So I’m pretty new to american college culture and I am pretty outgoing and love to hang out with my friends. My college started few days ago but my friends somehow gets invited by frat or sorority people they know. I know like two or three frat/sorority people but I never got invited. To be honest, I’m not really that nerdy but I still don’t understand why I dont get invited to their parties. Do I first ask them or text them to invite me? Is there any other way other than “just be friensd with them?” Thanks!
Depends on the school and the type of party. Usually there are house/apartment parties off campus that are open house, so you could just walk right in. Most frats let people in on a ratio, so unless you’re going with a group of girls, your odds of getting in are pretty slim unless you know someone.
One thing you could try is telling the fraternity members that you’re interested in rushing and would like to check out their house. That’s a pretty surefire bet.
RE texting: don’t beg to be invited to a party, that’s a surefire way to not be invited. But what you can do is ask some friends if they’re going out and see if you can join them, then go to a party.
so are you saying i can just walk in without any invitation to most of off campus or open house parties? That’s awesome!
No, it really depends on the university and the student culture there.
What are you hoping to find there?
Forgot:
Some off campus parties have a theme, and the invitees usually know that theme, so you may or may not get in.
i mean… you know, i just wanna hang out with new friends and have some shots and stuff
Be aware that many Greek organizations can get into trouble if they have underage drinkers. The same goes for off-campus parties.
If you ask to be invited, that’s not cool.
Make your own party. Make it super crazy and awesome. You can’t not be invited to your own party.
Options:
- Rush. If the fraternity scene isn’t your cup of tea, then…
- Join a club that might interest you. Make friends there and party with them.
- Meet people in your classes. This works especially well if you establish a study group. You might form social bonds with your groupmates.
- Build on the relationships with the friends you already have.
Be nice, confident, and ready.
And obviously, use your head: never go into a party without someone you know (either at the party expecting you, or with you as you enter it). If you do find yourself at a party knowing nobody, stay sober. Until you know yourself and what you can handle, try to always be with at least one friend.
I agree with prezbucky…You want to get invited to a fraternity party because you have probably seen on TV. But is that what you really want/
Decide if you want to join a fraternity or you want to make friends. If you want to join a fraternity, rush. If you want to make friends, then talk to people in your dorm. Ask if they are heading down to the dining hall. Attend all dorm events. Join clubs. Ask people in your classes if they want to form a study group.
Also tell your friends that you would like to attend a fraternity party…so if they are invited and it is cool for them to ask if you could come too, that would be great.
Also find out if the parties are open or not. You may be able to go…but it would be better to have someone to go with.