<p>I don't know why college is just different!</p>
<p>In high school, girls and guys see each other everyday, in class, etc. In clubs, etc. Hence, I felt that it was much more natural for 2 people to "go together". The drama comes naturally, with no force involved.</p>
<p>However, at college, I think it's different. You barely know the people in your classes. You hang out like once a week...</p>
<p>So, people tell me..."If you think that chick is hot, just go up to her and ask what she did last weekend. Start talking to her." OK...well, I think that's stupid and unnatural. I never had to do that in high school. I didn't have to intentionally "approach" someone. It now seems forced in a way...what do you think?</p>
<p>Ok , I'll admit it. I don't go out on weekends because I'm too busy. But high school itself provided me with a 8am-3pm environment which I could naturally develop relationships. I like her, she likes me, dot dot dot, chat at lunch, AIM at night...and its fun. I know people, and everyone knows each other...it's so well connected and relationships flow so naturally. I feel so alone in college :(</p>
<p>if you have smaller classes (like weekly discussions for the class you are taking), club meetings, tutorial groups, any routine small gatherings, etc and you see someone you are interested in, it's probably easier to go for him/her then. OR maybe you're with a friend who is with a cute guy/girl friend. you can introduce yourself and chat with them. </p>
<p>It's also not as "weird" to go for the person early on (first week of classes of a new quarter/semester/year) even if you are only a little bit interested in or want to learn more about the person (you can always make the decision to just be friends or whatever). early on is good timing b/c pretty much everyone in that class is a stranger and wont mind talking to someone new. so sit next to that person and chat it up. i sometimes talk about the course ("how do you think of ochem so far? pretty damn hard huh? how are you holding up?" or something like that to get the convo going)...because if obviously we're in the same class we already have a common topic we can talk about. or you can comment on something you notice about the person..clothing, style, shoes, etc). plus, you know you will see the person routinely since he/she is in that small class. </p>
<p>If you think the person is perhaps interested back or even just friendly, you can ask if you wanna hang out (i usually dont ask the first time i meet someone im interested in..maybe do it after the second time we meet/chat).</p>
<p>then depending on how you guys react when hanging out, you can make the next judgement (maybe get her number if youre still interested). perhaps you might want to hang out a little more before you can get a feeling of your relationship (friends, potential gf/bf, etc) with each other. maybe you guys will move on to the next step, and you can ask her out on a date.</p>
<p>note that in college, lots of people are busy and may not want to take on a relationship yet, but may date around. so...dont get your hopes up to high. just go with it and see what happens. and have FUN on the way. dont worry too much about finding someone. opportunities will present itself. you just need to be confident and be cool about it. things will happen. good luck!</p>
<p>that's like talking to strangers...</p>
<p>wow...doesn't sound like you meet new people very well. Good luck surviving college as everyone will be new. I hope you're a hs underclassman and have some time to gain social confidence.</p>
<p>Ack! mommy always told me not to talk to strangers!! <em>runs in circles</em></p>
<p>Eh, just introduce your self...talk..be arkward!</p>