<p>So here's the deal. I am a freshman who lives on campus. My roommate and suitemate became great friends and the 3 of us decided to look for an apt for next academic year.</p>
<p>Now, I found a studio apt thats great for me...my own toilet...my own kitchen. The price and everything is approx. the same.</p>
<p>How do I tell my 2 great friends that I want to get my own place without spoiling the relationship? Not to mention that their plans would get messed up too. They will have to either get studios like me or start from scratch on a 2 bedroom...</p>
<p>Apparently they’re not that great of friends if you’re planning on leaving them high and dry.</p>
<p>(I found living with people I was good friends with to be a lot better than living alone.)</p>
<p>You need to tell them right away, and just be honest that you think this will be a better arrangement for all involved-- if you would rather live alone you are not going to be pleasant to be around anyway. The longer you put it off trying to figure out how to manage their reaction, the worse it’s going to be because they’ll have less time to make other arrangements. Get to it.</p>
<p>Umm…I just kinda like my own space (especially after being in the dorm scene…ugh). Its a matter of individual choice, not the question of how good friends we are…</p>
<p>You should tell them, that you thought you would save money by living together, and that was your biggest motive, but since you found out that it’s the same price, it would be more worth it for you to live alone.</p>
<p>I had a similar situation where I looked for a place for me and 2 friends to live, paid a holding deposit, but I got accepted to another school. I told them that I wanted to go to the other school, so I won’t be able to live with them. Since they are good friends, they knew that my decision was better for me, and understood. I apologized but they weren’t upset or anything, but they did have to find a 2 br without much time and choice.</p>
<p>What I would do is talk with your friends, and tell them that you’re thinking about living alone. After thinking about it a bit more, you can decide what to do, and tell them your final decision, but do it fast.</p>
<p>Find someone who can replace you in the living arrangement–preferably someone all three of you know.</p>
<p>That’s the only way you’re not screwing them. Let them know fast, too.</p>
<p>Move. I don’t care how great of friends they are, in the end YOU are going to have to pass and graduate. You said you prefer your own space, go for it. Sounds like they are not great friends if your afraid of spoiling the relationship over a preference and asking for our advice.</p>
<p>how many “true” friends does one meet in their life time?</p>
<p>if you consider these people your “true” “real” whatever you want to call it friends.</p>
<p>then stay. if not. do you, in the end what you do is what matters. lawlerblades.</p>
<p>It’s selfish to spoil there plans just because you found something that you prefer. But if you’re ok with being selfish then tell them quick to soften the blow.</p>
<p>“Listen, I know we were planning on all rooming together next year but I’ve found a single that I’m going to move into instead. It’s nothing personal, I just want my own space.”</p>
<p>Sounds like you guys haven’t paid deposits yet, so no big deal. And as long as you mention you’re not leaving them for some other roommates, you don’t sound like that big of a jerk.</p>