<p>I hate them. I'm aimlessly trying to figure out how to rid me of them. Help.</p>
<p>Just force yourself you talk and interact with others.</p>
<p>That's what I did when I was shy and quite in like...fifth grade. I was just sick of it so I decided to change it.</p>
<p>When I first started high school i was really shy and quiet because I was going to a completely new school where no one knew me.
This is what I did;
1) I made goals of how many times I had to talk in class or how many new people to talk to
2) join clubs and just try to get involved
3) maybe even joining debate/speech/mun
hope this helps you, kate!</p>
<p>just talk to people, when walking down the halls say to someone i like you're shirt give people compliments, tell jokes etc. I went into middle school not knowing anyone and my goal was to meet most of the school and i did, but 8th grade I was one of the most popular kids. The most important thing is to no be afraid to talk, talk even if you're just making crap up./</p>
<p>Sites with lots of helpful info about overcoming shyness. Was created by one of the world's experts on overcoming this problem.
<a href="http://www.shyness.com/%5B/url%5D">http://www.shyness.com/</a></p>
<p>Some tips from another page with good info:</p>
<p>"Conversation Topics-never leave home without them. Good conversationalists are rarely at a loss for words because: 1) they do so many things and go so many places that they have lots to talk about or 2) they prepare. Good conversationalists never leave home without something to say to the people they think they'll be seeing that day. If they're going to a party, they brush up on topics of interest to the people they know will be attending....."</p>
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<li>Let people know you're shy. .... The obvious way to be shy is to blush, tremble, twitch or otherwise physically manifest your shyness. The not so obvious way is to avoid eye contact with people, not have much to say or decline offers from others you'd like to accept, but that are too far outside of your comfort zone for you to feel comfortable attending. </li>
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<p>Not so obvious shy people are often mistaken as arrogant or aloof---even by fellow shy people--when nothing could be farther from the truth. We're terrified on the inside. It's just that we don't show it on the outside.....</p>
<p>Most people are relieved to hear that you're shy. You see, odds are that unless they have a reason to know better, most people will interpret your not so obvious shyness as a sign of arrogance or being stuck up, or simply as a sign that you don't like them. ....</p>
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<li>Reward effort not outcome! Memorize this one, because it's absolutely critical for conquering your shyness---or anything else you want to master, for that matter. The only thing we can control in our life is our self---and even that can be.... If we smile and they smile back, well good. But if we smile and they don't smile too, we see it as a failure. WRONG!!! You won't get very far that way. ... <a href="http://www.shakeyourshyness.com/Tips.HTM%5B/url%5D">http://www.shakeyourshyness.com/Tips.HTM</a></li>
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<p>I think murder is wrong. :D</p>
<p>Well, I am normally very shy and quiet.</p>
<p>But I just had this job interview for a sales representative position where instead of interviewing the applicants one on one, they had all the applicants(about 15-20) sit around a table and talk for about an hour and the woman would take notes on our conversational skills and ability to talk and stuff.</p>
<p>Now normally I grunt or give yes/no answers or ignore people but that day, with the prospect of a $19/hour job on my mind, I was more lively than a can of worms. I talked and talked and talked and talked.</p>
<p>Well at least you didnt kill anyone! GOSH.</p>
<p>You also can find some good tips by searching CC's archives as every couple of months someone asks for advice on overcoming shyness.</p>