<p>A lot of people are asking me where I am applying to college, but I don't want to disclose anything. What is a polite way to let people know that I don't want to talk about it?</p>
<p>Be super vague. For example, I’d say “a couple of liberal arts schools, a few UCs, mostly out of state.” Hopefully, they get the hint.</p>
<p>Say “places.” Keep repeating that until they get the point.</p>
<p>Just be coy. I didn’t tell anyone but my parents where I got accepted (really) or even all the places I was sure I was going to apply until I got in, and only now do I feel comfortable mentioning it. </p>
<p>“Well…I’m not quite sure yet…I’ve got a list, and I’m waiting to see how things go…”</p>
<p>This is an issue for a lot of/most kids. It’s something especially adults seem to ask, just to make conversation. But they don’t stop to realize the ramifications if/when you don’t get in to that college, or if they disapprove of your choice, or if they’re amazed you’d apply there, or their kid gets in but you don’t, etc etc. </p>
<p>While I used to be guilty of asking this, I never do anymore because I “get it” now. When people ask me where my child is applying, I’ve been saying “well, she’ll probably go to State Uni , but she has a few others she’s considering”. I feel safe enough saying this only because she’s already been accepted at our state uni, but it’s really nobody’s business where else she chooses to apply. </p>
<p>If they press, I always shake my head and start with “I don’t know”, or “Who knows”? I add things like “Guess we’ll find out later”, or “She’s been doing a lot of thinking/considering of a lot of different types of schools”. </p>
<p>I have a ton of them. “I don’t know-she’s probably not even done yet”. “We won’t really know for sure until later”. “Don’t want to count any chickens before their hatched”. “Might be bad luck for me to mention them!” “I’m just not really sure what we can afford”. “Who knows, she did all the applications herself” (and that one is true…I just handed my credit card for fees and basiclly “cyber-signed” a couple that required it).</p>
<p>@R124687, Thanks for the post. That’s what my parents are doing, but it would sound really stupid if I always replied something to the effect of “I don’t know where I am applying” haha</p>
<p>Why don’t you want people to know?!</p>
<p>i will say: i dont know, maybe i will to xxcc(random community college)</p>