<p>Friendship is one of the things that make me look back at my middle and high schools with a huge smile. It’s a really nice feeling to know that you have friends who deeply care for you, who will make surprises on your birthdays (though the surprise factor is really not that surprising anymore :)), whom you can talk to during times of difficulties or chat with for hours. You don’t PURSUE friendship. It isn’t something to be PURSUED. It is something you get and cherish. </p>
<p>@caramelcorn: I understand what you’ve been going through, since I’m also on my first week at college, but don’t give up. Show up on parties and join clubs, say hi to your classmates even if they don’t return it, show them how nice you are, and hopefully someone will be smart enough to notice that you are a really great friend. Good luck!</p>
<p>One thing that upsets me is that kids who are new like me seem to be adapting a million time faster. I have no clue what I’m doing wrong I’m more outgoing than most of them too.</p>
<p>I guess I’ll just have to keep trying. Someone will be my friend eventually, right?</p>
<p>@caramelcorn: You WILL find a friend. I know I’m some random girl on a college website, but trust me when I say that you will find one. Join a club, sport, etc. It doesn’t matter. By the way you’re describing it, you’re friendly and outgoing, and we need more of those people. You’ll have a friend.
My suggestion is that instead of worrying about it and asking a bunch of nerds (no offense, but being on here makes you a nerd) about friendship, just forget about it, dgaf, and have fun! If you’re not so anxious and worrying, “Will he/she be my friend?” you’ll be more likely to relax and be yourself = make friends.</p>
<p>@SholtoPinn - Very well, sophomore. I can’t say much, I was one just months ago. I agree with the opinion that you haven’t found the right friend. Do you have siblings, perchance? However, I do agree that there are some people in high school who care about things that seem extremely trivial … but SOME can still be friends. Not everyone can be your dream best friend.</p>
<p>I must be opening a can of worms, but idiotic things like falling in love? Huh.</p>
<p>Anyways, every person is allowed his own opinion. I won’t pine.</p>
<p>Am I the only one here that does not think people who want new cars and watch the Jersey Shore are idots? Perhaps good people that like a few idiotic things, but I feel like there are too many kids on this forum that look down on average kids.</p>
<p>@eric, You are by no means the only one. I don’t watch JS but I sure as heck watch way worse (Family Guy, American Dad e.t.c), and I def want a new car. While it is possible that there are some people that truly don’t watch things like JS or don’t want a new car, I certainly believe that there are that many on CC; you just haven’t found many that talk about them :). </p>
<p>And also, those who never stop to smell the roses by the side of the road of life usually turn out to be miserable in the future so be happy and do what you love :D.</p>
<p>Do a sport or some club or something to meet a couple friends and then from there your circle will expand. It might take a while but eventually you’ll have a good group of friends. Ignore all the losers and bums on this site who say you don’t need friends. Their argument friends are detrimental in the long run, well, in fact it’s networking and friendship that can land you a job some day, not being a complete shut-in that does nothing but study to eventually earn a low-paying anti-social desk job doing something you hate.</p>
<p>Like most of the contributors above me have suggested, after school activities that pertain to your interest are the way to go. Being in a new environment with fewer relationships than you may have had before can be a very intimidating situation.</p>
<p>You said that you have to walk up to people and talk to them first - there is nothing wrong with that! That doesn’t mean that you’re uninteresting or that there is something wrong because people don’t approach you first. It is always important to be approachable, and you said that you are, stay that way. As you get older you’re going to find that making friends is not going to be as easy as it was in elementary school and middle school, most people won’t come up to you first so you have to be proactive and friendly.</p>
<p>Even if you end up not sticking with the first circle of friends you meet, that’s okay too. Building relationships takes time. Luckily you’re in high school now, so you’ll have more in common with the friends you make as you take more specialized classes. Remember to always associate yourself with people who uplift you and encourage you to become a better person. You need to enjoy being around them because of who they are and who you are. Your friends are the only family you get to choose.</p>
<p>@caramelcorn
I recently just came to a new high school, and didn’t know a ton of people. I mean, most people knew who I was (I went to this district for elementary school), but they hadn’t talked to me in four years.</p>
<p>I now have friends. Try to find other new kids, and hangout with them. Talk to people in your classes, and eventually you’ll make a few friends. Even if you make only one friend, chances are that person has a group of friends, and you can work your way into that person’s social group.</p>
<p>Sports teams are a great way to make friends. I’ve become pretty close to the people on my XC team, even though I’ve only known them for a few weeks. Also, go to dances or sporting events! I went to a football game the other night, and it was probably the most fun I’ve had in months! Be outgoing-- talk to people in your classes, say “hi” to people in the halls you’ve already become friendly with, and just get to know people. </p>
<p>Good luck, and I’m sure eventually you’ll make friends.</p>
<p>I’ll keep your advice in mind. Today I realized things are a lot better than I thought. People actually remember my name and are startig conversations now. I’m a lot less worried too so I guess that helps.</p>
<p>Get involved! Join clubs - try out for the play - find a place to volunteer. You will find people with common interests if you do these things and that will give you a basis for starting a friendship plus it will keep you busy so you will not be focused on being lonely!</p>
I’m more outgoing than most of them too.</p>
good luck!! Just don’t be afraid to meet new people…</p>