<p>I think the title says it all! Well, I hope it does! :) please help! I'm kind of shy towards girls, not socially awkward, just shy. Thanks :)</p>
<p>First ya gotta just be more comfortable with yourself. I’m an alright looking guy, certainly no George Clooney and I could lose some weight. But I’m comfortable with myself around most women. I’m not some chest-beating Jersey Shore steroid-pumpin’ alpha male, I’m just comfortable and confident in myself. </p>
<p>Next, just meet women. Don’t go around hunting for a date, go around meeting women. If she seems nice and if she seems like she’s into you, then you just gotta ask her (either in person or over the phone, DON’T text her) if she’d like to go out with you some time (make sure you use that kind of wording). </p>
<p>The hardest part is actually doing the asking, I know. Just give yourself a pep talk before you do it: realize that whether this girl rejects you or not is NO indication of what kind of person you are. She simply isn’t into you, accept it and move on. Or maybe she is into you and she accepts. Either way you’ve got nothing to lose by asking (don’t say “except my dignity,” it’s a date rejection not some sort of nationally televised scandal).</p>
<p>For instance, I met this girl in my econ class. She seemed pretty nice, so I hung out with her and a friend (normally this is risky because it might make you seem like you’re only interested in her as a friend). I flirted with her a lot the whole time, basically you wanna hint at the fact that you’re into her like that. Left for winter break, kept in touch a few times throughout break, then I called her the other day and asked her out on a date. She said yes. All it took was some time and a leap of faith.</p>
<p>Much better to casually watch a movie in the dorm or go eat together in a dining hall before you actually ask her on a “date.” Studying together is also a good start.</p>
<p>Thanks! I mean I’m not bad looking, not overweight, I’m in good shape (I have been an athlete all my life but I’m not playing for my college), but there’s one thing that kind of worries me: The fact that that I’m not white (I’m not black nor indian nor asian). I’m just tan (like light brown). Is there anything I can do to help my confidence? Thanks! And btw the way awesome story bro, thanks for sharing :)</p>
<p>Ask your friends what’s your problem with the ladies, if you can take the criticism.
Maybe you come off arrogant when in fact you are reserved and quiet.
Or you don’t make eye contact and that is misinterpreted as disinterested when in fact you are bashful and get too nervous around the ladies.</p>
<p>@battlo thanks ill probably do that! But I mean I have girls that are friends but how do I just walk up to a random girl and get her to like me? Or should I try to ask a friend out? Haha so many things to do that I have no idea!</p>
<p>Pick one or two gal pals that know you best to run reconnaissance for you.
You can ask them to help you find a girl that you probably know or have seen around to ask to coffee</p>
<p>Don’t walk up to random girls… you don’t know how to read the social cues and it is creepy if you have no game or game plan.
Need a fashion makeover?
Fresh haircut, clothes (no team sports jerseys), grooming(no more Axe), again, your gal pals can offer suggestions.
Women like men with confidence.
Good luck.</p>
<p>@battlo u got me with the sports jerseys! What should I do? Change my clothes? I mean everything else is good about me (no axe :p,nice haircut). I’ve never had a girfriend before so its tough for me :/</p>
<p>You have to start casually. It’s much easier to ask a girl to come watch a movie or come eat with you and your friends than it is to ask her out on a date.</p>
<p>Some people simply start later than others. I had a number of fix-ups in college but didn’t really date until after graduation. Look for non-dating activities where there is a mix of guys & gals, meet some of the gals, let it flow from there.</p>
<p>Every college has social dancing clubs & classes. Pick one. Cost is free or cheap, awkward novices are expected and encouraged, you are 100% guaranteed to meet people and may develop a passion & skill women appreciate.</p>
<p>I completely agree with starting casually. I met my boyfriend through some other friends, and when we first hung out we just played magic the gathering or team fortress 2. Eventually we got to be good friends, we went on a nice walk in the woods with my dog and then dinner for our first date. 
Start slow, see where things go.</p>
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<p>You don’t. There’s not really any way to “get” a girl to like you. She’ll either find you charming and attractive or she won’t. And “cold-calling” random girls is a crapshoot. I think it’s best to meet girls in classes, in clubs and through friends. The first two because of common interests, the third one because like tends to stick with like… in other words, if she’s friends with your friend then you two would probably get along well.</p>
<p>Don’t overhaul your wardrobe. I won’t be in a fashion catalogue any time soon with my day-to-day wear and yet I landed a date. Just dress neatly and make sure your clothes are clean.</p>
<p>Mike Jones:</p>
<p>I counsel patience on your part. I was very lame with girls until I hit about 23 years old, and actually, the truth be told, was not totally proficient in the dating game until around age 30. Then, I did great.</p>
<p>Your time will come.</p>
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Girls notice clothing, so definitely start the overhauling. Look through maybe an Express magazine or online to find looks that you think look sharp, chill, whatever you’re going for. Then go to a thrift store and start buying, it shouldn’t break the bank at first. It’s good to make any transition gradual- it will take at least one year to complete. </p>
<p>The key will not only be picking clothes that bring out the best in you, but picking items that are comfortable.</p>
<p>okay zoolander</p>
<p>Coming for a guy who was once painfully shy and a pushover… It all starts with YOURSELF. Girls like guys who are: Confident, Take care of themselves (demonstrable threw their appearance), have a drive of something (your in college so thats a start), and stands his ground (refer back to confidence).<br>
-Like previous posters explain. Do the friendly approach, talks to girls in your class or clubs, or even that you see around often. Get to know their interest and see how they match to yours… The ones you get a good energy from, take a step further, invite her out with some your friends (and hers) things keep going north, then purpose to hanging out by your selves, at this point you should be getting idea (and so should she) that there is good tension to go further.
-Pay attention…If a girl likes you, chances are she will hint at it at times. Often times, the guys who struggle with asking a girl out, often miss these.
Biggest problem I see over and over again is: They WAY over think the situation and become so afraid of rejection that they just flat out walk away from the situation, which accomplishes nothing=and they repeat and repeat the cycle<I know so, I was once like this (and chances are they blame the girl(s) not them self for the lack of progress)</p>
<p>You are a fine looking, motivated, talented ______, focused college student with a bright future ahead of you. A girl would be lucky to have your company!</p>
<p>Very good point about not bein’ afraid of rejection. The sooner you get over your fear of it the better, and the only way to do so is to ask girls out on dates! Remember, nothing to lose and everything to gain. No guts no glory.</p>
<p>Read “The Game” by Neil Strauss! Can solve your confidence worries. good luck</p>
<p>I would take the confidence advice with a grain of salt. Being confident doesn’t necessarily mean you have to be loud, firm or manly. If you’re quiet, then don’t try to be loud. Conversely, don’t pursue girls just because they’re hot. If you’re finding yourself having to change to accommodate someone else, that’s not going to work.</p>
<p>I know it’s cliched, but just be yourself and don’t let the nerves get to you. Also, a little beer does help.</p>
<p>Its not really.confidence advice per se, but just to give you another perspective! The ending makes the.book worthwhile. </p>
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