<p>i know this must sound like a stupid question to you, but as an international student from a tiny, conservative city in Asia, i have no clue what people do in a party/how do you enjoy it...</p>
<p>since i'm coming to US as a freshman this coming september, I'd just like to get some tips on the parties/socialization life in US colleges.</p>
<p>here are my questions, sorry if they sound rediculous to you, but i really have no idea how things work here:</p>
<p>1) what do people do at a party? do they get drunk and have sex?
2) is alcohol mandatory?
3) is there a lot of dancing at parties? if so, what kind of music with what kind of dance?
4) i'm a girl. is there anything i should pay attention to when partying?
5) what's the normal frequency of party going? every weekend?
6) what are some useful skills at parties?
7) how about dating? is that equivalent of partying?</p>
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<li><p>talk, drink, dance, have sex, run from cops...</p></li>
<li><p>YES!!! lol... I really have no idea what you mean by "is alcohol mandatory" -- I mean...most parties are going to have alcohol there but that doesn't really mean you <em>have</em> to drink...</p></li>
<li><p>Yes, oftentimes people dance.... the type of music will vary, but it's usually freestyle dance styles to various styles of rock, pop, and hiphop music</p></li>
<li><p>Yes... your drink (date rape drugs are a bad thing, so if you leave your drink out and aren't really able to keep your eyes on it, it's best not to drink it later -- just get a new one in case someone has placed a drug in your drink), being alone with a drunk guy, etc.... basically, use common sense when you're partying. If something seems like it could be dangerous, assume it is until you know otherwise. I'm not really sure how much/little you have in the way of experience when it comes to partying, etc. so I am playing it safe, but basically you should just use caution and realize that as a young woman, you are vulnerable at a party (especially when everyone else is drunk, as are you, and so does not protect you or themselves) and bad things can happen to drunk people....</p></li>
<li><p>Depends on the person, school, etc...</p></li>
<li><p>umm... flirting, dancing, conversational skills, a wide range of interests, humor, etc.</p></li>
<li><p>No... dating and partying are two totally different things, although they can certainly intersect...</p></li>
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<p>1) what do people do at a party? do they get drunk and have sex?
NO! ABSOLUTELY NOT! We American teenagers are all very prudish, believe that sex is the worst possible sin, attend only tea parties, believe alcohol is the devil in liquid form, and ALWAYS wear bow ties.
2) is alcohol mandatory?
See question 1.
3) is there a lot of dancing at parties? if so, what kind of music with what kind of dance?
Only classical. Every once in a while we'll get a French horn player to liven up the tea party.
4) i'm a girl. is there anything i should pay attention to when partying?
Victorian style dress is a must.
5) what's the normal frequency of party going? every weekend?
Every quiet afternoon at the tea house.
6) what are some useful skills at parties?
Knowing how to talk with a realistic sounding British accent.
7) how about dating? is that equivalent of partying?
We only have pre-arranged marriages. There is no dating. Marriage is done purely for the purpose of continuing the species. </p>
<p>Hope that helps.</p>
<p>I'm sorry...I had to...I just couldn't resist....</p>
<p>What's my real advice? Use common sense, don't randomly have sex, don't drink (if you must, do it in moderation), and know there are other things to do than go to drinking parties.... >_></p>
<p>1) what do people do at a party? do they get drunk and have sex?
People definitely get drunk, but unless you're going to an orgy or something, most people don't just have sex in the middle of the room.</p>
<p>2) is alcohol mandatory?
Nope. If you don't want to drink, be the Designated Driver. Don't let anyone force you to drink, and KNOW YOUR LIMITS if you are going to drink.</p>
<p>3) is there a lot of dancing at parties? if so, what kind of music with what kind of dance?
I'm not even going to try and explain the type of dancing that goes on...this is one you'll just have to see for yourself.</p>
<p>4) i'm a girl. is there anything i should pay attention to when partying? Do not let anyone else fix you a drink. Fix and pour it yourself. Keep your hand over the mouth of it when you walk. If you put it down and walk away from it, NEVER pick it back up and drink from it. Even if you're only gone for 5 minutes.</p>
<p>Keep a girlfriend or two with you at parties and promise to look out for one another...don't leave without all of the girls present. Don't ever walk anywhere by yourself at night.</p>
<p>5) what's the normal frequency of party going? every weekend?
This is really up to you.</p>
<p>6) what are some useful skills at parties?
...Good social skills?</p>
<p>7) how about dating? is that equivalent of partying?
NO. In fact, don't go looking for a long-term relationship at a party, ever. It won't happen...most likely the guy's just looking to "get in there", if you catch my drift.</p>
<p>1) what do people do at a party? do they get drunk and have sex? Depends what type of people you're around. Different social types party in different ways.
2) is alcohol mandatory? I doubt anyone is going to force a tube down your throat and pour in a six pack.
3) is there a lot of dancing at parties? if so, what kind of music with what kind of dance? Once again, depends what type of people you're with. One group may like rock, another group may like rap, and another...polka.
4) i'm a girl. is there anything i should pay attention to when partying? Watch your drink as if your life depends on it.
5) what's the normal frequency of party going? every weekend? Whenever you feel like going.
6) what are some useful skills at parties? ...being social?
7) how about dating? is that equivalent of partying? No.</p>
<p>No offense is intended, but these questions are kind of silly. Common sense could of provided the answers to several of them.</p>
<p>4) i'm a girl. is there anything i should pay attention to when partying?
Watch your drink as if your life depends on it. <--Because it just might! sad times we live in in that respect!</p>
<p>1) what do people do at a party? do they get drunk and have sex?
Most don't, but if you're good with women, you can hook up with one. At parties, people drink, play drinking games, talk (this usually happens with small groups of people as the party divides), play beer pong/pool/darts/whatever. Some people go outside and do crazy stuff... 2) is alcohol mandatory? Every party that I've been to has had alcohol and usually everyone is drinking, but not always. I've been to parties where people don't drink for religious reasons, personal preference, etc. 3) is there a lot of dancing at parties? if so, what kind of music with what kind of dance? There isn't much dancing at the parties that I go to. 4) i'm a girl. is there anything i should pay attention to when partying? Not really. Maybe someone putting something in your drink. My sister was date raped at a University party (they put a drug into your drink to make you pass out). But she didn't exactly hang out with the best crowd... I've never heard of this happening to anyone else. 5) what's the normal frequency of party going? every weekend? If you live on campus, that's the norm. If not, probably not as frequent. 6) what are some useful skills at parties? Any basic social skills... being able to tell stories, being able to laugh and make people laugh... but as a girl, it doesn't matter as much. Guys will go out of their way to talk to you. 7) how about dating? is that equivalent of partying? No, lol. Dating is a relationship with a single person. Partying is just a get-together that people organize on weekends in order to drink and have fun. No intimate actions are necessary.</p>
<p>1) what do people do at a party? do they get drunk and have sex?
They drink, talk, play drinking games games, hook up. Depends on how crazy the party is, but generally you won't have sex in the middle of the party.
2) is alcohol mandatory?
No, but having some (not too much) in you makes it more fun. In my experience, nobody looks down upon you or even cares if you just drink coke or whatever else they have in addition to the booze.
3) is there a lot of dancing at parties? if so, what kind of music with what kind of dance?
Club pop hip-hop. If there's dancing, then its mostly just a few girls doing 'seductive' dances either for guys or trying to be funny, but I haven't really seen much dancing at parties. If you go clubbing, that's a different story.
4) i'm a girl. is there anything i should pay attention to when partying?
Don't drink so much you don't have control of your own actions, for obvious reasons. It's always a good policy, but its especially important for girls. A corollary to that is to know your limits. On that same note, if you put your drink down (whether it be alcoholic or otherwise) and then leave it out of sight, make yourself a new one. Most parties don't have date rapists, but you're better safe than sorry.<br>
5) what's the normal frequency of party going? every weekend?
Depends on the culture of the university, depends on an individual's commitment to school when that and partying conflict. Some people go and party during the week, some party just on the weekends.
6) what are some useful skills at parties?
Not being awkward. Have something interesting, light, and fun to talk about.
7) how about dating? is that equivalent of partying? No.</p>