<p>There's this one guy (I'm a guy too) who has started following me to several of my classrooms, and it's pretty creepy. I can't just tell him to back off because he doesn't have many friends of his own and I would feel like a jerk afterwards. Is there any way to get him off my back without having to sprint out of every class and make excuses to leave every time he starts creeping on me?</p>
<p>To get the ball rolling, I’ve tried ignoring him completely but he makes his presence obvious even when it’s VERY obvious I don’t want to talk to him…</p>
<p>You could talk to him. Then you guys will be conversing, not in some sort of odd (creepy) succession in the hallways.</p>
<p>oh, why don’t you want to talk to him?</p>
<p>Yeah… thing is, He won’t STOP talking. I do make normal conversation with him, so it doesn’t look that creepy to others, but that’s not really my problem. My problem is that I don’t know how to let him know that I don’t really want to hang out (I’m not a jerk or anything, he’s just one of those people, you know?).</p>
<p>I guess i don’t want to talk to him is
(1) because all he talks about is school:
Him: Hey, how about that AP US Hist Test? Is that on Wednesday?
Me: Yeah. (For the 3rd Time)</p>
<p>(2) He tries really hard to be funny
(3) He talks badly of other students behind their backs
(4) He’s really immature (Not in the joking sense where someone makes a sexual pun, he’s actually immature)</p>
<p>He probably just is lonely and wants to talk to others and since you talk back to him, he feels like he can talk to you. (Like when you feed a stray dog… it just keeps coming back)</p>
<p>Try to get another friend or two to talk to him. It sounds like he just needs friends and is only comfortable talking to you right now because you haven’t rejected him or given him any visible sign that you don’t like him.</p>
<p>Yeah AUGirl, I was feeling the same way, which is why I feel kinda bad for him. I guess I’ll put forth some serious effort into finding someone for him.</p>
<p>Ok, those are very reasonable and understandable objections to his ‘creeping’.
I guess he’s probably attached to you, because your one of the few who don’t reject him.</p>
<p>If he is immature and all those things - well, there are plenty of people like that, so I have a hard time understanding why he doesn’t have more friends, unless there are more outstanding problems.</p>
<p>In an ideal world, you would probably would have a serious conversation with him, where you tell him everything that’s bothering you, and ask him how he feels, etc, etc. And you guys would come to some satisfying agreement. However, he seems (from how you describe him) incapable of this sort of thing.</p>
<p>If you can reject him, then I would, i guess. Your behavior towards him makes it seem that this might be difficult for you to do, though. I mean, the rejections he’s faced before (assuming he has faced some) haven’t seemed to phase him. So maybe you can realize it won’t hurt him much? The thing is though, an outright rejection is easier to take than a rejection of a friendship (which he might perceive to have been formed). In that case rejection might actually hurt him. Who knows.</p>
<p>don’t feed the ■■■■■■</p>
<p>^Or stray puppies either :/</p>
<p>why not :(? </p>
<p>well, I fed a stray raccoon two nights ago. They are astonishingly nimble, and, would you have it, cute. I flung some chinese food out my window to it (it was in the our trash can). But I shouldn’t feed the stray raccoons. It has to traverse a busy street to get to my house, which means that paradoxically it might die if I keep feeding it and giving it an incentive to visit. Hm, but that’s the opposite of how ■■■■■■ work isn’t it. But I guess that makes sense. Raccoons aren’t ■■■■■■, but the same rules apply to them (but for different reasons).</p>
<p>There was this adorable little stray puppy that seemed to have been abandoned that I saw once a few months ago. It followed me about like a lost puppy and I had to shoo it away while feeling like a monster.</p>
<p>I’ve never seen a raccoon. I suppose you’d have to consider the odds of them being run over vs. starving to death.</p>
<p>Your lost puppy probably found a home on account of its adorableness. At least I hope it did. My raccoon won’t find a home, but I think (unlike your lost puppy) it can survive in the wild. There’s a large park next to my apartment with lots of squirrels.</p>