<p>@windrider07: Well, I don’t know exactly what she’s done other than be with me and she buys me stuff sometimes, lol. I think about if it’s really worth it to choose between the two, but I just can’t get her to see that if she truly wanted the best for me just a couple more years of distance would be OK. I did talk to her yesterday and she did reluctantly agree that if it’s too ridiculous for me to pay, then I shouldn’t, but she was depressed all day after that and even now. She was telling me about how burned out she was from school and that she literally wants to quit to come live with me. I find this more plausible for grad school but not undergraduate. I’m broke enough as it is. She says that by going there I would help her cope with her stress, but I’ve always done that all the way from Cali. In fact, the first semester of college she had I devoted my entire time to helping her pass her classes and earn that 3.7 GPA she got that she bragged about to her parents (without thanking me at all and in front of me when I visited) about getting while I let my courses go to hell. This was when she was taking pre-med classes…I did devote another semester to helping her out all the time and didn’t receive much thanks for that either. She says I was a horrible teacher and she wasn’t willing to read the books, but she did buy me the books and had me teach her everything. I basically zombie-moded all my classes. I put my foot down this year though and forced her to do her own work now that she’s just an Art & Psychology major…she has had me do some of her work but she generally does most things by herself now. </p>
<p>Ever since I started this semester though she’s been getting real emotional about everything. </p>
<p>@vanechka: Yes, two years ago. I had tuberculosis and was taking Calc II that summer. Ever since then, I’ve always been going there and I haven’t had any time to spend with my family. I have to go there again but funny enough there are legitimate reasons for me to be there this time…even though it is practically my last summer I get to spend with my family.</p>
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<p>She wants a relationship, but our goals are different. She wants to go to grad school in Kentucky (but is burned out that she wants to come live with me…as a poor undergraduate). I do absolutely not want to go to Kentucky, but I will if that makes the relationship work. She thinks that if I don’t make sacrifices for her because she wants to live in Kentucky for her career (Louisville is a hub she says for Art Therapy and that is also coincidentally where she lives/her family lives) I don’t truly love her. I say that I would, but she doesn’t believe me. I’d tell her that I would, but I wouldn’t be happy. And she’ll come back with you don’t really love me then cause you should be happy anywhere I want to go. Idk, she is being immature about it and I think she’s just being insecure that she’ll lose me to career or success. I did basically tell her that I put school first because what kind of future am I going to have if I don’t? And I really just don’t imagine I have a future in Kentucky as a math/physics person. Living in Kentucky would virtually mean I would never see my parents or family at all. And she hates my family, which is one of the reasons she doesn’t come. </p>
<p>I’ve wanted to come to her school. I truly do, but it is such a huge decision and I feel like if I went there it wouldn’t make much of a difference at all where I went because the only thing that we could really do together is eat lunch, talk to each other in person, and she has basically said that she won’t be around me if I’m studying. I find that kind of ridiculous that she won’t carry on a conversation with me if I’m by myself in the library. I am all about minimizing the costs, but I’ve been with her for four years now and it makes things a little more complicated. Is she worth the money? Yes. But on the amount of return I’ll get from that I have no idea unless I make this leap of faith, I guess. If I want to get what I want out of life career/academic wise, I’d have to invest a lot of my time into studying and when I started listing off what I’d need to take she thinks that it’ll all be a snap. I don’t make decisions until I get into the classroom about whether it will be difficult or not, but she thinks we’ll have a good amount of time to spend together. I don’t know, but I think taking 4 full semesters to finish my education in time is going to suck big time, but I’d still do it. At least in California all my units transferred and I’d probably only have to take around 15. 
I guess I’m trying to have my cake and eat it too…</p>