<p>As annoyed as I get at know-it-alls (and that’s the stance OP started with,) I see a difference in his tone as the thread evolved. As I mentioned, I’ve worked with many outliers and many of them had successful lives. It’s when there is conflict, when wheels feel off the track, when anger dominates, when others complain or cause issues, whatever, that a good therapist can help. </p>
<p>As some mentioned, it’s not always about finding fault or labeling. Some of the outliers I knew surprised me by having therapists- just as a handrail, so to speak, someone who would listen without judging and occasionally offer ideas about how to view things differently, etc. As they passed through the initial stages, they did not have the burden of a weekly schedule.</p>
<p>The experience for a younger child can be quite different, because they have no (or very little) insight of their own- and no control. And, who knows what climate of blame or frustration parents and teachers have created. Over 18, there is privacy vis-a-vis parent involvement, (at least in the US.) It’s very important for teens and young adults to find someone experienced with this age group. They understand so much about the pressures and patterns. That can mean changing counselors (which can be a source of stress.) In general, it’s worth it.</p>