How to get the girl.

Pre-College Issues High School Life
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<p>So after seeing countless threads on these boards, with desperate pleas "how do I say hi?!?!" "omg she looked at me she likes me"...I figured I would clear up some misconceptions. Everyone agrees that every girl is different, I mean come on, some are going to like your romance poems about how her hair matches the sun and others...are going to mark you off as crazy. </p>

<p>The number one way to get the girl of your dreams is to get her attention. This applies to all situations, whether you've been friends with her since 5th grade or if she doesn't even know your name. When you're on her mind, that means she's thinking about you. And if you can't get her thinking about you, then really you don't have a chance.</p>

<p>But how do you get her attention, you ask...and in a good way? We really aren't that complex, and we really do value the simple things. </p>

<p>Make us laugh. If you can't talk one-on-one, try making a joke in class...she'll notice. Dress in a really funny shirt for spirit week...she'll notice. Make up a new saying and write it on your car...she'll notice. Seriously, if we think you're funny then you're half way there. </p>

<p>Always smell fresh and clean. Wear nice shirts...take showers, use cologne. But one key thing is to NOT BLEND IN. All guys wear collared shirts, jeans, and that's it. B-O-R-I-N-G. If you really want her attention then you have to have something trademark. This doesn't mean dress like 50 cent, it means have something that is YOU. Let's use the CC example...if you really want to go to so and so school maybe always have a keyring of the college or wear flip-flops, or a baseball cap of it. Maybe you like a certain band and wear the band of it, ANYTHING that is YOU.</p>

<p>And after doing all of these things, and she likes you, she'll do the rest. She'll start telling her friends, and somehow, someway you'll just happen to listen in on a conversation that she has a crush on you. You'll know when she likes you, trust me. If you're even questioning if she likes you or not then she probably doesn't. </p>

<p>So what happens if you swear you followed every guideline, tried not to act too weird, and even made a really funny joke and she says no. Move on. If she doesn't like you for who you are, she isn't worth it anyway. The last thing you need is a girl who's not interested in the real you...that relationship would be over as quick as it started. </p>

<p>Well hope I've helped...LADES FEEL FREE TO ADD ON, I COULDN'T POSSIBLY COVER EVERYTHING</p>

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<p>lern2social
kthx</p>

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So after seeing countless threads on these boards, with desperate pleas "how do I say hi?!?!" "omg she looked at me she likes me"...I figured I would clear up some misconceptions. Everyone agrees that every girl is different, I mean come on, some are going to like your romance poems about how her hair matches the sun and others...are going to mark you off as crazy.

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I think those threads were started by myself. ;) In all seriousness, the "how do you know if she likes me" was based out of curiosity, and I really had no interest in those girls that I mentioned. </p>

<p>I'm questioning the grab her attention method. I believe that a little can work extremely well, but when it gets out of hand, one can end up being more obnoxious than likable. I have a tendency of letting it get out of hand. </p>

<p>Most people here answered that the girl would smile, etc... of course that wouldn't work for all: <a href="http://sg.answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AodInvC6yrq6BG5wsgwvz1EDDBV.;_ylv=3?qid=20071026163925AA3iFCw%5B/url%5D"&gt;http://sg.answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AodInvC6yrq6BG5wsgwvz1EDDBV.;_ylv=3?qid=20071026163925AA3iFCw&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p>

<p>But good tips, and thanks. I like making people laugh :)</p>

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<p>For intelligent guys: find that lovely balance between ridiculously dumb and obnoxiously smart...i.e., don't rub it in our faces but don't just sit there drooling when the teacher asks you something either.</p>

<p>Also, WASH YOUR HAIR.</p>

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<p>LOL wash your hair ;)
ya...I can't stand smelly hair...
On anyone...I'm not gay :)
Not that there's anything WRONG with that...</p>

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<p>sticky this...
awesome post</p>

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<p>Always smell fresh and clean?</p>

<p>Lool! I heard some girls like when a man smells!!!</p>

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Lool! I heard some girls like when a man smells!!!

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<p>i dont. /<em>/</em>/</p>

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Lool! I heard osme girls like when a man smells!!!

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<p>You would. You're French.</p>

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<p>French exchange happening at my school right now. Girls are falling like leaves for the French guys. I am jealous. </p>

<p>Les fran</p>

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<p>I concur...good hygiene is an absolute prerequisite. Clean hair, clean skin (no grease under the nails), no uni-brows and deodorant is a must. </p>

<p>Guys who smell...European or not...are the WORST!! I've had to move to the back of the bus when the odorous ones get on...OY!!! Are these people missing olfactory cells or something??</p>

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<p>I think everyone here's forgotten the key ingredient to love: luck.</p>

<p>Something I've had very little of, but hey. I'm guessing it'll come around eventually.</p>

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<p>Wear Old Spice. ^_^ I absolutely ADORE Old Spice on a man.</p>

<p>Seriously, smelling good is a must.</p>

<p>Also: DON'T SPRAY AXE ALL OVER THE PLACE. That stuff is gross.</p>

<p>Be yourself. I know it's cliche, but if a girl finds out you've been lying just to get her attention by the end of the day all the other girls will know about it.</p>

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<p>Haha I wish I could give other guys a set formula as to how one goes about getting the girl. But I really think people try and over-simplify things. It is the guy who treats it as a science that will always come up short. Each girl is different and you can't approach all of them the same way with the same tactics. Trust me, every girl I have ever had a serious crush on has somehow ended up my girlfriend. I don't know why and I wish I could explain it. Obviously it starts with attention. Show interest and make yourself stand out a bit. Alot of times, I will meet a girl in a large group. I try my best to distinguish myself and keep her attention for myself. Another good idea is to play your interest off as simple friendship. She will probably get the hint that you are interested in her, but nothing needs to be overt. Just be subtle in your words and actions and what lies beneath them will always become evident. After establishing the friendship and the connection, do the little things that give hints. Pay for something for her once in awhile, do something sweet. One thing that I rememeber doing is listening to every damn word the girls say, and repeating back some odd fact a month later. Girls absolutely adore a guy who listens intently to what they have to say, even when it is just chatter.<br>
Just let things flow. Don't force things to happen too fast. On the other hand, don't let opportunities pass you by. Some girls will only be willing to give you one real chance. And if you don't manage to seal the deal in time, you are done. Listen to what she likes in a guy, and try ad embody what she says. Don't act like someone you are not. Simply look into yourself and display the qualities she likes that you actaully had in you all along.<br>
Like I said, this isn't a science, and I believe my success in with girls comes because I treat each like an individual. Keep in mind, I am not providing information on how one goes about getting a one-night stand. I would say my information pertains more to getting a girl to date you. I'm assuming this is the info people on here on looking for. Good luck to the guys out there. Don't try too hard because that is always the killer. Just let it flow...</p>

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<p>^^ thanks dr phil.</p>

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<p>wise words. also, don't watch 'hitch' for tips. that movie is terrible. it's designed to make girls everywhere swoon with joy. this is not to say will smith isn't awesome in it. but i digress.</p>

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<p>It's nice when my guy is sweaty and dirty from a good work out, but that's because he actually worked out! Otherwise, smells are a sure way to repulse girls.</p>

<p>Making me laugh is a definite must. Also, confidence is key, but not to the point of being egotistical. Guys who are too concerned about what others think about them (I think this applies to girls, too) do not interest me. Any guy that lets me buy him a carebear and then put it in his car or lets me call him "pookie" in front of his friends is a keeper.</p>

<p>Singing to the girl is always nice, but don't do it if she's not your girl, or else it will be awkward.</p>

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<p>Finally a CC thread not about SATs, GPAs, ECs, teachers ...</p>

<p>So there is this girl in my class, she is the sweetest, most perfect and remarkably pretty girl I know. Seriously, I don't have to know the 6.5 billion people in this world to be confident to say it. We have been friends for the past two years, and I tell you, I make her laugh at least three times a day. Seriously, she even looks over at me anticipating an outburst, remark, or joke. So anyways, her birthday was a few weeks ago, so I wanted to do something special. So (please bear with me, I'm not gay, I thought this was considerate) I made her an Origami flower, a lily, stem, leaf, the works. It was the most realistic flower ever, that I spent a weekend on. I left a note in it saying something along the lines of, 'for a very special Lady, Happy 17th birthday,' and signed it with Pakistan. Pakistan because I am Pakistan in International Relations class, and I thought it would be cooler if she had to connect who gave it to her. Then I had a friend give her the flower after her birthday was announced. But, it turned out, she had already been interested in this other kid, she didn't know I was interested, so I was down. But their relationship lasted 2 weeks, and she was telling me how annoying the kid was.</p>

<p>So I still really like her, and would love to ask her out on a date,</p>

<p>However, here's the thing, I am Muslim.
My family, my parents, my mom, would not have any of this. It seriously would end up me getting disowned and disinherited if I went out with a girl, because of the whole modesty thing. And, this kind of issue is not something you can talk about with your parents, its a no. </p>

<p>So I really like this girl, but can't do anything, and its just in there, in my heart, something for her.</p>

<p>To sum it up in a relevant quote</p>

<p>'Tis better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all" Tennyson</p>

<p>Any thoughts?</p>

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<p>Aww that is so sweet, yet kind of sad. You have three options, I think:</p>

<p>a) Just keep on being friends and don't do anything
b) Date her and be disowned
c) Date her secretly?</p>

<p>Are you allowed to date only at a certain age, or are you only allowed to date Muslim girls?</p>

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<p>You think its sweet yes! </p>

<p>yeah, she said it was the sweetest, most thought out thing anyone has done for her.</p>

<p>Ok, I have thought about the whole on the sly thing, but girls need attention, don't get me wrong, I understand and am fully willing to give my undivided attention, and that means raising questions for my parents. Where is he? Whats he doing? All that just disheartens me.</p>

<p>I really don't know what to do. And its not age or Muslim girls, ts girls in general. Its very strict. .............. but i love her..............</p>