<p>hey everyone.... so i was in this long distance relationship with a girl... and now she's in college, and we broke up back in october, and now she's with someone else. but i still can't seem to get over her. i really liked her, and i think she really liked me but the whole long distance thing wasn't working for her.</p>
<p>whats the best way to get over her?</p>
<p>thanks</p>
<p>You can get over people when you convince yourself completely that you do want to get over them. It’s not in the least easy, but the day that you’re ready to really let go, you will. At least that’s what works for me. I tell myself that we are better off apart, and that neither of us had anything positive to gain from the other. Maybe we weren’t supposed to be together. After all, if people care enough to make something work, they usually can. Tell yourself that firmly and it’ll help with the healing. You’ll find someone better 
I’ll usually get involved in a new, challenging activity or pour my heart into an old one. This helps with the distraction process, and when you find yourself excelling at something, it boosts your self-esteem and you tend to get over a person much more easily. Best of luck.</p>
<p>It takes time. That’s basically it. You WILL get over her someday, it’s inevitable, until then just distract yourself somehow.</p>
<p>Get under someone else. No, I’m kidding, but the only way to get over someone is to not dwell on them, try not to think about them, try not to talk to or hang out with them for a while, and find something else to distract you from it. It’ll get better with time.</p>
<p>it really just takes time and some times meeting someone else can really help</p>
<p>same thing happened to me in october except my ex boyfriend was the one that left to college, not me…
i know how hard it is, i’m still going through it too, but i can tell you what makes it better for me…
tell yourself that it’s over, and try not to reminisce on the good times you had with her…and every time you do, remind yourself again that it’s not like that anymore…that’s the hardest thing to do, but you have to make yourself do it…it’ll end up helping you
also, don’t try to keep in touch with her or stay friends right now…even if you guys ended on a good note and you want to be friends in the future, don’t now. it’ll be too hard, it’ll keep you from getting over her…
if you can, delete her off of facebook, chat, everything now. you might not want to, but if you can’t get over her, seeing her online/what she’s doing etc won’t help…
most importantly-remind yourself that she’s not yours anymore and that it is over…once you do that, it will get easier over time… and also-spend lots of quality time with friends and family, and focus your energy on hobbies/sports etc…keep yourself busy
good luckk</p>
<p>there’s a thread that’s called “erase mushy feelings for your crush” or something that I see every once in a while. try that out</p>
<p>Listen to music. It may not seem like an ideal remedy when you think of it, but there are so many songs that revolve around broken relationships and breakups that you will be able to relate. Music is pretty damn powerful, especially in emotional situations… It’ll help you feel more empowered (for lack of a better word) and allow you to move on.</p>
<p>i know how you feel. i still can’t get over my ex either and its been a few months now.
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<p>You have to force yourself to feel happy and enjoy what you have going for you. Spend a day pampering yourself (I couldn’t thing of a less girly way to put that, so I apologize)–shower, shave, clean your room (you’re a guy, so I assume it’s disgusting lol), and pick out a nice outfit. Then go out with your guy friends and enjoy guy things you couldn’t do with a girlfriend. Check girls out obviously, flirt, shamelessly text your attractive female friends, play video games for hours because there’s no one to ask what you’re doing and why are you spending so much time on that useless game? Basically, cross every line that was there with a girlfriend.</p>
<p>Then ask your guy friends to set you up on some dates. Desperate? Maybe. But by forcing yourself to appreciate new girls and what they have to offer–even if they’re not the complete gf package your last girl was–forces you forward. Don’t mope. Don’t wallow. </p>
<p>And I read somewhere that most people are back to their pre-relationship levels of happiness within six or eight (something like that) weeks after breaking up…you seem to be right on the cusp of that, so hang in there!</p>
<p>^ I concur.</p>