful</p>
<p>the scariest thing I ever faced was when my sister left for college and your food stamp income dropped by almost 60 dollars. Then having your sister tell you that you also have to fear hunger.It strucked a primordial vein in me to push myself harder</p>
<p>Ditto- you need help from grownups. Do not be afraid of social services. You need to look after yourself by letting others help you. You are not a little kid anymore so you will have more voice in what happens. Do not continue to hobble along crippled by your circumstances. Let grownups help you utilize the resources that can make a huge difference in your future.</p>
<p>The only way for you to access the services, government programs, etc. is to get a social worker involved.</p>
<p>If you are affiliated with a religious organization perhaps you can start with your pastor/religious leader? Our society is set up to help kids in your situation. You are very brave by posting here, but if you are at the point where the loss of your sister’s food stamps means the rest of the family is going hungry, you need a grownups help.</p>
<p>Big big hug.</p>
<p>I agree with the comments above but must also encourage you not to fixate on one part of one school – NYU Stern.</p>
<p>There are many possible educational paths for you.</p>
<p>Please get some help from an adult. Not just for you, but it also sounds like your mom needs help and your dad isn’t able to deal with the situation. If you won’t take your situation outside the family, is there an adult relative who can help? Grandparents? Aunt or uncle? Do they know your situation?</p>
<p>I also agree with momfromme. It’s not worth fixating on any one college program. You have many educational options and you should research them. If your academic record isn’t good enough for NYU, there are many other paths to success.</p>
<p>Would any of your friend’s families help out?</p>
<p>jetpotion, It’s not totally clear what your situation is and what is the current dilemma. Is your mom in long term hospitalization now, and is she going to come home? is your dad still working in another state and coming home one day a week? Are you living alone in the house? Are you a junior or a senior? if I’m not wrong, you have two older sisters, lilmelonred at NYU and your oldest sister who is a few years out of college and living with boyfriend. And there is also your aunt, your mom’s older sister who she trusts, right?</p>
<p>You bring up two issues: figuring out a stable living situation, and making decisions about your college/life options and how to proceed. The first will impact the second, as you need safety and stability to do well in school, and succeed in creating and achieving goals. Figuring out a tenable living situation is your priority right now, and the rest will follow. You need to have a family conference with your sisters, maybe your aunt and your father to make a plan that works for you; bringing in social services may be in your very best interests right now since you need support and you need to take advantage of what resources are available to you to stabilize your life. Your path will not be the same as your sisters. NYU is very far from your only option, and will not likely be your path. There is a future for you but you don’t need to be able to see it all right now. Put one foot in front of the other, first things first…please ask for help. You need it, you deserve it and you will get it if you reach out. </p>
<p>The connectivity and trust that we used have are pretty much inadequate because my family are all over the place… Right now our biggest plan to get a counselor this time to make sure my mom takes drugs but her mental cognition will get worse and worse over the years till the point she may even cease to function (she only 49 years old and judging on the fact how her symptoms have gotten really bad in 6 years). But I do know we are going to settle down and talk family matters for the first time in the near future. You know Nyu stern isnt my only school. I just want to go to a top undergrad business school so I can one day work at wall street and achieve the greatest dream possible. You know, even though I grew up with no money I always love the concept of investing because I always planned out the future.When I manage to get wall street journal for free from my entrepreneurship class I got extremely involved with my interest . So I seeked out simulators and found investopedia. Using the wall street journal I managed to pull in 287 percent returns at a proftolio net worth of 398k with a starting investment of 100k and ranked 50 among 700,000 experience traders(except for the rank 1 guy he cheated ;p). I sometimes go on the computers during the entrepreneurship to trade with the newly released info from the wall street journal in the morning. Idk I just love stat memorization and then apply it. I just wished that it was all real money to prove something I can accomplish. I know I want to work at wall street someday because I love interesting tough work that rewards with tangible assets(I been mostly deprived of this in my entire life and only the know the reward of a grade) . However, whatever I will do I just want to see my mom in joy that all that counts. Thank you people for making me realize the options I have and I will get help to build my future that I dream.</p>
<p>You can end up at NYU Stern, but it might not be a direct path. You should look at ways to be on the path towards an excellent business school. For example, if you were able to work for a few years and prove yourself, that would help you get into a great business school. And starting college a little older might be good for you.</p>
<p>As for your mom - it sounds like you and your sister had to be caregivers for her. That is very sad for children to have to deal with. But you do have a future, you might cry about your past and present, but smile for your future ahead of you.</p>
<p>You have a lot of circumstances that make it impressive that you managed to maintain an 86 average. A mentor might really help you - someone at your school (not one of your teachers though) or church or a community center. </p>
<p>" I just want to go to a top undergrad business school so I can one day work at wall street and achieve the greatest dream possible." - Wall street would not be my cup of tea due to the high stress. But if it is yours… t there are probably many paths to get there. Know that there will be lots of us cheering you on! </p>
<p>the biggest insecurity I have is my GPA… I suck at spanish and I so far start math with a 80… though I thrive in my honors and ap classes… Idk at this point should I abandon all hope as a junior with the current stats I have… Or should I keep trying and aim 3 ap exams,3 subject exams and a 2150 sat…</p>
<p>jet - You have accomplished a lot, despite significant family challenges. That is great 
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<p>Please reach out to your GC (Guidance Counselor) or a special teacher. They will probably have advise to help you leverage your talents and sort through college prep priorities. </p>
<p>How marginally a difference is a heop student from regular admissions? 10% 20 % I know my Gpa wont be the greatest at the end but I do believe I can improve my SAT scores by a long run</p>
<p>Contact these people and tell your story/ask your questions:</p>
<p><a href=“http://phoenixscholars.org”>http://phoenixscholars.org</a>
<a href=“http://www.questbridge.org”>http://www.questbridge.org</a></p>
<p>how do I use phoenix scholars?</p>
<p>I happened to re-visit. Please tag me so I know to read a post, if you need a response. I think the “season” likely opens in January/February. I would use the “Contact Us” form to let them know you are interested, and that you could use some immediate advice. </p>