<p>Ive been in college for about 2 months now and I feel that I only have acquaintances that say hi to me if we end up walking passed one another. The problem is I dont really have anyone that would ask me to hang out outside of class. I started to get to know some people in my large lecture classes just because we sit generally in the same area, but I find it hard to develop these friendships. It doesnt help that Im quiet not too outgoing. If someone comes and talks to me I can have a normal conversation, but I find it hard to develop a friendship out of that. Does anyone have any advice on how to build those relationships?
Thanks!</p>
<p>You could ask if any of these people want to study together for upcoming tests or exams. Study together can then turn into getting coffee or pizza. Or you can turn the conversation to other things (movies, for example… mention that you are excited about an upcoming release, maybe they will be too and you can suggest seeing it as a group or something). </p>
<p>Are you living in a dorm? If so, be sure you do all the activities your hall/dorm does together. Leave your door open with some music playing if you are looking for company. Or check with hallmates to see if anyone wants to play cards in the evening.</p>
<p>Have you joined any clubs? Get involved with something you are interested in on campus. Consistently go to meetings, volunteer to help out with stuff, etc. </p>
<p>If you don’t have anyone to eat with, look for someone sitting alone and sit down. Strike up a conversation. I personally found that eating in the same place (or same rotation of places) in college was helpful in making connections. If you see someone you recognize from your classes, sit with them (even if they are with other friends).</p>
<p>Actual friendships are not instantaneously gained… it can take quite a while of going to meetings, study sessions, etc. before you break through into spending time in other ways. But the more contact you have with other people, the more likely it will happen.</p>
<p>I’m in the same boat. We are like the same person. Hah. I know how hard it can be. But, like the above said, it does take time. That’s what I keep telling myself at least. I keep saying that as long as people keep saying hi and we keep talking, the more that that person will remember me. It would help if I could give out a number, or get a number, because texting is much easier than talking to see if a person wants to go to dinner or something. </p>
<p>The best thing I can think of is before a test or something in a class, just be like, “Hey, do you want to get together and study for the test maybe?” If they say yes, just ask for their number. I have been waiting for the right moment to do that, it hasn’t come yet, but I think that is the first step. </p>
<p>Just wait. I just think back to high school and remember that it was almost the same way my freshman year of high school. I knew a lot of people, but couldn’t ask them to hang out. By the end of my Freshman year, I was hanging out with people. Basically, what I am trying to say for both of our sakes, is that it will come when the time is right. 
It’s best just to wait and work on building up the relationships with the acquaintances you have now.</p>
<p>Thanks to the both of you for giving me that advice! Im gonna try to stay patient with all this and hopefully I can muster up the confidence to ask someone to study before a test. Ive thought about doing that for my previous midterms, but I just couldnt pull myself together to go up and ask some people. I guess I just always assume they are going to say no because Im too quiet. And JoshK5 I read your problem also and that really sucks that you have such a horrible roommate. I would just keep bothering my RA until they move me to another room. I also read that all your friends are girls, which was similar to me in high school with the exception of one or two close guy friends. I dont know why I cant make good guy friends either.But thanks for the advice again and I hope your problem clears up too!</p>
<p>Hahah. Apparently we have a lot more in common than I thought. It’s uncanny. Yeah. I’m sure everything will clear up eventually. Thanks! Good luck! :)</p>
<p>Hey guys, I would appreciate if I can get some feedback on a post i’d made earlier today… it deals with some of the same things but i’m coming at this issue from a third year glance in college… </p>
<p>if someone can help me out, id appreciate it…</p>
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