As a parent my number goal is to raise children that can be independent members of society and support themselves. Sure I want them to be outstanding in school, sports or activities, but that is not the main goal. I have always told them as long as they can support themselves after school that I will be happy with that.
I do believe it is a process and it starts early. I can remember when my D swam club. I was the swim parent. Many mornings we would leave the house before 6:00AM for a meet. I would tell D that if I am not out of my bedroom by say 5:45AM to leave by 6:00AM come wake me up. She one the other hand needed to get up before that to finish packing her bag and food and drink, etc. I never woke up early to make sure she was up. That was her responsibility. I frankly wanted to sleep as long as possible. I knew parents that would pack the bags, suits, food, and drink for their children.
That early development served her well last Summer when she ended up with 3 P/T jobs and had to keep all the schedules straight and show up on time where she was suppose to be. Then that led to handling a bank account herself as well.
She isn’t ready to be out on her own yet, but definitely making progress.