<p>go for it you son of a *****. if your parents don't get it, who cares? cut that damn umbilical cord and do what you gotta do.</p>
<p>It creates mass chaos in my house. Like I didnt talk to my mom for 12 days, and each day we would fight. Oh was it hell.
And its not that I don't have the balls, I am just in a very tight spot.</p>
<p>Relationships generally don't do well if parents don't approve. Otherwise you feel completely guilty and dissatisfied. It's not worth it to ruin a relationship because of those reasons.</p>
<p>So when are you allowed to date?</p>
<p>Hm, I hate cologne. I would either never go out with(, or be near) a guy who wears cologne, or have him stop wearing it. That's just me though.</p>
<p>I hate the idea of telling someone to break their faith or belittling someone's religion, but if not asking this girl out is going to make you unhappy you owe it to yourself to ask this girl out. If you have to go around your parents, do so. If it's too stressful and the relationship ends, it won't be a reflection on anything you've done wrong, and if nothing else you'll have the knowledge that you tried your best to make things work out.</p>
<p>"Finally a CC thread not about SATs, GPAs, ECs, teachers ..."</p>
<p>Ha, you should read my threads.</p>
<p>I really should give an update on my "How to say Hi to a girl" thread, but if I did, everybody on CC would likely crucify me. :)</p>
<p>I'm Muslim too and I can relate to that ^ story very well.</p>
<p>I'm sure I'm not the only person thats been in this dilemma, its always hard between old and new generation. I think I will go forward with it, even though my parents won't know. I hope it works out.</p>
<p>to the Dr.Phil Devilsrule guy, don't you wish an EC could be "Understanding the opposite sex- full time" lol. </p>
<p>And about the clean thing...there's definitely a line. It's okay, and actually kind of hot, when a guy is a little dirty from lets say, playing tennis. But when he is gross and hasn't taken a shower in days smelly...that could be aproblem. Oh and cologne is huge. The key is to make it as subtle as possible. For instance, today I went on this college tour (ha-ha) and there was this guy who was in my group and yes he was extremely cute. But what really stuck him in my mind was when he walked by and I just happened to breath in and wow...he smelt really really good...so good that I'm still thinking about it!! </p>
<p>and akahmed, best of luck to you! I'm sure in your heart you know you are making the right decision. I guess you only live once...</p>
<p>^I know EXACTLY what you mean...I love it when it's subtle but obvious enough that you can notice when they walk by.</p>
<p>sidjenks-I think Hitch has a lot of really true things in it. Now granted it's a movie so it's a little overdramatized, but I think the basic points are good. Especially at the end when Will Smith says, "Basic Principles---there are none." So true. Like others have said, every girl has different and it'll take different things to get her attention.</p>
<p>Good luck, Akahmed. My English Teacher from 10th and 11th grade immigrated here from India and she's in an arranged marriage..but she's told me all kinds of stories about kids who have gone behind their parents' backs and were successful and either are still with the person and have their families' blessingor just don't care about having said blessing. I think this is a situation where you just have to decide what is more important to you.</p>
<p>I just overheard the cutest conversation today. There's this extremely GORGEOUS girl and she was complaining about how she couldn't figure out how to get this guy to like her. And at first I was a little jealous and ****ed, because this girl is really pretty and she actually has a nice personality (even though I don't really like her :)) and of all people she's complaining about not getting guys? But then as she went on, she talked about how she's afraid to commit and how she's had six previous bfs, all with strange issues, and how everyonoe thinks she's a whore when she's a virgin, I actually understood how she felt, and now I really get that, no matter what you look like, or how popular or rich or thin you are, it's always going to be hard to find the one you love.</p>
<p>Princessbell: Thanks for that...so true.</p>
<p>she could also be lying. after all, truth is for nerds. and 'virgin' is a buzzword. just playing devil's advocate.</p>
<p>Something to add on to the original post...
Being funny in class/doing things to get "the girl's" attention is good. However, at some point you obviously have to approach HER. There are many guys that have made me think, "Ha, he's funny. If I get to know him better, I could fall for him." But, I never actually get to know the guy, so I forget about him.</p>
<p>Smell IS really important... The guy that I like now has a really nice smell. =) Wow. I sound creepy.</p>
<p>I was thinking about how ridiculous perfume names (and ads) are, with names like Voyage<a href="pronounced%20Voe-%5BI%5Dya%5B/I%5D-ge">/I</a> or *Obsessions, and the model always looking far off into the distance while the ocean crashes behind them/sun rises/wind blows/etc. So I thought of some new cologne ads.</p>
<p>Introducing:</p>
<p>Consent</p>
<p>By Ralph Lauren</p>
<p>(the picture shows your principal lying on a beach towel in the middle of your gymnasium, legs (and eyes) arched and ready)</p>
<p>RSVP</p>
<p>By Calvin Klein</p>
<p>(picture shows a model with a your Sweet 16 invitation in his teeth)</p>
<p>Fate</p>
<p>By Britney Spears</p>
<p>(picture shows before/after photos of the aforementioned in sepia tones)</p>